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  1. MonicaPz added a post in a topic New training program for gender affirming surgery in Philadelphia   

    Dear Chrissy and Mike,
    This should have happened a LONG TIME AGO . . .
    Your friend,
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  2. MonicaPz added a post in a topic TIME: "Transgender Men See Sexism From Both Sides"   

    Dear Mike and Emma,
    Read the article and watched the video and was deeply moved.  Please, EVERYONE, please read and watch!
    Your friend,
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  3. Chrissy added a post in a topic New training program for gender affirming surgery in Philadelphia   

    She does both, so I assume the program covers both 
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  4. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic New training program for gender affirming surgery in Philadelphia   

    This is cool.   I wonder if the program will benefit both men and women?
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  5. Chrissy added a topic in Transgender Health Care   

    New training program for gender affirming surgery in Philadelphia
    This program is being started by Dr. Kathy Timer, who did my gender affirming surgery. She and her staff are really great, excited to see that she is doing this!
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  6. Lori added a comment on a blog entry Q&A: MVP Karen Payne Talks With Us About Being A Transgender Woman In Tech   

    This story is posted on the TGGuide Facebook page, along with a link to a article. Congrats Karen! 
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  7. KarenPayne added a blog entry in Karen's thoughts   

    Q&A: MVP Karen Payne Talks With Us About Being A Transgender Woman In Tech
    Several years ago I was asked to speak at Microsoft on "Diversity and Inclusion in the workplace". They wanted my perspective as a Microsoft MVP (Most Valued Professional) being transgender in the tech field. Only a handful at Microsoft knew I was transgender when I would meet with them but my lead at Microsoft asked me to participate and I said yet. From that I did the Diversion and Inclusion speech with a panel which then moved to me being interviewed (which was the second time, first time was the year prior for women in tech).
    So several weeks ago I was asked to do a write up for a Microsoft blog (which in the first paragraph has a link to another article for the New York Times). Never heard back from them but instead rec'd a tweet from another female MVP saying I should change my Twitter handle from (my old identity) of kevininstructor to kareninstructor. Learned that kareninstructor was taken (strange, may be I created it and forgot about it, will have to see) so I had to pick another one (ended up being a better selection). I then noticed that group Twitter account was cc'd so I went there and found a link to my blog entry. Now in all fairness I belong to the group and if I had checked it out would had know the blog was posted so fair is fair.
    Q&A: MVP Karen Payne Talks With Us About Being A Transgender Woman In Tech  
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  8. olcharlie added a post in a topic Judge blocks enforcement of Trump's transgender military ban   

    In transgender ruling, another judge finds Trump credibility gap
     By Derek Hawkins November 22 at 6:34 AMMore here: 
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  9. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Judge blocks enforcement of Trump's transgender military ban   

    UPDATE --
    November 21, 2017
    "In ruling that the ban likely violates the federal constitution, the court found noted that “A capricious, arbitrary, and unqualified tweet of new policy does not trump the methodical and systematic review by military stakeholders qualified to understand the ramifications of policy changes.”"
    Federal Court Blocks All Aspects of Trump’s Transgender Military Ban
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  10. Emma added a post in a topic TIME: "Transgender Men See Sexism From Both Sides"   

    Yes, I fully understand the feeling of not belonging. I’ve not felt that way with men. It sucks, that feeling. Very self-conscious, trying to act a role that doesn’t quite fit.
    We both belong here and among our real friends who understand and love us authentically as our authentic selves.
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  11. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Today is Transgender Day of Remembrance Day   

    Anyone notice how in several incidents, the suspects (if/when found) were charged with only second-degree murder?  
    From the DailyBeast article ---The story about a woman who was murdered, and then her body burned, REALLY got me, "surveillance video led police to arrest 45-year-old Michael Davis and charge him with second-degree murder and first-degree arson. As the Journal noted, police investigators determined that there had been a “personal relationship” between the alleged killer and the transgender woman."
    It's as if the arson is considered the more heinous of the two crimes!!
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  12. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic TIME: "Transgender Men See Sexism From Both Sides"   

    So true nature is unkind to both - trans women get the better genitals if they opt for GCS, and of course they don't have to deal with scars on their chests.  On the flip side of that coin, though we're missing the right plumming... many trans men are rarely if ever noticed as anything but men.
    I didn't mean to come off as ungrateful - I am glad to see more in the media about trans men.  And it's funny you mention that "sisterhood."  I've always known it existed - I just never understood it.  I'm not even sure I really know what it feels like or what the requirements are.  I do know, however, that any female past the age of the onset of puberty seems to sense that I don't belong.  It's very unsettling.
    Best wishes to you also for a happy T-day... 
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  13. Emma added a post in a topic TIME: "Transgender Men See Sexism From Both Sides"   

    It's high time for all of these pubs to give face time to trans men. As far as their not giving their due to trans women in the article I wasn't perturbed since the article was focused on men. I think it's much better known that trans women can experience quite a shock at how they are treated by society as women. Thus far I haven't felt it much since I never felt like I really filled the space as a man anyway. And I'm loving how nice women are in general to me. It's like being part of a sisterhood that I didn't know existed and I don't miss any brotherhood that simply doesn't exist, at least not at all in the same way.
    Did you also watch the video they have in the article (at the top)? I liked that, too. I'm envious that trans men seem to be able to blend into society (seemingly) much easier than trans women. If you've ever undergone electrolysis, man, you'd know what I mean. Oh, and then there is the voice work I'm doing! But I'm nonetheless pretty happy these days.
    Have a wonderful Thanksgiving! 
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  14. Emma added a comment on a blog entry Not for the Faint of Heart   

    Hi Michelle,
    I'm glad you liked the list and will definitely look at your suggestions. My wife and I also read all three of the Girl with Dragon series and loved them! So sorry that the author is gone, now.
    I want to add "The Martian" to the list. It was a very good movie and an amazing book, especially for a first novel. That said, so is "The Kite Runner"! You must read them both if you haven't already. 
    I've read Michael Connelly's books and enjoyed them but these days I'm less satisfied with "genre fiction" or maybe I'm getting more into "chick lit" go figure. I have enjoyed John Grisham's books but here again they're getting long in the tooth. 
    I loved James Michener's books, especially "The Source" which is a classic as far as I'm concerned. 
    No, I haven't gone to the movies for maybe a year. No one to go with and kinda busy... 
    See you!
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  15. olcharlie added a topic in Transgender Rights & Political Activism   

    Today is Transgender Day of Remembrance Day
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  16. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic TIME: "Transgender Men See Sexism From Both Sides"   

    It's nice that TIME saw fit to give some face time to men.
    Ironically, I find that the sexism is still blaringly obvious in that, the article highlights how society treats a person once they are perceived as male.   Just under the surface, no matter how progressive this society prefers to claim it is, men are still more important than women.  Makes me wonder if the author of that piece even realized or entertained the idea that trans woman are also subjected to a sexually cultural change, in that they are no longer treated as men, and therefore are no longer afforded "male privilege."  
    Or if it would even have mattered.  After all, they're only women...
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  17. MichelleLea added a comment on a blog entry Not for the Faint of Heart   

    Wow! Emma, you really delivered. I have read some on your list, but I am appreciative of your suggestions. Some I need to re-read: Man's Search for Meaning.  
    Did you ever get into The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo and the two books that followed? My wife and I both plowed through them. I'm afraid I find Ayn Rand a little too preachy for me. I know where she's coming from, but I'm not a fan of her philosophy. I read  Grapes of Wrath in an American fiction course I took. A monumental work to be sure. If you haven't already, you should read Zora Neale Hurston's Their Eyes Were Watching God which I thought was a gem--also in the American fiction class.
    If your are into articles at all, I recommend the Flipboard app for your phone or tablet. You can select almost any topic under the sun, and it will bring you the current articles on that topic. Among other things, I have chosen news, politics, physics, LGBTQ issues, space, mindfullness,...I read a lot of really neat stuff this way. I read a lot of mysteries and thrillers too just for fun. Michael Connelly is good as is David Baldacci. A litle more off-beat is James Lee Burke with his flawed detective in Louisiana. I think I've read just about everything he has written. I started reading one of Eco's books, but never really got off the ground. I am halfway through War and Peace . I suppose I will finish it eventually.
    Anyway, great sharing. I want to see  Professor Marston and the Wonder Women. Have you seen it yet? Talk again soon.
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  18. Emma added a comment on a blog entry Not for the Faint of Heart   

    Hi Michelle,
    Always happy to talk about books! Around my neighborhood are these little weather-proof glass-door kiosks where residents can leave books they're done with and pick up others that interest them. Yesterday I picked up "The September Society" by Charles Finch and I'm one chapter into it. It has many great blurbs on the front and back covers so I'm hopeful it will be a fun read.
    Some possible books that come to mind are:
    "House of Sand and Fog" It was turned into a movie that was excellent; the book is even better of course.
    "The Name of the Rose" Also a movie that wasn't so good but I've read it at least twice, I loved it so much. Unfortunately I've tried all of Umberto Eco's other books and was always disappointed. Some weeks ago I found a Seattle bookstore that's acclaimed for its mystery books. I went there to find "another" Name of the Rose. The owner told me that there is no other book as good as that one!
    "Girl With a Pearl Earring" Another movie! Excellent, excellent historical novel.
    "The Grapes of Wrath" and any other book by John Steinbeck.
    "Stranger in a Strange Land" is a very interesting sci-fi book and is where the word "grok" came from. "I Will Fear No Evil" - also by Heinlein has a trans character!
    "The Book Thief" was excellent.
    "The Eye of the Needle"... wow!
    "Flight of Passage" is a very fun autobiographical account of two NY boys who were the youngest to fly a plane from NY to California. Very fun read.
    "Rocket Boys" (aka "October Sky") is a wonderful autobiography about a high school boy who earns his way out of a dreary coal mining existence into a professional career.
    "Soul of a New Machine" and any other book by Tracy Kidder.
    Gosh, I'd better stop now. If you don't find what you're looking for here, please send genres or titles of books you've enjoyed that I can use to offer other ideas.
    Edit 1: Okay, here's some more:
    "The Gifts of Imperfection" by Brene Brown. Really helped me, as all of her books have.
    "The Artist's Way" by Julia Cameron. You don't have to be an artist (but we all are) to enjoy her taking you by the hand. Doing your Morning Pages can be very cathartic.
    "The Road" Cormac McCarthy: very spooky and surreal view of the future.
    "Wild" and "Tiny Beautiful Things" by Cheryl Strayed. I'm a huge fan of her, including her podcasts. She is so wise and inspirational!
    Edit 2: Still more!
    "Lonesome Dove" What an amazing adventure.
    "Atlas Shrugged" 
    "Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience"
    "Man's Search for Meaning" Viktor Frankl: a must-read
    "The Hunt for Red October"
    "Red Storm Rising"
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  19. Emma added a topic in Transgender News & Happenings   

    TIME: "Transgender Men See Sexism From Both Sides"
    Very interesting article from TIME magazine: 
    "Over the last three years, transgender awareness has exploded. From Orange is the New Black to Transparent, from Janet Mock to Caitlyn Jenner, America has a growing fascination with the lives of transgender people, most recently in light of recent debates over controversial bathroom laws. But the spotlight on trans issues has mostly been focused on transgender women, and transgender men have been largely left out of the narrative. ...
    "Yet experiences of trans men can provide a unique window into how gender functions in American society. In the last few months, I’ve interviewed nearly two dozen trans men and activists about work, relationships and family. Over and over again, men who were raised and socialized as female described all the ways they were treated differently as soon as the world perceived them as male. They gained professional respect, but lost intimacy. They exuded authority, but caused fear. From courtrooms to playgrounds to prisons to train stations, at work and at home, with friends and alone, trans men reiterated how fundamentally different it is to experience the world as a man."
    Transgender Men See Sexism From Both Sides
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  20. MichelleLea added a comment on a blog entry Not for the Faint of Heart   

    Thanks, Emma, We are on the same page.​ Please let me know what you are currently reading. I've gotten to be a news junkie, but I need some good literature as well.
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  21. Emma added a comment on a blog entry Not for the Faint of Heart   

    Chat has never really appealed to me, I must say. I like these “conversations” more. In the chat rooms I feel compelled to rapidly respond. Here, though, I can be a bit more thoughtful and long winded! So yes, let’s dive into deeper subjects!
    As for AFLAC, hey, you won your first deal! Good for you. The next will have challenges, sure, but you’re learning and making real progress, loading your funnel, and moving them toward closure.
    You go, girl!
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  22. MichelleLea added a blog entry in Random thoughts and ideas   

    Not for the Faint of Heart
    Here are some more tales from your blogging road warrior. Anyone who has been in sales knows that it is a roller coaster with highs and lows coming almost hourly. This week was no different.
    I started early Monday morning before our 9:00 meeting and set one appointment right away. It was to be my last of the week. I struggled Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday doing follow-ups and breaking new territory--for me anyway. Nada. I can't say it was a total loss because I did uncover some promising businesses that will warrant a call back next week. But for the most part, it was heavy slogging either not being able to see the decision maker, or getting a flat out no, or finding out that the company already had AFLAC or a competitor. (Note: We don't replace existing policies.  We provide coverage where none exists) So it was a matter of carrying on believing that it would work out eventually.
    As I mentioned previously, I had four appointments on Thursday to open accounts. The first one went very well, and the owner we dealt with ending up buying just about every policy we presented to her. Unfortunately, her husband was not present. More on that later. The next stop, not quite as well. Our owner here is getting married this month and has a lot on her mind besides opening an account with AFLAC. Still my District Service Coordinator (DSC) persevered and we did establish a group for the company. Enrollments will wait until the middle of December, after the wedding. Our next one required some more deliberation and consultation with outside partners, so no group set up. I think it will still fly eventually. And there was a glitch in our last meeting in that Rich (DSC) had arranged for a Spanish speaker to give a presentation to employees of a pre-school, but he bailed at the last moment, and no replacement was available. Addtionally, the owner of the pre-school was not available so we wouldn't be able to move forward anyway. We'll reschedule. Rich does not have high hopes for this one. We met with one other potential client later that afternoon, however, and that shows some promise.
    So, here it is Friday morning, and Rich is up early and wants to meet me to wrap up the first client. Our owner, Sophia, is a real gem. She is sharp and a straight shooter. But, the husband wanted to be involved, so we had to wait for him to show up which took most of the morning. Rich had to re-sell everything again, but in the end it was a go with two polices yet to be decided. It was still a good sale, especially for a small company, and the owners made smart choices on their coverage. Rich and I came back to my house to work on the computer. We finally got the other employees enrolled and the account was transmitted to AFLAC.  It was a little messy, but we got her done. Rich says you always remember the first one. So it ended well, and I'll get a nice commission check by Tuesday plus an additional $150 bonus for making my fast start level and I also get free  business cards now. Now that was fun. I have an ambitious goal to  open 10 new accounts by the end of the year. With what I have in the pipeline, that is not out of the question. We'll see. I don't want to get overly excited or optimistic, but I also want to enjoy the moment. I did work for it after all.
    More and more, I think my involvement with TG Guide is going to be right here. As I have previously alluded to, the chatroom has gotten to be more of a chore for me. I hate to say that and maybe I'm being selfish, but the conversations have gotten so repetitive, and sometimes it's difficult to even get anyone to say anything. I still like to dress, and I am glad there are places where you can go and be yourself, but it's not where my head is at right now. I don't need to be told what I need to do to be feminine. I can do that well on my own, thank you. What I would like is stimulating conversation on a variety of topics. Not really into tweeting though; that seems to get nasty at times. So I'll just hang out here. This works for me  Until next time...
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  23. Emma added a comment on a blog entry the ocean or the beach   

    ​I don't find it so much as shameful but transition is a lot of work that can be daunting at times. Like in a half hour I'm headed to the electrologist to start removing the hair above my upper lip. I'm told that hurts a lot so first I will see a dentist (next door) who's going to inject novocaine into the area. I have also been told that this will all take many visits. 
    But the effort seems reduced sometimes, like these days I don't experience much reluctance to just go out and about presenting as my authentic self. Psychologists once ran an experiment where they had people look up from the base of a hill to guess how hard it would be to hike up it. For one group they had them wear a 40-pound load on their back, and the other had no extra load. The 40-pounders assumed that the hill would be much harder to climb than those without the weight. I think I am finding that the load of my transition is lightening with each step I take. 
    ​I'm very glad to hear that you have a therapist. You are lucky to have one. And indeed, there is always so much that we don't expect. That's why they call life a journey and not a destination! We learn as we go... :-)
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  24. Kitrah added a comment on a blog entry the ocean or the beach   

    Looking back i still rememer looking in the mirror in my early 20s. I knew it then. I chose to deny it because of all the stress i was under and conditioning. so sometime u cant just seem to take that step. and then a lot of time passes and in my case tramatic events happen that force this all to surface to deal with. early in my therapy i just rememer saying a lot, if i dont do this now, its going end up being another 10 year before i have curage to try again. i rememer looking back and wishing it was then and not now. how different thing would be but then i remmer what would it be like to wait another 10. the time for this all was worst time for me. no friends no support no family no job. o need to do this for myself or is was going be the next step in self destruction. am i going make it another 10 years or 5 years? 
    i had tests done and they were showing no tetosterone and high levels of estrogen and progesteron. so i just got tired of keeping deny what evidence was showing me and what others were perceiving as being a lie. but i real tried with tetosterone, i did for 3 mo. and i knew it wasnt going complete me but take me further into downard spiral of depression and self hate. it strange how much this ideas and programing had just been conditioned in me to avoid and continue lying to fit into this male mold. 
    i can feel this surface cracking and this force within me continue to grow. i started look back through my timeline, how is this possible for me to block out and deny reality to point where i was going to bankrupt myself to cover up a truth. how long was i going to pay this emotional self blackmail? why was i going to do it for. i couldnt. when i committed to hormones i knew i was commiting to future girl. that who i was then was not going to be who i would become. thing will continue to change until this essence or spirit i am was allow to mirror in body. i think because my belief set, it allow me to accept some things as means to move beyond.
    with my own meta morposis i can see the link to butterfly. it leave one stage of life and enter another. it never thinking as butterfly as was caterpillar, only it maybe rememer srange tie when it move into darkness and all this changes happen as is body rewrite then it come out different creature entire. it is so profound this that looking at it no longer can see was before. only those then know what it was. so nature do have this ability and much magics.
    my current shame in this is having to go thru this process. having to give up one gender for another. its much to process. its much to relearn. and some people will say they will offer support to the trangender community at a distance because it make them feel special to help the less fortunate when i think what we really want is just equality and fair tratement. Is easy when u have this things given to u to supress certain groups because u cannot unerstand them. i am so often classified into category that arent even who i am. like i have to be this freak when i have done what i can over years to blend into society. im not going continue punish myself for who i am. its gone on for to long and that one of the rason why im so distance from people. im scare of people really. 
    i have continue see my therapist since the beginning of this. ive been lucky for that. maybe talking about this more help me in some way. its help me to unerstand a lot about myself and where im wanting to be and what i want to expect but theres so much i didnt expect before i started.
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  25. Lori added a comment on a blog entry the ocean or the beach   

    I recall that during transition, when I needed new friends, I had a theory that worked out pretty well. If I met just one new friend, they would usually lead me to additional friends.  There were plenty of people I didn't feel I had anything in common with or just didn't care to have as friends, so I was still pretty selective about friends. But every now and then I'd make a new friend and that usually opened to door to additional social experiences and friendships with their circle of friends. By the time I had completed transition I had a circle of trusted friends. 
    Another random memory just popped in my mind. I didn't come out to everyone. I more or less just moved on, but I did tell a few closest friends and family of my transition. One thing that stood out was that it was often very surprising who would drift away after I told them and who would emerge as a new solid friend. Sometimes the closest friends from before transition couldn't handle it so they drifted away. Other, more casual friends, would sometimes step up to become a strong part of the support network. 
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