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  1. MichelleLea added a comment on a blog entry The Weeks Ahead   

    Thanks, Emma. It seems that the people who buy our products are especially nice themselves and care about their employees.I will be happy to have them as clients. It looks like Thursday is the big day as we are lined up to open four accounts. So far, so good.
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  2. Emma added a comment on a blog entry The Weeks Ahead   

    Me too, MichelleLea, happy birthday. 
    So, you were born in ‘42? What a time to grow up. I suppose you don’t have any memories of WW2 people coming home and resettling. But then there was the Korean War, and Vietnam, of course. That’s a lot of wars, too many. 
    I was born in ‘56 and I well remember Vietnam, with Walter Cronkite reporting each night. I just missed being drafted which was quite fortunate of course. 
    So much has changed mostly for the better since then, especially as regards being transgender. I surreptitiously read everything I happened across, mostly about Christine Jorgensen. But also about transvestites, which always sounded like some kind of nasty thing, like a parasite. 
    Ah well, better late than never. I’m glad you found us, and enjoy yourself in the chat room. It does feel so great to just be yourself, doesn’t it. 
    Good luck this week. Yours is an especially tough sales job. Not only cold calling and all that but also selling a solution to a need that most would prefer to ignore or procrastinate. So much of the job is about selling yourself, bonding and connecting with people so they trust and want to do business with you. It takes a special talent and kind of person and I feel you’re going to do very well.
    Emma
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  3. Lori added a comment on a blog entry The Weeks Ahead   

    Happy belated birthday​ MichelleLea! ​​ 
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  4. MichelleLea added a blog entry in Random thoughts and ideas   

    The Weeks Ahead
    I'm going to ramble tonight which is what I usually do anyway. My 75th birthday on Friday passed quietly as expected. Funny that I got more congratulations from my neighbors and co-workers than my own family. My sister sent me a short text--no card this year; and I didn't even hear from my brother. One daughter texted that a late card was coming--she is always late; the other called a day later. My erstwhile son didn't bother either, but we have only recently re-established communication so maybe that's not surprising. A few congrats and likes on Facebook and Linkedin. Another day in the life.
    I did reconnect with my chatroom friends. I haven't been dressing as much and don't feel right about entering the chatroom en homme. Also, it has been late when I finally get finished with all my paperwork and organizing that I'm not up to spending a lot of time there. After a full day, I am ready for bed. (I have been tempted to use "just" so many times. I think I am getting better at eliminating it from my usage.)
    As I have mentioned previously, I have several potential account openings this week. The appointments have been set up, and we are ready to open my first business accounts. I have quite a few things in the pipeline now, so I am hopeful that at least some will happen. I am doing this for the money of course--that's why you get into sales, after all--but even more importantly for me, I am trying to prove to myself that I can do it. I have tried numerous times before, and while I have not been a total failure, I have not set the world on fire either. This feels different in that I am able to give it my all, and even more importantly, I am not desperate for the money--eventually, maybe--but not for quite a while. So, what will be, will be as the song says. My expectations are moderate. I think my sales coordinator is more optimistic. He is now counting on my to make his district quota for new account openings. 
    Then with that, I have to get my dogs to the groomer on Tuesday morning. I have my monthly eye injection on Wednesday afternoon followed my the Comcast tech coming to install a new internet for me. Friday, I've been invited to a Thanksgiving lunch at my previous employer, PACE Center of Girls. Busy indeed.
    BTW, I did get dressed tonight for a short visit--skirt and blouse and a pearl necklace. Simple.
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  5. MichelleLea added a comment on a blog entry If you are transgender you can run but you can't hide   

    Hi Kimmi, 
    I don't know that it's ever too late. It's a tragedy that we live in a society that condemns people for being who they are. I'm CD myself and only now at age 75 and widowed am I able to dress freely--in the house anyway. ​Maybe you will still have the chance to be the woman you are. You still sound like a lovely person no matter what.
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  6. Lori added a comment on a blog entry If you are transgender you can run but you can't hide   

    I can relate to much of what you're saying. I think most of us can. We've tried to fight against our inner identity, and failed. It won't go away. For me, it was all-consuming. 
    I'm glad you're here now, ready to embrace and enjoy the integration of your whole being. Wishing you all the best in your journey. 
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  7. Kimberlyann added a blog entry in Kevin (Kimberlyann(Kimmi) Marie)   

    If you are transgender you can run but you can't hide
    i remember when i first realized that i wasn't like my brothers, that i was like my sisters. it seemed like a delicious secret  but .it didn't take too long for that delcious secret to become a nightmare. By age 5 i prayed that God would make me a girl (i still do). From age 8 until i was18 i dressed in my sister's clothes daily. It always felt soo right to be wearing girl clothes and always i felt calm, the only time in my days when i did feel calm. Until was 11 i thought that i was the only one like me. At age 11 I read about Jan Morris and for the first time i thought that maybe i wasn't alone.
    When i turned 18 the impossibility of being me was overwhelming, everyday all day i would see other girls and ladies and feel the pain of not being able to be openly like them. i became angry at being trans and even hating me being me. In the next years i ran from me fell in love, got married had 4 children earned 2 degrees all the while hating the best part of me and always when i would pause i would feel the same pain of not being me only every day every year the pain grew worse, it still does. 
    For those of you who are young and hesitating to transition please do whatever it takes to transition. You can run from being trans but it won'ty go away. YOU CAN"T RUN FROM THE BEST PART OF YOURSELF no matter how hard you run or how faryou run. Please don't be cowardly like me and find yourself at 59 years of age hurting soo badly because you need to be the woman you were born to be. May we all love the person we are and be willing to do what it takes to be true to ourselves everyday of our lives. i fear that for me it probably is too late but there are some wonderful things that have happened to me. My maternal instinct makes me an outstanding special educator and i now have grown to love the girl i am.
     
    To any who might be reading this, please know that you and i are friends whom i haven't met yet. i will love you forever.
     
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  8. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Trans Women Storming the Political Arena   

    I'm not sure how or why the links were the same for all three women in my update above... but I've fixed them. 
    And while I'm at it, I hate to say anything to over-shadow the wins of people from our community...  but, I was a tad disappointed that these accomplishments didn't seem to get much coverage in mainstream news.  Talkshow hosts sure jumped on it though... they thoroughly enjoyed that karma jumped up and bit many haters in the posterior!
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  9. Lori added a post in a topic Transgender News Channel   

    Cool! Thank you. I'm still messing around with things. Going to add a news channel tab at TGGuide.com and synching Facebook and Twitter. It's a work in progress.
    More updates and changes coming very soon! 
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  10. Emma added a post in a topic Trans Women Storming the Political Arena   

    Wow! Yahoo!!!
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  11. MichelleLea added a comment on a blog entry "Transition"   

    I think that it is good that you are examining the word "Transition" and any other terms in use in the trans community. Language is so important in that it defines who we are and how we and the world see ourselves. I believe that language will evolve as the trans community receives greater acceptance. People in general still have a hard time differentiating between gender and sex .
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  12. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Transgender News Channel   

    ​I've added this link to the "General" links on the chat Resources List... 
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  13. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Trans Women Storming the Political Arena   

    UPDATE -
    Three more trans women have snagged elected positions:
    Raven Matherne - Stamford's Board of Representatives
    Stephe Koontz - Doraville, GA City Council
    Lisa Middleton - Palm Springs, CA City Council
     
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  14. Lori added a post in a topic Transgender News Channel   

    Yes, good idea about the Youtube channel. Youtube has become the 2nd largest site in the world for search queries, so it is very important for us in the long-term. It is definitely in the plans once we build up the Facebook and Twitter channels. I have even purchased some video equipment and editing software for building out the Youtube channel. Thank you for the feedback and your offer. I'll keep this in mind as we proceed. 
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  15. Emma added a comment on a blog entry "Transition"   

    Interesting, Chrissy, thanks. For me, I’m less concerned with defining where I’m transitioning “from” and more interested in the “to.” Also, in my mind I’m not even 100% sure of what I’m going to be when I get there. A transgender woman, yes, but I think I’m already there now as I’m always presenting as female now although have only been on HRT for two months.
    In general use by cis people I believe that they also have varying opinions of the from and to. But all understand that it is a transition, and it’s a big thing.
    All that said, I agree with your concerns about “CGHT.” That does feel loaded and potentially stigmatizing. 
    My own issue with “transition” is that it seems to imply something that is over and done at some point, like I should aim for something. I’m not, though. I’m simply taking steps, pretty much one at a time, like stepping stones across a river.
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  16. cross2play added a post in a topic Starting a Cross dressing / transgenders support grp here in Toronto   

    Hello everyone ? Update on the status, I have initiated 1 on 1 counseling and sessions live video streaming on my YouNow.com/ShazyJeo live broadcast to help you with whatever you need .  However I am live on stream on ONLY 2 days around 5pm to 10pm in winter sessions, summer will change.  Also I go online live broadcast for minimum of 45 minutes only twice per week.  If you like further information please create a account on YouNow.com/ShazyJeo and fan myself OR check my 24/7 Twitter feed account @Shaz0067 (Shazy Jeo PK ) .  My YouTube videos will not have links for above, everything is here to contact me.  Once you see me say hi to me and let me know you coming from tgguide as there many viewers. Thanks 
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  17. cross2play added a post in a topic Transgender News Channel   

    This is good there is also YouTube channel videos and other means of operating a media broadcast medium of such an important topic.  I run several YouTube channels. If anyone has questions or concerns of promotion or collaboration please contact me.
     
    Visit on YouTube channel Shazy Jeo videos 
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  18. Lori added a post in a topic Trans Men Storming the Political Arena   

    Yes, I learned about Tyler James Titus earilier today and found his Facebook page at  https://www.facebook.com/TylerJames1984
    Stop by and give him a like if you're on Facebook.  
    I wasn't aware of Phillippe Cunningham, so thank you for sharing. 
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  19. Emma added a post in a topic Trans Men Storming the Political Arena   

    AWESOME!!!
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  20. UsernameOptional added a topic in Transgender News & Happenings   

    Trans Men Storming the Political Arena
    Last night, in the thread "Trans Women Storming the Political Arena," I mentioned that there was a trans man running for a seat in Minneapolis also - the same City where Andrea Jenkins just won.  Phillippe Cunningham, a former staffer to the mayor and teacher, has won Ward 4, putting two trans people on Minneapolis' 13 seat City Council.
    Meanwhile, in Pennsylvania another trans man has won a position on the Erie Public School Board.  Tyler James Titus, an openly transgender man and clinical therapist, ran for and won one of four open seats on the board.
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  21. Chrissy added a blog entry in On Being...Me   

    "Transition"
    Hi all,
    So I wanted to throw this out for discussion - I've been thinking recently about the term "transition" as it relates to the trans community. For starters, I hope nothing that I say here will suggest that I think everyone needs to use the same terminology, particularly for their own experience and journey - it's our story, it's our terminology!
    But in a broader perspective, I have some concerns about the term "transition."  Transition is defined as "the process or a period of changing from one state or condition to another." Put simply, my fear of it's general use, with respect to trans-identified people, is that it perpetuates the narrative of being born X and "transitioning" to Y. In my view, I was NOT a man who transitioned to a woman, I was born a woman with some wrong parts. My "transition" therefore was essentially a medical correction along with a change in my personal presentation.
    And of course that does reflect a transition, so the word works. The problem is that there is an entrenched history of believing that we were born one gender and changed to the other - and I think that the term transition is linked to that narrative. Perhaps it's time to look for a new word, or stop using the word entirely? I think back over my process and wonder if I could have gone without it - in what circumstances did I need the word? For people who knew, I could say that yes, I'm getting some medical support to correct some things, and I'm working towards living my authentic self.
    The "trigger" in this case was discovering that my field placement location uses the initials "CGHT" (cross-gender hormone therapy) for HRT that is being prescribed to trans-identified clients. I'm working on that issue, but I realized the big problem I had with it is that it reaffirms that same narrative with staff who see and use that terminology - I DO NOT take "cross-gender" hormones.
    I am by no means sold on all of this, it's a thought I've been having and wanted to share and see what others in the community think 
    xoxo
    Chrissy 
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  22. Emma added a post in a topic Trans Women Storming the Political Arena   

    ​Hate never wins in the long run.  Trump et al won the hearts and minds of many disparate groups (even including many women) and are now seeing not only the impossibility of Trump's promises but also his lies.  My hope is that Mueller and Congress are able to hold Trump and his administration in check for the next three years. Next year with the Congressional elections and in three years I believe we're really going to see the pendulum swinging back toward rationality, awareness, and equality for all.
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  23. Lori added a topic in Transgender Events   

    LOS ANGELES - Transgender Job Fair 11/9/17
    The Los Angeles LGBT Center and the City of West Hollywood are hosting a “job and resources fair specifically tailored for trans people,” according to a press release. The annual event will happen on Thursday, Nov.  9, from 11 a.m. to 2 p.m. at the West Hollywood Park Auditorium.
    https://thepridela.com/2017/11/los-angeles-lgbt-center-hosts-9th-annual-transgender-job-fair/
    Since the fair began in 2008, hundreds of trans people across Los Angeles have secured jobs. This year, more than 50 companies and organizations will attend the event.
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  24. Emma added a comment on a blog entry A Crack in the Door?   

    I find your attitude so refreshing and remarkable. You’re a great example to all of us. I’ll bet your managers love you!
    And, like Lori, I continue to learn, always. I’m 61 and taught myself how to create and publish iOS apps a couple of years ago. Too bad I missed the Gold Rush!
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