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  1. Lori added a comment on a blog entry A Crack in the Door?   

    I consider myself a life-long learner. I often find myself in classes with much younger people. I enjoy learning new things and being around a variety of people, and all ages.  
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  2. Lori added a post in a topic Trans Women Storming the Political Arena   

    I am just getting ready to post about this important development, on our Facebook page. There are others running in other races around the country. This is great visibility, and an opportunity to make real progress.  
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  3. UsernameOptional added a topic in Transgender News & Happenings   

    Trans Women Storming the Political Arena
    In at least two places in the country, people have beat out homophobes, haters, and just run-of-the-mill sheeple -
    A woman in VA wins an election over an incumbent homophobe who brags about being Virginia's "chief homophobe," and "earlier this year introduced a 'bathroom bill' that died in committee."  That woman, Danica Roem, an openly transgender democrat and local journalist.
             AND, wait for it --- THERE'S MORE....
    In Minneapolis, Andrea Jenkins won in a race for City Council, representing the city's Eighth Ward.  She was endorsed by the Minneapolis Star Tribune, and she beat out three other candidates for the seat.   She was also endorsed by the Democratic-Farmer-Labor Party.
    Also, two other TGLB people are running for seats in Minneapolis - Phillipe Cunningham (trans man) and Jillia Pessenda (cisgender lesbian).  The results of their races were not in a the posting of this news.
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  4. MichelleLea added a blog entry in Random thoughts and ideas   

    A Crack in the Door?
    Today, I had five appointments. My District Sales Coordinator (DSC) ran them with me since I am not yet qualified to do an employer presentation. The first two went well, and we are scheduled to open my first two business accounts. The third appointment had to be rescheduled but remains active. My fourth appointment was run by my Regional Sales Coordinator since the DSC was not available. This one also went well and could be a possible account activation. The last appointment was a bust due to a misunderstanding. But, all in all, a very good day that could lead to me actually making some money out of this deal. Of course, nothing is final until the signature is on the dotted line, but our feeling is that it will happen.
    I have two more appointments set for tomorrow, one with my DSC and one with the RSC since I am now working in two geographical locations. We'll see how they go.
    I am starting to get more of a feel how this all works, and it seems at this point that my efforts will pay off. In the meanwhile, I'll keep on working and learning. I have more online courses to take so I will be in student mode again. My wife used to say that I am a perpetual student. I don't see anything wrong with that.
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  5. Lori added a topic in Transgender Health Care   

    Health Insurance Advisory for Transgender People in the U.S.
    View the health insurance for trans people promotional video online at
    Please like, comment and share if you do the Facebook thing.  
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  6. MichelleLea added a blog entry in Random thoughts and ideas   

    Down Time
    Today was one of the first days in a while that I have not been running around trying to get things done. Now that I think of it, there were probably some work things I could have done, but I took the time for me instead. So, I read two long New York Times articles, one a free-wheeling interview with John Boehner, former House speaker; and another on the disarray of the Democratic party. I also subscribe to the Miami Herald and the Washington Post,  so this was catch  up on the news day. One thing I read about John Boehner was that he was very meticulous about his dress and irons all his own clothes, which inspired me to do my own washing and ironing. I even polished my shoes. I joke that when I am out prospecting, all I have is a smile and a shoe shine. Even watched a little TV. I never did see Lincoln . Very powerful, but that's Steven Spielberg for you. I had to get the news of the latest shooting from my neighbors. This is getting to be an almost daily event. Nothing will be done of course. I don't know what it will take. There is little moral courage in this country it would seem. We here will do what we can.
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  7. MichelleLea added a comment on a blog entry attaboy   

    Thanks for all your comments. I love getting your feedback.
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  8. MichelleLea added a comment on a blog entry Saturday Night Quiet   

    Hi Chrissy,
    Thanks as usual for your comments and suggestions. You're right about moods fluctuating. I go from being so not-in-the-mood to being so-in-the-mood. All depends. I suppose we learn to take it in stride.
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  9. Chrissy added a comment on a blog entry Saturday Night Quiet   

    I think it's to be expected that your interest in the chat room - and in other areas - will fluctuate depending on where you are in your own journey, or even how you feel that day.
    Earlier this week I went to a bar (gay bar) that I hadn't been to since July. I went because a drag queen who I love so much was back, with a show again. She was the one who used to let me guest perform pretty much whenever I wanted which helped SO much in my "transition." I loved seeing her again, but at the same time felt like being there wasn't right for me anymore. 
    As a member of the trans support group I facilitate said yesterday, even good change is an adjustment and can be difficult.
    I may have gone away from responding to your point ☺
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  10. MichelleLea added a blog entry in Random thoughts and ideas   

    Saturday Night Quiet
    I mean, I really wasn't going to get dressed tonight--well, maybe some lounging clothes--but nothing serious. As I mentioned previously, some nights this week, I have not even bothered with that and have gone straight from my dog-walking clothes to my nightie for bed.  I have also been avoiding the CD Chatroom for several reasons, mainly because being dressed is de rigueur for being in the chatroom--I do approve of this unwritten rule, by the way. Also, it has become rather boring and one note, I'm afraid. For me, I can only talk about what we are all wearing and how feminine we are for so long. I go along with it, and I have made some good friends there, but it's usually the quietest chatroom. Very few go there.
    But anyway, after working in the yard, I definitely needed a bath, and I needed to do some shaving, and then I put on some panties and a bra with breast forms--haven't done that in a while. Then I dug out a long skirt and and a blouse to go with it and a little jewelry, and voila! Here I am. So there. I will probably visit the chatroom later. I haven't watched a movie in like forever, so maybe I'll see what I can find.It's nice out tonight, so I might just sit on the porch with my dog and watch the stars.
    One last thing, this is funny. I actually got asked out on a sort of date today. It was one of the cashiers at Walmart that my wife and I have known for at least 10 years. She is Mexican and is my age--she told me--and as it turns out, her son has the same birthday as I do--November 10, next Friday. So, she thought that we should have a joint celebration, and we exchanged phone numbers. i don't know if i will even happen, but she is a nice lady, and it wouldn't hurt. I am certainly not looking for any relationship myself, and I don't see her as a fit in any case, but I don't want to let her down either. We'll see.
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  11. Emma added a comment on a blog entry attaboy   

    I agree completely with Lori. I am thinking the same way as well. It’s perfectly okay to lounge about as you wish and to “go no further” with anything let alone transition. Whatever works for you is all that matters.
    You do have an excellent attitude and work ethic. As you said keep trying new approaches and have fun with it. Be upbeat, friendly and professional, and the customers will come. 
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  12. Lori added a comment on a blog entry attaboy   

    It sounds like you've figured out where you fit in the transgender continuum. It is a difficult thing to come to terms with for many trans people. It was for me. Wishing you the best of luck with ​the business, and with life in general. 
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  13. MichelleLea added a blog entry in Random thoughts and ideas   

    This blog has become more of a journey into my new career rather than a journey into my transition from maleness to femaleness. But that is pretty much my life as of late. I don't mind the male side of me, as I really don't pay much attention to it when out in the world. I don't have to because that's who I am too, and I take pride in being well-dressed and well-groomed as much as I can in the business world. I don't know that I'll ever really be out of the closet as far as dressing goes. Sometimes I get gussied up because it's fun, but mostly I just like more lounging attire to unwind after a long day. I just like wearing whatever feels good to me at the time without anybody telling me that it's wrong. I admire those who make the transition into their true female selves. It takes a lot of courage, which is a shame since we just want to be ourselves. Anyway, all of the new AFLAC associates had individual meetings with our "bosses" and the head trainer today. Although, after my fourth week in the business, I haven't opened any new accounts, everyone is impressed with my work ethic. All they said was to keep doing what I'm doing and the money will come. So, that's what I'll do. I'm going to do some tweaking with my approaches and also call on some of my old contacts to get things going, but other than that, I'll keep at it. If nothing else, I'm getting a lot of exercise and fresh air  and meeting a lot of people. So, we'll see.
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  14. Lori added a comment on a blog entry what a great Day   

    You ladies might inspire me to go get my hair done or something.  
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  15. Emma added a comment on a blog entry what a great Day   

    Good for you and your wife! You're both so lucky to have each other.
    I got my nails done for the first time today too! It's really a big step for me. Sure, I'm presenting as a woman all the time but, let's face it, if I want to go to Home Depot even dressed in Levi's and a tee shirt my nails will be out there for all to see. This Saturday I have a wonderful ACLU dinner to attend I said the heck with it. I'm going to get all gussied up and kick up my flats. Tomorrow I'm getting my sysbrows waxed which is not really a big deal but need them cleaned up!
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  16. Emma added a comment on a blog entry Working, working   

    "I do enjoy good company, but it's hard to fine people with interests similar to mine, or maybe interesting people period."
    I well understand. I like a line in the Holstee Manifesto, which hangs on my wall: "If you are looking for the love of your life, stop; they will be waiting for you when you start doing things you love."
    I'm a very fortunate beneficiary of this thinking. I never met a romantic partner when I was looking. It was always when I least expected it. And recently I've actually made a couple of wonderful new friends - a complete surprise. I'm so grateful.
    Go out and so stuff, whatever you like to do. And be open, fun, and sweet. Honey attracts bees!
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  17. 4EverYoung added a blog entry in Journey from Grit to Grace   

    what a great Day
    Hello and greetings, 
    Today L and I took a leap into the tranns world.  We went and picked out a new hair piece together.  220 bucks worth and boy oh boy I tell ya.  We got a baby sitter for the afternoon and went and had our nails done.    then we went out to dinner in Downtown and at a fancy place also.   I felt natural as I ordered dinner and played with my boys and smiled and almost cried a couple times at the total peace I am starting to feel in my skin.    
     I got home to find my gaff had arrived and I ran into the bedroom shed my attire and put it on.  I then put on some skinny jeans and a shirt and told L to look at me.   never had I felt more alive than when she touched my  nether region and there was nothing there. I felt like a natural woman. It has taken me many years and tears to feel that way and when the love of my life reached down and touched me and kissed me I knew we would spend the rest of our ives together.    I am still working on mannerism stance and stuff but i have 41 years on man crapolla to rid myself of.     Well night all lets see what tomorrow holds 
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  18. MichelleLea added a blog entry in Random thoughts and ideas   

    Working, working
    I can't say that I have had much trans activity this past week. I have just been too pooped at the end of the day along with a lot of follow-up paperwork that needs doing to even think about dressing. The only dress I want to see is my nightie. It's not all bad, really, although it will be better when things finally start to pop. I am making a lot of approaches and setting appointments, but then there are always those that fall through for one reason or another. The two really good ones I have has so far this week won't make a decision for another six months. Nothing happens fast, that's for sure. I have four presentations scheduled for the morning, so maybe one of them wiill come through.
    I have been working some with a co-worker, Kathy, whom I have previously mentioned. As I said, she is very sharp and was a big person in IT with American Express making major bucks as she tells it. But she loves to talk, and takes soooo looong to do things, that it does get to me. She also obsesses over her prospects that are not happening and just eating up more of her time. I have to keep moving. If you are serious, fine. If not, I have others to see. Some agents do very well working with a partner. I'm so used to being on my own. My wife used to say that I don't really need anybody. It was a harsh statement. Maybe, it's true. I do enjoy good company, but it's hard to fine people with interests similar to mine, or maybe interesting people period. I will say that I have met interesting and alive people here at this website. I am grateful that it is here.
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  19. Chrissy added a comment on a blog entry 10.31.17 Tuesday   

    You both really do have a lot going on, that can be really taxing (to say the least) - and personally there is very little that I'm happy about at 8:15 a.m. :-)  (unless it's Sunday, then I'm good).
    I'm wondering - for both of you - if you have people to talk to? I mean therapy would be great, but difficult if you're going on the road, but even just close friends who you can talk to individually. Working together through all of this is great, but you do both have individual needs as well.
    And with HRT, typically they'll do blood work first, so you'd have to wait a little anyway. And my own experience with it was that I did feel it, but it wasn't very disruptive. As I recall I just started noticing that I felt all emotions a little more than I had been (happy, sad, angry, etc., they were all just a little stronger). They also start you slow. I did accidentally double my dosage once - the pharmacy had changed the pills so that they were double what they had been and I kept taking the same number - once I realized (about a week) I went back and realized it had been having a pretty big impact - so the moral of the story is "stick with the correct dosage!"  :-)
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  20. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Judge blocks enforcement of Trump's transgender military ban   

    ​::: stands, pounds fist on table, raises glass with other hand :::  Hear, HEAR  !!
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  21. KarenPayne added a blog entry in Karen's thoughts   

    This morning I went down to chat with a fellow co-worker, asked him "I wonder if people here will dress up today?". I asked because not every year they will, kind of hit or miss. He was unsure same as me.
    He then told me that a former co-worker told him that I killed it one Halloween (way back in 1996) when I dressed up as a female. I vaguely remember until this jogged me memory. I had dressed in proper business attire, mid-size high heels, black stockings, black dress, just above the knees, while blouse and black blazer. As the story goes (because I didn't know this) was that this former co-worker arrived and thought to herself, who is that woman sitting in Kevin's desktop. She didn't say anything, waited for me to turn around and took a minute to realize I was dressed as a female.
    Any ways the former co-worker told my present co-worker I killed it in that it was not apparent that I was "me" until she stared at me for a minute. 
    That brought a smile to me today, twenty some years later, I will take it
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  22. Emma added a comment on a blog entry Came out to a Best friend today   

    I think Joy is a very nice name. I chose it as my middle name because of a young woman who I worked with at an Italian restaurant when I was in HS (long ago in a galaxy far away). She said, "I'm Barbara Joy to the world!" I loved her upbeat personality. 
    I seem to recall that I published a blog post about my choice of first name. It's no big deal but might be interesting. 
    Indeed, Deedee is a common woman's name. It's friendly, recognizable, and certainly feminine. Maybe Deedee Joy?
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  23. 4EverYoung added a comment on a blog entry Came out to a Best friend today   

    We are still tossing around names.  Deedee would be easy because it is her initials anyway, but if we had a girl in our family, we always said we would name her Joy.  We just had our 2 boys, and that name, Joy, has always felt like it belonged in our family, and since we couldn't give it to one of our kids, this seems like an option.  It is still under discussion
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  24. 4EverYoung added a comment on a blog entry 10.31.17 Tuesday   

    (L) Thank you for the advice.  I agree about the moving somewhere that is welcoming.  That is the part that we haven't figured out yet.  Our original plan was smack in the middle of the bible belt, and may now not be the best, though I do have family there that I would love to spend time with.  Deedee is a 'hothead', to put it midly lol.  She always has been, and always will be.  I work around it the best I can, and she has gotten tremendously better over the last 5 years with the outbursts.  Everything in life is a journey to making us better people, if we allow it.  We kind of wanted this to be a journal, with both of us retelling our stories, in our own versions, so this works right now, though in the future, we might want to break away and do separate things.
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  25. Emma added a comment on a blog entry 10.31.17 Tuesday   

    Hi to both of you,
    Communication is everything, especially now as Deedee is going through her transition as is L and the entire family. And going on the road besides, without knowing where you're going to relocate to? Wow, that's a lot.
    On April 17 of this year I also took off on the road, in a small Winebago RV, heading north from the Bay Area toward Alaska. I left behind my wife of >20 years, our house, and my friends. I also didn't know where I'd end up. I saw myself possibly crisscrossing the US for a couple of years. As it turned out I reconnected with two lesbian friends (who're married to each other) in Seattle, and that, combined with my decision that I must live in a place that is not only trans-tolerant but trans-welcoming, that's where I settled. I have plenty of stresses but also have a wonderful support network of my original friends, new ones, and professionals. I never knew how important such a support network is. But this isn't about me. I'm only writing about it to provide some context.
    L is remarkable that she's weathering this storm as well as she is. Name calling isn't okay - ever - from either of you. We all get angry and emotional; at times and that's just being human. My previous therapist advised that anger is a way of signaling "STOP" to the other. Maybe keep that in mind for the next time, that you both need to cool off a little.
    My wife and I were advised by therapists over the years that communication is so important. Unfortunately this is something that my wife just doesn't handle well. We both tried, and to this day we love each other so much still, but we were unable to stay together. 
    I suggest a book to bring with you on your trip: "Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar" by Cheryl Strayed. Perhaps when you need to, read one of the stories aloud to the other, and talk about the feelings this brings up for you. I love Cheryl Strayed and her book helped my wife and I as we tried to bridge our communication gap. Put the kids to bed, snuggle up with hot chocolate, and love each other.
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