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  1. Jo'C. added a post in a topic I'd rather wear a dress   

    I see no more need to "cure" cross dressers than I do to “cure” painters or sports fans. I don't see cross dressing as any sort of disorder, an abnormality perhaps, but not an intrinsic problem. It is true that the urge to cross dress can cause a person a great deal of anxiety in a society that is not accepting, and that to act on that desire may impair an individuals ability to function in society, but this is due to no defect on the individuals part. I believe that the real problem is emotional, not psychological, and that the cause of the emotional distress is the denial of ones gender expression.

    Full blown gender dysphoria, on the other hand, is a disorder in my opinion. I think that it has been improperly classified though. "GID" is no more an identity disorder than it is a physical disorder, and being as both the mind and the body are in themselves healthy I think it is improper to classify it as either. The problem is a mismatch of mind and body and as such I think the remedy is to correct the incongruence. One could change ether the body or the mind, and since I am my mind I would rather not be the one to do the changing. From what I have heard psychology isn't that effective in changing an individual’s gender identity and the prospect of psychiatry finding a way to do it is just too frightening.

    I want you to know, Oweena, that I am not trying to discredit your work or the psychiatric field in general. I'm sure you know a lot more about this than me. I do however take exception to the long held perception that certain personality traits are sicknesses when in my opinion they are healthy abnormalities. In fact I believe that it is this very perception that causes most of the problems that effect trans people. The thought that you are defective as a person is devastating to ones self esteem. People out in the community also see trans people as "sick" or, as an extension of that, "a sickness" and therefore ostracised and sometimes even commit hate crimes against us.

    I apologise for getting so political, but I think this issue is crucial to an improved relationship with our selves and our communities. I also really respect your approach to helping others live with their gender issues. I don't want to get off on the wrong foot. Though I am a critical reader I am also open minded, so please don't take this as a personal affront because I really value your input.
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  2. Guest added a post in a topic I'd rather wear a dress   

    HI eddie i feel for you as i am living in the same shadow as you my wife also doesn't understand she says its not normal, but hey what is??? the best thing is just i found is keep it quiet and drop subtle hints into watching documentries together on the subject and hope she comes round.. good luck with you always. ;)
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  3. Valorie added a topic in Male to Female (MtF) Crossdressers Discussion   

    I'm 57 yrs. old and don't think there is an age limit to feeling sexy by dressing in female clothing..what do you think? Any older cross-dressers out there that would like to chat can reach me @
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  4. OweenaCo added a post in a topic I'd rather wear a dress   

    There is no known cure for cross dressing. At least I have never been able to discover one. In my 30 years of being a clinical psychologist I never found one so I did the next best thing and taight my patients how to live with their gender dysphoria. That is really the rteason I became a psychologist was because there was no one I could find that was able to help me with my gender dysphoria.

    Love you;

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  5. Guest_Julie added a topic in Male to Female (MtF) Crossdressers Discussion   

    I definately like the way women's clothing feels. I'm mostly just into lingerie type clothing. I find it's comfortable and a nice change from the boring look and feel of male clothing. This is one of the reasons why I crossdress.

    The other reason is what I would like to hear some input on. Maybe it's just because I'm young (22) but 95% of the reason why I crossdress is because I find it so darn SEXY. It turns me on so much to the point where it's all I can think about. When I put it on I become _so_ interested in meeting another guy whether he's into crossdressing or not.

    For me I don't feel like I'm a woman trapped in a man's body. I don't feel like I have a deep feminine side to me that I desire to explore. I am perfectly content being a guy and I am very attracted to women even though I am very curious what it would be like being with a guy. Again, the male thing would be purely sexual. Is this bad to feel this way? I've read a couple forums and such and I seem to be the only person who feels this way I think.

    When I'm with a woman I am very relationship oriented. Although sex is very enjoyable it is not my primary goal for a relationship nor do I strive for it right away. I really enjoy taking our time and watching the relationship develop. However, I definately have a very strong sexual drive and once I put on lingerie it's game over. My sexuality peaks to the max.

    I just would like to know what people think about this. Is this considered ok amongst the crossdressing community? Also if anyone feels like emailing me then that would be great.
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  6. Lyla added a post in a topic all my sisters   

    Hi Steph; I know what you mean. In fact, I enjoyed it so much, that my mother became aware that things were missing from her wardrobe; funny story, really. I'm 17, by the way.

    Anywho, I love dresses; but blouses and skirts are way fun too. :D
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  7. stephygurl added a topic in Male to Female (MtF) Crossdressers Discussion   

    all my sisters
    hey girls
    im new here and i just wanted to say im only 18 but i LOVE to wear my moms clothng,panties dreses skirts everythin,i just love the way being a woman feels.
    well respond to this message if you want
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  8. Southern Belle added a post in a topic Hair Everywhere!!   

    My girlfriend shaves *everything*. I didn't think much about it and haven't noticed that anyone else does either. Legs and all!

    Several estheticians have said that the only treatment they haven't given guys is a leg wax. They've even done butt waxes.
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  9. JamieTVgirl added a post in a topic How many of you Cd's actively date men?   

    Some of the best guys I have dated were guys who liked me both as myself and as Jamie. We can go play tennis together was myself and we can go back to my place and I can slip into "something more comfortable" or not and either way, they accept it and enjoy it. That's the kinda man we all need to find if we date men.
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  10. Tsumetai added a post in a topic How many of you Cd's actively date men?   

    I'm not attracted to men at all. I've really only had one girlfriend, but that was before I realised I was TS. I want to wait until I'm a little older and move in with my friends so that I can be female all the time, and then meet a woman who loves me as a female. But right now it would be too hard to be female around a girlfriend.
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  11. willow added a post in a topic How many of you Cd's actively date men?   

    when i was dating guys many eons ago... they never wanted me for who i am. they only wanted the impossibility of the best of both worlds. since i am ts and not cd it isn't something that can exist due to hormone changes and body changes. yet they always tried and tried... so i threw them out.

    since then i have become lesbian and only date women. mostly butch as they completely understand me and the dynamics of butch-femme are perfect for who i am.
    i will never date men again. they never wanted to date me, only my ugly parts. it was the same thing with bi women.

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  12. Rhonda Lynn added a post in a topic Hair Everywhere!!   

    I usually shave my furry bosums and forearms, of which they're actually only two of so I just don't understand where the fore part came from, as well as my legs just when I'm on vacation because I have the free time to go like total Rhonda. Other than that I figure the dust bunnies in the closet don't mind if I'm a bit furry. I do however shave my palms on a regular basis, when I can find my thick glasses, and I have the presence and clarity of rational thought.

    Ta Ta and Ba Bye Bye Rhonda Lynn ;)
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  13. Annie added a post in a topic Hair Everywhere!!   

    Of course, waxing opens you up to the possibility of ingrown hair and pimples. It's a trade off.

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  14. Jo'C. added a post in a topic Hair Everywhere!!   

    I don't think that shaving your arms would raise too much suspicion. A lot of guys shave arm and back hair. Although I would recommend that you wax or use a depilatory instead of shaving, because arm stubble feels like sandpaper. And be careful with chemical hair removal, I've found that my elbows are allergic to it but not the rest of my body. As for deflecting suspicion wear long sleeves as much as possible and if anybody asks questions just say you're metro sexual, or your girlfriend/boyfriend made you do it.

    In an ideal world though, we could all be who we are openly without fear of ridicule.
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  15. andy6432668 added a post in a topic Countries Listed on Server Stats   

    I'm from Cedar Grove , TN U.S.A. Andrew Frederick
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  16. Mallannie14 added a topic in Male to Female (MtF) Crossdressers Discussion   

    Hair Everywhere!!
    Well, I was thinking.. (Uh-Oh! I did it again!), and I thought about hair.

    For those of y'all who are CDing now, not trasitioning.. do you shave your arms? I'm thinking about it, but I don't want to raise suspicion.

    ?? ??
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  17. Jo'C. added a post in a topic Countries Listed on Server Stats   

    Hey Sara, I'm Canadian to. Unfortunately I come from Alberta though, and I'm no bilingual. I did take second year French once without taking the introductory course though. I actually did all right, but all I learned how to do was sell clothing and real-estate in French. It was pretty limited.
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  18. Rhonda Lynn added a post in a topic Countries Listed on Server Stats   

    I'm orignally from donut downs, but recently I relocated to the isle of pie near the sandwich islands where I have some prime rib property right on the toast.

    Ta Ta and Ba Bye Bye, Rhonda Lynn ;)
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  19. Sara Zeal added a post in a topic Countries Listed on Server Stats   

    Canada here

    A small town near Montreal, Quebec province. And if you want to know, yes I do speak French heh (I get asked often).
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  20. Guest added a post in a topic How many of you Cd's actively date men?   

    I love men, i only love men. Cant live without them!
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  21. Jo'C. added a post in a topic I'd rather wear a dress   

    I'm young and fairly inexperienced as a result. If I were in your shoes though I think I would come out to my wife and join a cross-dressing social club. I would have no idea if one exists in your area, and I don't know what your wife is like, but I know that hiding takes a great emotional toll not to mention it's time consuming.

    As a side note I am also somewhat of a figure skating fan. I prefer couples though because they pull off the most incredible tricks and tend to be more dramatic since they can play off of each other.
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  22. eddie added a topic in Male to Female (MtF) Crossdressers Discussion   

    I'd rather wear a dress

    I am new to this forum and am glad I came across it.

    I am in my early 40s, happily married with a beautiful 6 year old son. My wife and son mean everyting to me.

    I consider my self a fairly typical heterosexual male into sports like baseball, bowling, nascar and bicycling. I also like women's figure skating.

    I'm a working professional who is dedicated to my career.

    I am a family man and would be thrilled to have another child. My 6 year old wishes for a little brother or sister. I'm just waiting for when my wife is ready.

    My struggles however center around something most likely foreign to the male population.

    I have an addiction to feminine clothing. I've been a closet crossdresser since I was a teenager around 13-14 and remember vividly my first experience of crossdressing at 5 years old trying on my sister's underwear and I've been crossdressing all my life. I've gone through the complete cycle of buying girls and women's clothing and wearing them in secrecy or under my male clothing and then purging.

    I must have purged at least a half a dozen times thinking this would eliminate my compulsion to wear femme clothing. It only intensified it and made me sad later realizing I gave away clothes I really enjoyed.

    I can not really open up about my crossdressing and really suppress it.

    I do enjoy however having some alone time when I can fancy myself in the beautiful outfits I bought. It's not easy being a closet crossdresser but it feels nice to wear a dress and women's undergarments. Particularly body briefers and pantyhose.

    My wife discovered some of my dresses in the closet and does not understand. I would never crossdress in front of my wife or family.

    I do not cross dress in public other than wearing women's jeans or women's slacks such as lizwear and panties underneath with typical mens shirts.

    I am so used to this closet crossdressing and being concerned about others that I could never really achieve the true en femme experience.

    I enjoy my maleness and being a good husband and father.

    However I must admit it does feel good to wear a dress.

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  23. Jo'C. added a post in a topic How many of you Cd's actively date men?   

    I've only been on one date in my life and it was with girl who was very aggressive. I've always been way too shy to ask anybody out.
    I find that I am attracted to both genders and an awful lot in between. What's funny though is that what I feel for either gender, while fundamentally similar, is different. First of all I find that I am attracted to more women but more attracted to men. That is, I feel there are far more attractive looking girls out there than guys, but when I see an attractive male there is really no comparison. Another thing I notice is that the physical arousal I feel for women is mostly concentrated in one area (you can guess) while what I feel for men is more of a full body experience. All I have to do is fantasise about a guy and it's more satisfying than any physical stimulation (that I've experienced). It's like a pure euphoria
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  24. jaron added a post in a topic Countries Listed on Server Stats   

    ....great britain !!!!!!! nothing great about it....we call it uk nowadays

    long gone is the empire


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  25. Jenny-74-TS added a post in a topic Countries Listed on Server Stats   

    It is possible in IPB 1.3, I've done it with my own sites.
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