It seems alot of people on here have similar fantasies, being that as a man sex with a man is, eh, less than a desireable thought, but as a woman, its exciting. I can say you're not odd by saying that, alot of people on here have repiled on similar situations, ie fantasies with a man when dressed as a woman. Ill admit I prefer women across the board but only because men anatomically gross me out, plus body hair is gross to me as well. However Ive only told one person my 'secret' and although they pretty much shrugged it off, the guy has been my best friend forever and part of me has been caught daydreaming such thoughts as 'if I WAS a girl, we'd be perfect together, it just like seems we were made for one another.' Only prob is, as a guy, that kinda grosses me out, its not the sexual things that turn me on in that fantasy, but the idea of being, myself, Ashlee, and curled up on a couch in his arms watchin a movie, oh god sends shivers down my spine. Only weird thing is, he didnt seem to think much of it when I told him my uh, issue, and kinda brushed it off, but many times Ive caught him drunk and being a bit, eh, flirty. My only worry is that maybe he is, well, gay or bi, and when heared my issue thinks I may be as well. but like you said, as a man, I cant see myself curled up to him, but as a girl, I could spend the whole night in his arms. Then again, maybe IM the weird one haha.
Sometime ago I read a short story about a crossdresser who met a highway patrolman. He came to her place and was wearing pantyhose under his uniform.
As the story went on, they had sex. To me, as a man the idea, of having sex with another man is somewhat repugnant, but since I have been dressing, the idea of being en femme and having a highway patrolman show up wearing pantyhose under his uniform to give me a "ticket" is somewhat exciting! Anyone else have similar thoughts?
Talking age.... Hmm....
well, I'm 52 and have been dressing since age 4. I have noticed that my taste in clothes has aged with me! I definitely don't wear navel exposing hip huggers and crop tops... (Too much navel would show, if you know what I mean...)
I have found that shrinking from the 'women's ' section (16W-24W on up) to the misses section fro shopping has done a couple of things.
First ... the skirt lengths are 2-3 inches shorter. This adds a 'younger' look to the clothing I now buy. I have been told I don't look 52 when dressed. (a girl LOVES to hear that!!)
Second ... There is a much, much larger selection of clothing styles and colors available!! (It just takes me forever to find a to die for outfit now!!!)
So to answer the question, I don't think you will ever age beyond dressing!!
As other girls have said, dress age appropriate and you will fit in whever you go!
Hugs to all,
when i first found out about my husband's femine side, it's wasn't all that big of a shock. i mean he showed more of a femine side in the first place. when shocked me the most is when he told me he was thining of becoming a woman full time. at first i was hurt, b/c i didn't know what that meant. to me it meant he was going to be a woman and he was going to leave me for some one else. i didn't like to even think about it. we talk, and talked..... and talked and i realize now that he doesn't want that. he wants to stay with me. it's only been this past week that this has all come out. so from the start of the week, when all my emotions were all mized up to today is a total difference.
now what i worry about is, how are we going to tell family, friends, our kids. what job does he want to do. we'll have to move... he says probably not, but i would rather move b/c i want to give him a fresh start... go where nobody knew him before as a man. i don't want people to be mean. we live in a small town, so people can be very mean. those are the thimgs i tend to think about more now.
i'm actually really enjoy this week. it's almost like we are dating again. ..... sounds funny i know but it's true. i feel like i'm discoving the woman in me as he decovers the woman in him. we can go on this journey together. it's been fun.
i know it's not always going to be fun. there will be hard times, but i'm looking at it in a positive manner. we will get through anything life throws our way.
I know what you mean by confused. I spent years pondering just what was going on with me. Anyway, yeah the internet is probably the best way to figure stuff out for yourself. It takes a while, but eventually you'll find out what you like, and why.
I also know what you mean about the particular clothing interest. A fetish perhaps? I have yet to figure out exactly why I like certain things. However I have found that I'm totally into S&M, and that's why I'm so keen to lose some muscle. Where's the fun if I can overpower a guy? lol
I think that the female side doesn't know what to do since we have not been female. We prefer to be men, but we have a female sifde that battles for who we are. We secretly dress for the female side, but we fear getting caught. We don't know others - or at least we don't realize that we know others because they are hiding it too- especially, if we live in small conservative areas. Hence, we have to fantacise about things. We can have the best of both worlds. Isn't it great to know that we are not alone and that there are so many that are just like us!
My wife has known about my fem side since about 1980. We were married 9 years when I told her. She still wants no part of Terri. I get out as Terri abut 1x a month. Luckily I have a lot of TG friends. I have known some TG's that as soon as their spouse was aware of their husbands fem side the marriage was over.
This might be a good time to start sharing links for support for the S.O.'s of the TG's here.....
I certainly could use some ideas for my wife....
One of her issues is that I have someone to talk to abt my being who I am, and she doesn't have anyone to discuss it with other than me. I do agree that wives, others of the transgendered, DO need a neutral and understanding/sympathetic third party to get perspective and knowledge/insight on who we are.
EDIT: Amanda, oddly enough, my female name is very close to my given one. Why? Hmmm, I'd guess because the name is easy to associate with a connection that the two identities are actually one and the same.
With a decent set of forms atarting at abt $140 going through the upper end ones at about $750, there is a wide range to choose from that fits one budget, and give the freedom to not worry about failures. ;)
I'm from New Zealand, a small country just a little east and down a bit from Australia. I live in a small town and havent been able to locate a gender therapist or local resources, the nearest one is 3 hours away by boat or a short flight across the Cook Straight which is a rough patch of water between the two islands. Ive always wanted to live on a deserted island in the pacific somewhere and live like Robinson Crusoe, but NZ is kinda nice and I'm a proud kiwi (no not the fruit).
"How durable are they like that? I mean, if you were hugging or making out with someone, i would imagine it would be pretty embarrasing if one were to break and soak you and your date." -JamieTVgirl
balloons can be pretty durable when underfilled. unless your goal is to look you were on LSD when you chose the breast size you desire, you won't be filling those ballons to capacity. i was pretty creative when it came to...um... "packing".. i never had a balloon break.
it would probably boil down to preference... plastic bags like Annie suggested, or the balloons like michelle2 suggested, or a stocking with birdseed like Jo'C suggested. the better thing about the water filled bags or balloons is that they do take on a person's body heat ... this makes it feel more natural, almost to the point that you forget they are there. it would seem to me that birdseed would make a rather questionable noise tho, if engaged in "close contact."
I tried balloons, but found the surface tension and the forced roundness not to my liking. I would use fairly large plastic bags, with only a small amount of water in them and no air. These had no set shape and could be molded to fit once in a bra.
Yes leakage is a possibility, especially if you treat a bed or couch like a trampoline.
These days, there are bras that come with leakproof gel sacs that give some realistic heft and tactile sensation.
I think it's a nice name.I have a friend who runs another forum named Jamie she's real sweet.
I changed my name many times til I came out and then I decided to kinda reverse my name.Though I go by Dee when I have my name legally changed it will be Patrica Dee ****.
I bet he'll come out more when he really realizes that your being supportive.For me their didn't seem to be much support so after coming out to my ex I pretty much keep it to myself.Just give it time and keep showing your support and he/her will start feeling comfortable and join the party.
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thank you sooo much! i've been getting used to the idea of everything that he's told me and .... well like i told him yesterday, when he told me, in my brain there was all these files just thrown on the floor and now that i'm talking to others, reading things online the files are starting to be picked up and organized.
yesterday he called me from work to tell me he was going to be really late and that he was really upset and stressed. so i put our kids to bed about 10 mins earlier, set up a bubble bath w/ candles and stuff so that when he got home he could just relax and de-stress. he said thank you and all but i'm not too sure if he really like it or he was still a little unsure about really enjoying that gesture in front of me. i know he likes taking a bath so i thought he would like it. as he was in the tub, i was thinking to my self 'wow. i'm really starting to understand how i feel.' it was a pretty good moment.
i'm not sure who he looks like. i think today i'm going to research a few names and get their meaning first. i think i would like to give him a name that reflex him and how he feels. now if he likes the name is another question.
he unsure what to classify himself b/c he's not sure yet to what extent he wants to pursue this. is there anything else i can do to help him be more comfortable with who he is inside? he told me last night that he feels like he's behind a curtain and he's just peeking out to see what there. so any ideas on how to help him come out and join the party?
any other advise or insight would be greatly appreciated.
just wanted every one to know that i've signed up so i'm now ....
You are so right, we all need to be recognised as who we really are and a name means alot to me and every sister out there. I named myself Michelle because it felt right for me. I first named myself Brandy but it did not feel right so hence Michelle. Thank you Annie for your wisdom and insight.