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  1. Lori added a post in a topic From CD To TS... Is It Possible?   

    Hi Annie,

    That is a thought-provoking message you posted. Actually I recall discussing this very question with one of my early "transsexual mentors" who provided a pretty compelling argument as to why someone who was clearly transsexual might start out experiencing sexual arousal when dressed. I think she may have nailed this one.

    Isn't it likely that when we first begin dressing, we experience a liberation unlike anything we have ever experienced in the past. It feels good to explore our feelings of femininity and that often includes our sexual feelings. So, a newbie transsexual who begins dressing is likely to experience all sorts of rushes including sexually. This may lead to even further sexual exploration.

    We're still rather puritanical in our society. Nobody wants to talk about sexuality, particularly when it falls outside the norm. I've never really agreed with the notion that a transsexual should not be sexually aroused from dressing, lest they be labeled a fetishistic crossdresser.

    Labels are pretty dangerous after all. We humans fall at various points on continuums - not in black and white boxes. Why would transsexuality be any different?

    Good topic for some discussion Annie. :)
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  2. Annie added a topic in Male to Female (MtF) Crossdressers Discussion   

    From CD To TS... Is It Possible?
    (5-20-04) ~ FROM CD TO TS.....IS IT POSSIBLE? ~


    We talk about many issues in our chatroom, but one of the most
    hotly debated subjects I've ever been involved in there has been
    that of the fetishistic crossdresser and whether or not a CD is
    transsexual.

    There are many among us who believe that if one becomes sexually
    aroused by the donning of women's clothing, or by simply thinking
    about metamorphosing into a female, then that individual is not
    truly transsexual, but a man with a fetish.

    I was one of those "aroused" CDs once, and I can state categor-
    ically that I have NEVER considered myself a man-- not even a
    male, in fact. I have always been an "incomplete woman."

    Then, how can I reconcile that so often I utilized a part of me
    that, by TS definition, I should have loathed? There's no question
    that functioning in a male capacity was incredibly conflicting for
    me. Given a choice, I'd have had no sexuality whatsoever.

    How many crossdressers can identify with this: Being excited while
    dressed as a woman, relieving that tension (you know how) and
    then feeling disgusted with yourself afterward? You can't get out of
    the clothing or wash that makeup off fast enough. Sound familiar?

    What causes this cycle of arousal, excitement, climax, brief plea-
    sure, self-loathing and then divestment? Is it the societal pro-
    gramming that would have us believe that this is all deviant be-
    havior, -or- does it go deeper than that, strike us at our hearts?

    Is it possible that way down inside, all crossdressers, even the
    ones who adamantly deny it, are just as transsexual as the gal
    who never had an erection in her life prior to SRS? If the latter
    is the case, it would definitely explain a lot. What clearer re-
    minder that one's male body is out of sync with her female mind
    is there than this ultimate act of masculine self-gratification?
    Can the disgust that comes later be not with the act itself or
    the clothing, but with the undeniable enforced maleness of one's
    physicality?

    All this is conjectural, and strictly my opinion. Yours is just
    as valid, and I respect any differences you may have with me.


    Now, let's turn briefly to those who believe that crossdressers
    are just men with fetishes...

    In 1998, I took blood tests prior to beginning HRT. I was 44 at
    the time. It greatly surprised me to find out that my blood tes-
    tosterone level was way too high. Normal levels are somewhere
    between 300 and 650 units, while MY level was over 1000! The
    doctor told me joshingly that if I were at all evil, I'd probably be
    an axe murderer. Some joke.

    I was WAY oversexed in middle age-- imagine how high my levels
    must have been in my prime! This blood test revelation explained
    why I had been so easily "turned on" all the time. You get enough
    "juice" in your veins and you cannot control what it does to you.

    So, I think that the gals who say they've never been aroused in a
    male way naturally have extremely -low- levels of testosterone
    in their systems. It is troubling that some of these hormonally
    fortunate ladies would deny me and others our rightful claims to
    transsexuality because of the uncontrollable arousal self-feminizing
    has for us. --had-- in my case-- the whole experience for me was
    ultimately non-fulfilling, and the need to truly metamorphose
    pushed me forward, into HRT and my current state of assexuality,
    prior to SRS.

    If you are a crossdresser or transvestite and believe that you
    are, when all is said and done, a man, I accept that. But, if deep-
    down, you feel that you just may be transsexual, I truly understand!


    Annie
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  3. Judy added a post in a topic Support Groups   

    Hiyas
    still looking sround the general area in my region
    As soon as things balance out in transportation and local support in my town or community I reside If I Stay in this area of fla

    I'll probably going to start one up
    In some time it would be nice in this neck of the woods
    I am just waiting for other folk in this region of fla to open up come out what ever it is called there is not many stepping to the mound yet and in my town none ... zero Dr martin told me other day im a rarity in a kool way because he likes my ideals and experience in this but that there is like ! % in the area here and even dr's do not like tg ppl that kills me 2 days ago i was looking for a urologist
    lol these drs are so inethical opoiniojnated and onesided they look at a few of us as bubonic plaigue Thank God Dr martin is humanitatian and civilized enouigh to actually be willing to help me with kidney stones ..I produce these alot Dr martin is a GodSend really
    that is a good dr a very kind person ...Where there is a will there is a way

    I work hard to pass on love and show drs the positive sides of life because many of these local doctors in my area are 99% from ok arabia india europe and pakistan etc it is rough because out of about 60 doctors in my area 2 I kno of personally are kind enough and open minded enough to talke a intrest in thie life

    but as soon as there is a small community there is a foundation fooring mold a starting point ..

    it would be kool to have something local without me driving many miles to other counties even though where i live drs consider me a real minority according to dr martin a surgeon i just talked to 2 days ago ...

    just to drive to tampa is about 30+ miles easy
    it a real hike really then st pete is a tremendously long drive there is a pretty nice area group in tampa /st pete i like both

    St pete is better imop but alot further

    something more central west fla is needed via WEEKI WACHI AREA
    If I am around this area of fla in future that is where I want to make a Starting point a meeting place I got to look into halls and places locally and maybe just next county over
    community rooms or empty office space to make a meeting place to have helpful conversations and meet nice ppl etc
    support is essential

    There is ppl like me for instance that do not own cars or like to drive but i will look for community hall run a local ad in paper and take a shot at firiing up a nice common ground in this little region i'll go ask local hospitals for a space to use monthly that is a good idea ......Just thought of that because i taught a cpr
    course in a back of a hospital about 10 yrs back
    I think it is possible ill go ask the hospital administrators a few dr's for ideas in this area of town..........
    I dont see any reasons for turning humanity down
    As of now like i said drs told me im a minority a small speck on the canvas

    ... probability it can and will be happening in near future I hope

    Id love to see the tg community open up in my region its like living in the 1950's now picture back to the future lol

    Who knows if I will linger in florida much longer but it would be nice in a old country backwards town to have a open ground
    Like i said from the heart and its hard to compose this concept as I type but Support is essential people can use support and a little kindness goes very far
    instead of travelling 100 miles in a car
    Hug's Judy
    Just sayin hi and thinkin away
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  4. moxiac added a post in a topic Transgender Events   

    :rolleyes:
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  5. moxiac added a post in a topic Transgender Profiles   

    thx for the info admin
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  6. moxiac added a post in a topic Countries Listed on Server Stats   

    just kiddin :P
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  7. MaryEllen added a post in a topic Countries Listed on Server Stats   

    India :)
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  8. moxiac added a post in a topic Countries Listed on Server Stats   

    wat bout me guess my the country from whr i'm surifin then... lOL
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  9. MaryEllen added a post in a topic Countries Listed on Server Stats   

    Moldova . Eastern Europe, northeast of Romania. Part of the old Soviet Union.

    Namibia. Southern Africa, bordering the south Atlantic Ocean between Angola and South Africa.

    What would I do without Google.

    MaryEllen :)
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  10. Lori added a post in a topic Countries Listed on Server Stats   

    Where the heck is Moldova? And Namibia?? :blink:
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  11. MaryEllen added a post in a topic Countries Listed on Server Stats   

    Wow! That's quite a guest list. I didn't think there were that many countries in the whole world. I guess I better brush up on my geography.

    MaryEllen :)
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  12. Lori added a topic in What's New at The Transgender Guide   

    Countries Listed on Server Stats
    According to our server stats, surfers from the following countries have visited TGGuide.com during the past two months. Each country is listed in order of frequency of visits. As might be expected, the United States accounts for the majority of traffic, however, there is an interesting list of countries represented. Let us know where you're from.

    United States
    Canada
    European Union
    Great Britain
    Australia
    Japan
    Germany
    Netherlands
    China
    Portugal
    Sweden
    India
    Italy
    Spain
    Belgium
    New Zealand
    Russian Federation
    Ireland
    Mexico
    France
    Singapore
    Norway
    Austria
    Turkey
    Hong Kong
    Taiwan
    Finland
    Greece
    Poland
    Switzerland
    South Africa
    Brazil
    South Korea
    Czech Republic
    Israel
    Argentina
    Denmark
    Thailand
    Ukraine
    Egypt
    Indonesia
    Pakistan
    Kazakhstan
    Iceland
    Malaysia
    Lebanon
    Iran
    Slovak Republic
    Lithuania
    Chile
    Peru
    Romania
    Andorra
    Sri Lanka
    Croatia
    Azerbaidjan
    Slovenia
    Bahrain
    Hungary
    Venezuela
    Zimbabwe
    Uganda
    Malta
    Yugoslavia
    Luxembourg
    Belarus
    Bermuda
    Cyprus
    Bulgaria
    Kyrgyzstan
    Latvia
    Yemen
    Nigeria
    Moldova
    Estonia
    United Arab Emirates
    Monaco
    Kuwait
    Guam (USA)
    El Salvador
    Uruguay
    Namibia
    Netherlands Antilles
    Philippines
    Jordan
    Vietnam
    New Caledonia (French)
    Georgia
    Nepal
    Dominican Republic
    Bahamas
    Nicaragua
    Bosnia-Herzegovina
    Trinidad and Tobago
    Algeria
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  13. Lori added a topic in What's New at The Transgender Guide   

    Transgender Profiles
    You can now search the transgender chat profiles to locate new friends. Perhaps you can locate local friends, online confidantes or you might even meet a romantic interest.

    The transgender profiles seach tool is at http://www.tgprofiles.com

    You can also register your chat username, create or edit your own profile and log into the chat room from that page.

    Happy Searching :)

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  14. Lori added a topic in What's New at The Transgender Guide   

    Transgender Events
    There is an updated calendar of transgender events online at http://www.tgguide.com/events.html

    Please let me know if you are aware of any events we've missed.

    Events are a good way to get out, meet new friends and learn many new things about our transgendered life.

    Please post your experiences at transgender events. Perhaps you can even post if you intend to attend one of the events and would like to meet up with someone while you're there.

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  15. Lori added a topic in What's New at The Transgender Guide   

    Support Groups
    Transgender support groups in the United States have been updated. These are listed at http://www.tgguide.com/information.htm

    Please help us keep this list as current as possible by letting us know if you're aware of others that are not listed or group listings that need to be corrected. Additions or corrections can be submitted by e-mail to webmaster@tgguide.com

    You may feel free to post support groups outside the United States on this message board. We will most likely use that information to add support groups from other countries when we reach that stage of site development.

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  16. Lori added a topic in Male to Female (MtF) Crossdressers Discussion   

    Support Groups
    Transgender support groups in the United States have been updated. These are listed at http://www.tgguide.com/information.htm

    Please help us keep this list as current as possible by letting us know if you're aware of others that are not listed or group listings that need to be corrected. Additions or corrections can be submitted by e-mail to webmaster@tgguide.com

    You may feel free to post support groups outside the United States on this message board. We will most likely use that information to add support groups from other countries when we reach that stage of site development.

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  17. stephani added a blog entry in stephani's Blog   

    with every breath
    With every breath I make a choice to continue to the next, and being within the world I am forced to open my eyes to my path it may be long it may be hard but nothing that we strive for is ever easy it must all come at some cost to us... I will not fall I will hold tight to my dreams and I will never faulter with the help of good friends and the support they offer I will not fall and break... This is my promise to those that have given me hope and shinned the light of hope into my darkest place your all in my heart this new year and I hope to be your support as you have been mine this past year...

    I love you all.... Thank you
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  18. stephani added a blog entry in stephani's Blog   

    with every breath
    With every breath I make a choice to continue to the next, and being within the world I am forced to open my eyes to my path it may be long it may be hard but nothing that we strive for is ever easy it must all come at some cost to us... I will not fall I will hold tight to my dreams and I will never faulter with the help of good friends and the support they offer I will not fall and break... This is my promise to those that have given me hope and shinned the light of hope into my darkest place your all in my heart this new year and I hope to be your support as you have been mine this past year...

    I love you all.... Thank you
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  19. stephani added a blog entry in stephani's Blog   

    with every breath
    With every breath I make a choice to continue to the next, and being within the world I am forced to open my eyes to my path it may be long it may be hard but nothing that we strive for is ever easy it must all come at some cost to us... I will not fall I will hold tight to my dreams and I will never faulter with the help of good friends and the support they offer I will not fall and break... This is my promise to those that have given me hope and shinned the light of hope into my darkest place your all in my heart this new year and I hope to be your support as you have been mine this past year...

    I love you all.... Thank you
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