Hi, I'm new to this site.
I began crossdressing at a very early age, while I still lived with my parents. I got caught once with a box of undies I had stashed away from my sister's but they never really got it or something... Then about 15 years later (i.e. now that I'm 24) I've moved out and gotten a place with a roommate (male, hetero, non-crossdresser, in the dark completely). I still had the urge to go out and actually buy the clothes but couldn't really... I have no car, and the nearest store is a pretty far walk. About 2 months later, I became real good friends with a female friend from work. She's a girl that I found I could trust since she began to entrust in me many secrets of her own. I decided to come out to her... and since then we've shopped together while my roommate is at work (so I can return and stash the stuff). I wear mostly skirts, shirts, undies; I clear-coat polish my nails and use fruity lip balm. "Brenda" is much more urban girly than most crossdressers these days... from these forums, I feel like the youngest... and also probably the only one who dresses more like a typical valley girl if anything while crossdressing. Anyway, that's just my spin on things, I hope it works for you.
Hi, I'm new to the boards. Anyway, I'm a huge lover of my legs and if I had to choose I'd probably go for thigh-high stockings... usually sheer, but fishnet definitely gives a nice feeling especially after shaving.
Reading some of these posts, I feel I am among friends. I am 46 years old and have been married for 17 years. We have a wonderful 10 year old son. My wife calls me a wonderful father and a near perfect husband. My family is my treasure and their safety and happiness has always been my #1 priority in life.
However, My "one little secret" that I kept from her all these years came out accidently recently and it was quite a shock to her. I dared never tell her because my wife is considerably more prudish and even "Victorian" when it comes to non-traditional sexuality. I assured her that I was not at all gay since that seemed to be her greatest fear. I love women and worship the female figure and vulva. I have no desire to be with men, but I wish often that I were a girl so I could wear girl clothes.
She's still having a difficult time with it, but I think in time, she will see that I am basically same loving husband and father. I am hoping that she will eventually see my crossdressing as a discrete and private way in which I cope with life as a man and enjoy a wider range of sexuality. When she is well past feeling threatened by all this, I am hoping she may someday shed some of her inhibitions and we could enjoy transgendered sex together. My dream is that she will want to make love to me woman-to-woman.
Maybe I am being too optomistic, but I think that buried deep within everyone is some portion of the opposite sex that has been socially and culturally repressed. I just think that in cases of crossdressers, that female part can be substantial at times depending on hormonal levels.
I'm 46 and live near Portland, Oregon. About a dozen years ago, I put on one of my wife's old one-piece swimsuits and tucked up neatly. When I saw myself in the mirror, it was the most amazing wonderful feeling! I never felt so girlish, it was such an awesome high! I really fit a size 16, but the one I am wearing here is a 14. A bit tight yes, but I love the way it hugs my tummy, butt and crotch. Strangely, I'm crazy about one-piece suits, but bikinis hold no interest for me.
To me, wearing a swimsuit is the ultimate feminine act. Unlike panties and lingere which are essentially "private" things, a swimsuit is a socially sanctioned way for a woman to publically flaunt every nuance of her womaness. Okay, I don't wear it publically of course, but I certainly would if I were at a private CD hot tub party somewhere!
I got my fake breasts at a palce called Lingerie Mart. They ordered them for me and 3 weeks later Iw as able to pick them up myself. If you have such a store near you you might try that. (I live in Ga., north of Atlanta, so if you're around there...)
I take a different tack on this one, based in large part on my own experiences.
I knew from very early on that I was a woman, but didn't know that it was possible for a boy to be a girl inside, so I tried to hid it and repress it. Yet I still enjoyed putting on women's clothes even long before beginning adolescence, when I was six or seven.
Throughout my teens and 20's, the only relief I found was through dressing in women's clothes, and the more I did it, the less I found a need to masturbate, which was pleasing, because the physical pleasure was nice, but the reminder that I was physically male kept me from ever really enjoying it except in the moment.
I didn't want to be transsexual, I wanted to be normal, so I sorta compromised by feeding my desire to be female a little bit now and then by dressing female, which gave me a bit of relief, but only temporarily.
Here's the weird part. Since I've started taking hormones and getting electrolysis, the compulsion for dressing has gone way, way down. Because I feel more female in my body, I don't need the external confirmatiion any more.
My point here is that perhaps, for some MTF transsexuals, crossdressing is a symptom of repressed transsexuality, a stage we go through on our way to discover our true selves, while for true crossdressers, the inner self is male, but needs a bit of release from the male role once in a while.
That is a good point. I will try to get to the store and pick up one. I haven't developed the strap lines yet but there is a little redness around the underarms when I take it off in the morning. I even thought about going with a sports bra at night.
Right, I'm in sort of the same position as the other guest. How expensive is a PO Box, even if just for half a year? I can drive, and am a legal adult, barely. I believe I can open another account with a bank that isn't cosigned by my parents, but what are the chances of them approving it, and getting a checking card? I just don't think I'm ready to come out to people, and want to be discreet. Sorry for the intense questions, but it really appears to be the first viable option for dressing that I've come accross.
I wonder, I live in a fairly large city, how unusual would it be to see a barely college student buying a bra and panties?
Oh, and I'm not using the university system because this place is too small, as in the maillady actually knows me, and might connect the dots when I start picking up packages from feminine stores.
If you wish to sleep in a bra, I'd recommend one specifically designed for wearing to bed, a slumber bra. A regular one will tend to inhibit circulation and eventually you will develop unsightly strap trenches on your shoulders.
I will typically sleep in a bra, panties and my favorite nightgown. I don't have much of a fear getting caught because my grandmother (I live with her to help out with the house) keeps to herself with her room and I do the same. I have had several close calls when I was walking around the house at night but as far as I can tell, she has never seen me dressed up.
You got to be careful how far you thin your eyebrows. The recent trend is toward a more fuller look. Just like skirt lengths, eyebrow styles change over the years. There's some women out there with positively bushy brows, a look popularized by Brooke Sheilds years ago. Me? I find it not that attractive.
Well, shaving eyebrows used to be very popular in the Victorian era. Some people do it today because it gives them more freedom to redefine there facial features with makeup. I'll just keep mine though, maybe thin them a bit.