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  1. Chantel


    Well thats the way to go.  There is no easy way. I have lost maybe one or two friends but mostly they have been very supportive. I think its much better coming from me than them finding out from others.  Good luck and hope everything goes well. X Chantel.

     

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  2. MonicaPz


    Dear Emma,

    Good for you!  Thank you for checking with everyone who may be on your FB timeline, so they don't get a surprise.

    Felt freed when I came out because I couldn't take the stress "covering my tracks."

    Not into labels, but being a Lesbian is part of my core identity.

    Your friend,

    Monica

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  3. Emma


    I agree with Chantel, as you dress more and more in clothing that represents you the more that it's just fun and natural. I bought two pairs of skinny jeans on Amazon last Summer and wear them all the time, often paired with a tunic top. They are stretchy and comfy! I only wear my old Levi's 501s for work around my house (such as painting), the garden, etc. I have three pairs of those so it'll be awhile before they wear out. I'll happily give them the boot when a pair of skinny jeans is stained or something so that I can wear them doing dirty work. 

    Also as Chantel said I was so surprised that no one batted an eye, even when I turned up the cuffs and added purple tennis shoes. 

    Enjoy being and coming into yourself. Your joy will become apparent and draw people toward you. 

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  4. Chantel


    Sorry I dont know your name.  I found that I grew in confidence as time passed and now I dont think about it any more. Whether in a skirt a dress or jeans.  The secret is to look and see what other women your age and body shape are wearing and copy.  That way you'll soon be just another woman. Its really great once you begin to get gendered correctly.  You will meet Mr and Mrs Pratt on the way but just ignore them or report them. Often they work for big shops and are wearing name badges and it is so easy. I reported 2 over Christmas and one since who I didnt.  Small café with no name badge.  On the other hand I have been called Madam lots and lots of times. I can remember thinking who? hey thats me she is calling Madam.  Its the best feeling. So even if your not out just wear girl jeans anyway. Bet no one says anything. Just remember if you want to go to the gents  you can't stand in Girls jeans. :-)

     

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  5. Emma


    Dear Monica,

    Yes, I have Woolite for sure! My breasts are still pretty small. Growing and quite sensitive to bumping but no way do they fill my bra cups. I’m not sure what size they are. I guess the left is an A and the smaller right is an AA. I read that girls’ breasts take several years to develop and I’m trying to be patient. 😻😻😻

     

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  6. Lori


    Reminds me when I stopped by one of those "free makeovers" at a Clinique booth in Macy's. $650 later I walked out with all sorts of moisturizers and toners and makeup. I never used most of it, to be honest, but it felt great to have that makeover and I left with a better idea of what works best for me. I eventually opted for lower priced makeup options. 

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  7. MonicaPz


    Dear Christy,

    If you get makeup on clothes, always have some liquid Tide on hand, put some liquid Tide on the spot for at least a half an hour, and then wash. Often that solves the problem.

    Your friend,

    Monica

     

  8. MonicaPz


    Dear Emma,

    Every woman should be professionally fitted for a bra every six months. 

    Make sure you bend over and DROP your breasts into the cups every time you put on your bra.

    By the way, it is best to wash your bras and other "delicates," that you mentioned here BY HAND and in gentle liquid soap made for this purpose, the brand which is the most common, called Woolite, in lukewarm water. Also my mother, may God rest her soul, stored her delicates in their own drawer in her dresser, separated by sheets of white tissue paper.

    Your friend,

    Monica

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  9. MonicaPz


    Dear Mero,

    Just as in the cisgender male community, there is a SPECTRUM of degrees of masculinity.

    Men and women, both trans and cisgender, should learn to celebrate diversity and respect one another. Unfortunately, it takes longer for some than others! 😉

    Yours truly,

    Monica

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  10. Emma


    Mero, I agree completely with you. I have an acquaintance here locally who is also FTM, whose appearance is not so masculine, and he feels the same as you.

    I don’t know why some people try to pick themselves up by putting others down. This happens everywhere it seems, even in trans communities which is so hurtful, nasty, and counter to how I feel we all ought to be.

    As an MTF I wonder if in some ways it’s harder to be FTM especially if you are located in a more traditional male-dominated society. In places like that it’s hard for a man to be manly “enough”. 

    Regardless, you’re a man no matter what you wear or enjoy doing. A rather strong man from what I can tell by your writing. Welcome to TG Guide. I hope to hear more from you.

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  11. Lori


    You HAVE come a long way in 47 days. I can see it in your posts. :)  Congrats to you. I hope all continues to go well. There will be bumps so be ready for them. Seems you have good support with your therapist so I think you'll do well. 

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  12. Christy


    Thank you Monica😍

    I try not to but I just can’t help it!😜 The pic was actually of me. Then you put it through the app so you can see what you “might” look like. Of course I used 2 filters to get there but it was fun. It’s called face app. I am having the best day and I am all dressed as Christy!!!! I’m having to much fun to post everything so I’ll do it later. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    Christy😍

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  13. MonicaPz


    Dear Christy,

    Try not to compare yourself with others. You are beautiful inside and out.

    Your friend,

    Monica

  14. MonicaPz


    Dear MichelleLea,

    You'll find you will get out of the Chamber of Commerce what you put into it. Joining the Chamber of Commerce is one of the greatest investments you can make in your business career. They also offer programs such as SCORE, which are retired business owners and executives who offer free advice. Also they offer free or inexpensive classes on how to run a business. There are free pamphlets about various aspects on running a business. Best of all, they have a program pairing up women business owners (also people of color and disabled). 

    Love hearing about your progress!

    Yours truly,

    Monica

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    Emma


    Indeed, I enjoy motorcycle riding too (prefer off road), motorcycle engine work,  woodworking... Women enjoy these things too. I will say, though, that my KLR650 is so heavy, I’m not sure if I could pick it up anymore!

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    Lori


    I have a nice motorcycle that I loved and planned on passing it along to one of my kids. I haven’t touched it since I made this decision. Nor do I want to. Weird. I’m still keeping it though😃. 

    Hey, let's not get crazy here! ;) Girls ride motorcycles too, and look darn good on them! I think I know what you're experiencing. I went through the same thing. I actually threw away every single piece of male clothing and I quit riding my motorcycles for a period of time. Gradually, as I settled into my new gender role, I allowed myself to enjoy things I used to and started riding my street and dirt bikes again. I even wear the occasional piece of male clothing -- like motorcycle gear. Why not, if it is better suited. 

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    Christy


    Thank you girls for the advice! I can remember like it was yesterday the moment I said to myself that “I want to be a girl” and sitting in the bathroom trying to turn the p into a v. I try to pay very close attention to what people are saying & what I am thinking. If someone is a negative person I just move on. It is wasted energy in my view but I also have empathy for them as well. It stinks to live that way. IMO. I have also found myself thinking completely differently about a lot of things. I have a nice motorcycle that I loved and planned on passing it along to one of my kids. I haven’t touched it since I made this decision. Nor do I want to. Weird. I’m still keeping it though😃. I’d rather get my nails done than play golf. Music taste is changing. I could go on but you all know this already. Right now I am just trying to enjoy all of it because it is amazing. Fascinating really. What an experience. 😁 thank you, thank you, thank you 

    Christy😍

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  18. Emma


    I’m so glad for you, Michelle! Yes, maybe you’ve found a niche. More likely, you’ve found that you can do it. Now’s the time to really push yourself to locate and open new opportunities. Ride the success wave! There’s nothing like it. 

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