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With or Without Support


Michele800226

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Got asked about documentation my mom couldn't find, so I handed her what I stored away in the safe.  After finding the documents, I reiterated that it might be difficult to do what she wants as my gender marker and first name are being changed slightly.  And all I got was, it's your life and your problem when I'm dead.

 

I've always known my support came from my father, so with the lack of support from the one we call Hammie (what my siblings and I call our mother).  But I also know, that out of guilt I am mentioned in a will I want nothing to do with.  I also know as the last born, my responsibilities to listen to my immediate elders input, I should listen and react as desired, but as with all families you need to walk your own path towards your happiness and fulfillment.

 

In this short piece I'm just trying to say, don't let negative or cold shoulders or emotionally detached family dictate what makes you happy and whole.  If you do follow what they want of you or let their attitudes dictate you feeling depressed because they seem like the only people in your life that should care for you.  DONT LET YOUR FAMILY FORCE YOU INTO SOMETHING THAT IS MAKING YOU UNHAPPY, AS THEY ARE SUPPOSED TO BE THE CORNER STONES IN YOUR LIFE THAT SUPPORTS YOU IN ALL PARTS OF YOUR LIFE.  And if you have that support, be grateful, you were granted a support structure you can call at any time.

 

Much love...

Michele

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Dear Michele,

Boy, did I really need to hear that!  Feel I am being pressured to attend another family reunion (went to my first in decades last year), which I feel is very homophobic and toxic.  All the Lesbians and Gaymales live on the other coast!  Hate being the only Lesbian there, with the exception of a deeply closeted, married Lesbian cousin!  

Had a very toxic relationship with both of my parents and siblings, and I would like to encourage everyone to keep an open mind, as people CAN change, but to be very careful about allowing themselves to be victimized!

Have to remember my REAL family is my TLGB family!

Your sister,

Monica

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Monica

 

I get all the support from friends.  But ask some of them, they'll say we family.  CIS African males, none the less.  I'm just the quirky sister with a lighter skin.

 

I've got a limited amount of TLGB family AMD the support is overwhelming at times, but we manage to survive.

 

I've got a friend that wants to marry me off to her brother.

 

You'll enjoy the next entry I'm going to post now, Massage gone flustered

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