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JayM

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So, I spent a fair amount of time on the web yesterday, researching the various ways I can change my name. While there are some very simple ways to do it, there seems to be one best way that is accepted as 'official' with regards to obtaining a passport and driving licence in the new name, so I reckon I'll have to go with that.

And then it got me thinking about names. For years, I thought I would be going for James as my new name. It just seemed like "me". I can't explain it any other way. Then I liked Jamie for a while too - and with Scottish blood in my family line, James gets converted to Jamie quite often in Scotland, so if I went for James as my official name, I could still let people call me Jamie, I suppose, if that was what I wanted.

For the purposes of registering on this website, I called myself Jay. And I realised I like that name lots too. Last night I came to the conclusion I was still undecided on what I'll end up choosing, although all my favourites begin with J. My birth name begins with J so maybe it's for that reason that I'm seemingly sticking with something beginning with J. My signature could remain the same, if I have a first name beginning with J. My last name isn't going to change any time soon, it would appear, now that my husband is backing me in my desire to transition. But I'm pretty sure that's not the reason I initially decided on James, all those years ago. Changing a signature isn't a big thing. Changing a name is. Choosing something that will work for the rest of my life is a big deal.

But there are millions of names out there to choose from, so how does one choose the perfect new name?

I work for a company that has over 100k employees. There is only one other person, in the whole of the company, who has the same last name as me. Given the size of the population, that's a little surprising. Guess what his first name is? It's Jay. I only remembered that fact last night while lay in bed, staring at the ceiling, unable to sleep.

But today, I think I'm a James, after all. And I think I always have been.

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Dear James Esquire,

I'm really glad that you're progressing, I changed my name to that given to me by my wife, via UK Deed Poll Service, and have had less trouble than when I tried to do it myself via an on-line free service. However it was a time of being frustrated by certain organisations......................I hope all goes smoothly for you sir.

Have you seen Karen Paynes latest entry with a video clip about Transgender Through Time, it makes interesting watching because it gives equal coverage to F to M as it does to M to F. However it seems to have been made in the early Blair era, so although interesting, it doesn't reflect Transgender today, after all the legal changes regarding equality etc..

You'll have to change the title of your blog to coming out of the darkness soon.!............

Cheers,

Eve

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I probably will have to change the blog name, you're right! I hope you won't charge me commission for that idea ;)

It looks like it will be Deed Poll for me too. The Passport Office suggested it has to be 'enrolled' Deed Poll, as well, which seems to make a mockery of having quicker, easier and cheaper ways available to do it :huh: 

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Yes, but that's officialdom for you, saying that officialdom allows you the freedom so that you can do things, but at the same time letting you know that it won't help you, because it's not accepted by officialdom, sound's a bit like Sir Humphrey Appelby in Yes Minister doesn't it?

UK Deed Poll Service documents were fine and readily accepted by Passport Office and DVLA, don't forget to get your vehicle ownership details changed as well as your licence...........have fun and enjoy!

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My name decision was fairly easy, I just moved my middle name up to the first spot (christie was my mother's maiden name, that's how I got it originally).  I'm not sure what I would have picked if I didn't have that - there is an easy "feminization" of my birth name, buy I didn't like it much.

I have a favorite musician who's name I could have used (I did take her middle name), but it was my sister's name already :(

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I felt like a Karen so I selected Karen for that reason. My last name came from my students calling me the "Giver of Pain" (defensive tactics instructor) and from that came Payne.

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Hiya James. I recently contacted the UK Deed Poll Service, as I Am going to Officially, Change My Name, very soon. I Will change it to Stephanie Jayne Susan, ( at least ), although I May add another name, plus I May keep My Surname, ( For now at Least ).  They Also Have A One Hour Service. If You want to visit UK Deed Poll Service, You can in Person. Their Address is :- UK Deed Poll Service, Freebournes Court, Witham, Essex, CM8 2BL, United Kingdom. Their Telephone Number's are:- 0800 448 8484. ( Free Call's, From Landlines, or Mobile's ). Otherwise, 0333 444 8484 ( From Mobiles ).  Opening Times, are Monday's to Friday's, 09:00 to 18:00 ; Saturday's, and Bank Holiday's, 09:00 to 13:00 ; Sunday's, and Christmas Day, and Boxing Day, CLOSED ALL DAY.  James, Well Done, with how You are Already Doing.  I hope that the information that I have given You, is Helpful. Eveannessant is right about using the UK Deed Poll Service. It Is The Best Way, to change Your Name Officially !    James, Good Luck Young Man. Take Care, and My Very Best Wishes, Stephanie. xoxo. 

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