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How i went about coming out to my school

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So wanting to dress, walk, talk and live the way you want to around your peers and younger students may be very daunting. i know it has it downs, but the reward is so worth it 

cheesy quote 'this journey is a climb, but the views great' yes half quote taken from my girl Hannah Montannah (miley cyrus) 

One day i woke up and decided, i want to glam before going to school, that i want to wear a school summer dress and hang out with all the girls and be 'one of the girls'. i wanted to take how i felt on the inside and how i live secretly and put that on display. 

the next day i went to my school councilor and told her. before i did that tho i made a new facebook account, uploaded a photo with how i look with my clothes and wig on and made a status basically "cooming out". i had no idea what the reaction would be like. I have never felt till that day the overwhelming love and support. by the end of the night i had tones of people inboxing me telling me how proud they were, people i hadn't even spoken to before. it made me feel beautiful and really loved by my community and accepted. I defiantly couldn't of done it withoight there support. the most nicest inbox is that i got a inbox of a video of 2 girls just telling me how much they love me, these 2 girls i have never seen before (shoutout if you girls are reading this) that inbox really stands out even to this day.

So like i said the next day i went to my councillor and just told her and told her what i wanted to do and how i wanted to go about it. I had fear of big rejection and quite frankly i thought that the school would just say no to me. She said to let her address the principle team and see what they think and how she should go about it. To my surprise they were more then supportive, they were even excited for me to do it. They were proud for to have a transgender student in there school, they were so excited for this to happen they gave me the female uniform for free!!!! 

After telling the principle team (meanwhile word of mouth spread throughout the school to the students so students already knew) it was time to tell the ENTIRE faculty. I did not have to say yes to this, i could just have my own teachers told but i decided then and there that i wanted to make it as public as possible as if i couldn't be confident in who i was and show how happy i was then how could others. Teachers support really is one key thing to take into consideration. I still remember the day we told them. They held a compulsory staff briefing, and after the principle told them i was given the opportunity to go in and say hello and talk to them. Again i did not have to do this, i tho said i wanted to be involved as much as possible. My english teacher came out to me and just gave me the biggest hug and said how proud she was, then she said 'you don't have to do this, there are a lot of people in there and you don't have to do this if you don't want to', with her i went in and was introduced as blair. I was overwhelmed with a applause from every single one and hugs from all my teachers. I FELT LIKE A STAR!!! i remember walking out thinking that i had won a golden globe or something. 

we then set a date for me to come in full female uniform. before then i allowed even the councillor and school nurse to go around to the school to tell everyone about my personal life and the whole transgender thing, i was even going to go in as well but unfortunately i was sick. 

Not to say i haven't had a few slight bad comments from my peers. However i can not stress how much support i have and how beautiful and accepted because of this. I can honestly say i have never had so many friends in my life because of this. each day im surrounded by loads of people that love and support me and just want to get to know the true me. 

 

now if this blog update doesn't make you feel confident to come out to your school and give you the security that things will go okay then what will? please feel free to message me!!!! I am incredibly blessed with my transition and am a prime example of it going very well, so i think people going through the same thing could learn a lot and be helped by me. 

 

Anyways, should wrap this up now. 

 

Thanks so much for whoever has read this xxxxxxxxxxx.

p.s sorry for the spelling 

 


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so happy for you  hugs

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Thanks babe, Hugs x

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Hiya Blair. Firstly, Welcome to TGGuide. You are very Welcome here. Secondly, Congratulations on Coming Out. I Am Stephanie, a 53 Year-Old MtoF Transitioning Transsexual, from Aylesbury, Buckinghamshire, in the UK. I Came-Out as Transsexual, on 30th. April, 2015, and I have been Fully; Full-Time; Female-Dressed, and Living; since 1st. May, 2015.  Blair,  be Proud to be You, Sweetheart.  It Is a Long journey, We are on. I Registered My Transsexuality with My Doctor's on 25th. June, 2015, and on the Same Date, they Registered it for Me, with the Gender Identity Clinic, at London's Charing Cross Hospital.  Coming-Out, was like having a Massive Weight, Lifted-Off Both of My Shoulder's.  I Am Now a much happier Person, than I have ever been. I have known since I was 3 Year's of Age, that I Am Female; Trapped; in a Male Body. I have Always hated My Male Part's, and I Do want Full Gender Reassignment Surgery.  Blair, Be Happy, Be You. Enjoy being Who You really are.  Have Fun on the Way.  I will suggest that if You have Not yet, that You try and find a Trans-Friendly Cafe or Somewhere that You could visit, Locally. Blair, If You would like to speak, I and others on TGGuide are here. Blair, Take Care Young Lady, and My Very Best Wishes, Stephanie. 

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Hiya Blair Jamie. Sorry, but I forgot to say, that Blair Jamie is a very Pretty name. A very Pretty name, for a very Pretty Young Lady !  I Love Being Feminine, because I love Clothes Shopping, especially Pretty, Sexy, Clothes, but also Pretty, Lacy, Sexy, Undies as well. I love wearing Sexy, Black, Pretty, Bra's; Knickers; Suspender-Belt's; and Stocking's !  I also love Perfume. Wearing Giorgio is My Favourite. I wear Giorgio perfume every day.  Blair, do You like Perfume ?  By the Way, It Is far better to Transition whilst You are Young, than Middle-Aged like Me !  Blair, Take Care Young Lady, and My Very Best Wishes, Stephanie. 

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Blair,

I clicked that I like this, but I don't really, - I love it ! It shows how far transitioning has evolved, and also that for young people, who don't "feel right" in their bodies or attire, can do something about it, with full support from an enlightened and progressive school. How lucky you are to have such support. I guess that you must feel very liberated now that you don't have to carry a burdomesome secret any longer, being open and honest is so much easier.................as I found out after a 56 year struggle.

I hope you have a lovely and fulfilling life for the future, being who you want to be, not who others think you should be.

Eve

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To steph, 

Thank you so much for sharing your personal journey with me. I appreciate you commenting as i love hearing how others have gone about there journey and how there transition has happened. I wish you all the luck on your transition and hope you cant get and afford all the surgery you need, as i too can not wait till i turn 18 so i can have my full gender re assigment surgery. Thank you for your kind words as well and i to love my name hahaha. 

 

to eve, 

yes it really does show just how far transitioning and how society has changed overt time with accepting and helping people transition, i really do appreciate your comment as it makes me think just how hard it would have been for you to have dealt with this struggle for over 56 years, plus having to deal with it in a complete different society back then. The important thing now is your a beautiful woman living the way you want and we are both liberated now. I just hope by sharing my story and writing this blog that i can show everyone how far it has come and give faith back to the trans community, i also hope youth can read this and see just how accepting society is and maybe spark the confidence they need to take that step. Thank you for your comment

 

-Blair xoxo

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Hi there Blair

 

It can be overwhelming at times, but hey it's all about puberty and you are luckier then most to go through it only once.  Congratulations on your coming out at school, because I was always told I'm crazy when I tried to do that at school.  Stay motivated and grow stronger with the knowledge that you are perfectly you.

 

Hugs

Michele H

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Hi there Michele, 

 

You're 100% right, i am am so lucky to have had the reaction I've had and to be treated the way i have been as i know even to this day most people in the same circumstance as me would not have the support of there school, family, friends and society. Most people will not receive overwhelming amount of messages from complete strangers showing them the support i have received. THAT is why i want to speak out about my journey and talk about things that we all in the trans community go through to try and make it easier on those trans people who haven't had it easier, and to make them feel at little bit more at ease that things will get better and by providing my story it could help them too. 

 

thank you for your kind words, i appreciate your comments xxxxx

hugs 

Blair 

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