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What is Important in a Relationship


MonicaPz

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What is Important in a Relationship

What I have noticed is that many people create their own loneliness either by not being mindful of what they are looking for in a partner or what they can offer to a partner.

Many people think that love just "happens," to them ("you'll know you're in love when it happens to you," as my dear Mother used to say, may God rest her soul).

Here's an example, based on my own life, and I recommend people to make such a list so they can be more aware of their needs:

What I Can Bring To The Table

  • Supportive personality
  • Fiscally responsible
  • Kind
  • Faithful
  • Committed
  • Monogamous
  • Understanding
  • Not demanding
  • Well-mannered
  • Low maintenance
  • Wide variety of interests
  • Not materialistic
  • Simple lifestyle
  • Not looking for a "Sugar Mama"

What My Needs Are

  • Supportive personality
  • No drama
  • No smoking
  • No drugging
  • No heavy drinking
  • Faithful
  • Committed
  • Monogamous
  • Must understand I am on a budget
  • Open to Living Apart Together (LAT)
  • Am allergic to pets/tobacco smoke 
  • My partner must be clean and dress neatly
  • My partner must have the same degree of femininity (mid-butch) as me, or more feminine

Basically, I could be with a wide range of women, rather than a "type," but they have to have an excellent CHARACTER.

This is an example of writing it all down, instead of keeping it all in your head, so that you will have a more clear idea of what you can offer others in a relationship and what is important to you in a relationship.

 

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Like Billie Joel says, "Just the way you are."  Not what I think you should be.  BTW, I got dumped a decade ago.  I live alone, but I'm not lonely.  It may just be a personal frame of mind.

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