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The disillusion in relationships.


sweetisraeli

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I may be jealous or full of envy, I am just protective of what is mine. We tend to say this more than often to ourselves when another women or transwomen is connecting with our man. Its either he wants to have freinds or he is just being nice. I may have a problem but I dont want anyone else telling me that I do. I may just be paranoid, but I will deal with it myself, my way. Why do men argue that they want to have freinds, shouldn't they be happy that we're so protective? Maby I am suspecting that he will cheat on me. We know men's motives and their intentions when they give another women attention. Just being kind respectful, but why does my man go out of his way to always greet this women everytime he see's her. At least do it behind my back so I dont see it, where's my respect. I know that my man is very sexual and given the chance I beleive he will have sex with another women just to not miss out on some hetero sex. where does that leave me? It leaves me very upset. I forgive him for cheating on me but I will never forget. I think this memory is still stuck in my mind. Afterall I am the one who gives him sex not all these others and I am the one who takes care of him, I clean for him, cook and most of all, I give him my love. So I don't think I am wrong if I do feel jealous or envious about him giving another women attention, I deserve not to feel that way.

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I got several disillusion relationships lately. I am OK now. I prefer to work nowadays better than suffering for who doesn't care about you. If somebody wants me, man or woman, he or she should be honest. I'm luckily to be bisexual, there's no reason to suffer anymore.

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Shalom,

Let me explain the issue from the other side. I am MtF so I try to be as feminine as I can be. I really need support and friends during this process so I try to make new friendships.

I have a girlfriend. We’ve been together for 8 years, long before I realized my transsexual motives. She was always “protective” she even “protected” me from my childhood friends. We solved this problem during the years.

Now I’m transitioning and seeking for new friends who can understand me, support me. She asks why I am not contented by her support only. Whenever a new friendship starts to bloom she became jealous and tries to end that friendship.

I never wanted to live anyone instead her. I never wanted to go to bed anyone instead her. I never cheated her during these eight years although I am really sexual and lustful person. Since estrogen, progesterone and antiandrogen take their effect in me, I’m really longing for the love of a man, but I never would cheat her not even with the most handsome, cute and caring man. This is a very weird feeling to me, as I didn’t find males attractive before; including myself, I found myself the less attractive, precisely.

So it’s simple. I just want support form another side, you have to be supported from more than one side to remain stable. :) Moreover I really need someone who not thinks that my transsexualism must remain within the walls of our house.

But every time and after I have to face that she can’t bear any new person in my life, regardless of gender, age, geographical distance or anything. She treats these would-be friends as competitors for my heart. I showed my devotion for her for years in vain…

This is not protection. It’s possession. I love her, so I remain by her side at all costs. But I really hate this behavior; it sometimes makes me think that our 8 years together was wasted time. :(

So don’t “protect” your beloved man with all your might. This protection could be the doom of your relationship.

Hugs,

Sophie

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