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How many times have you been mistaken as a girl

Last week I was called Mam four times. Even had one restaurant employee say " Welcome ladies - how are you doing" as I entered his restaurant. I have given up correcting people, actually kind of like how it makes me feel. A month ago in boy mode I was at a sports expo and had stopped at a booth selling shoe inserts. The shop/booth owner was busy and asked one of his workers to "please help this woman" I could not believe myself - how feminine I must have looked to him. (Really was not trying) Yesterday, I had two women runners make commits on my shaved legs "how are they were so perfect" and "perfect looking legs"

Have any of you all had these kind of comments - even when in boy mode?


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Wow... lately people approaching me from behind, have been calling me "Ma'am".... often... like 3 times last week alone, since my hair is a lot longer, and legs are always shaved. I wear shorter shorts than most men, *and many women... lol .. Mid-thigh shorts or higher, I prefer higher, the shorter the better for me... I am liking it a lot.. but makes for some "awkward" moments... I like it though... says I'm doing something right... I don't go out "en femme" really, anymore.. just more feminine. Tonight though, I think I will push it more with short jean skirt, pantyhose, lipstick, heels, and painted toes.. It is a meeting that I go to, that is T-girl or crossdresser friendly, an LGBT group, sort of... I like to dress like that, and it is one of the few opportunities I have available, without shocking all of my family and friends...

 

Great Item - see response below - Dawn

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Three times today I had people open the door for me.  Anyone having the same experiences lately?   Dawn

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Reposted from "Being Transgender not a Mental Disorder"

So difficult to sort out the feelings versus the male body I have underneath.  Three days ago, I just was talking to one of my best girl friends when we were at a running expo - she was part of a staff selling running skirts when I stopped at her booth.  "I told her it was so unfair." (That men - feminine looking men like me - are ostracized when openly wanting to wear a cute stylish shirt in a race or run).  She showed me a new product that they finally have developed. A collet short for men made of the same fabric as the shirt/s and almost a skirt in form.  I bought one of these with a matching unisex headband.  She actually got the same matching skirt so at some point we hope to get a picture of us both together wearing our matching outfits.

The real point is even though I go to counceling about my being transgender - there is definitely something inside of me that goes beyond my desire to be a straight male in thought and body.  Over time I have actually become more feminine in looks to better accommodate my feelings; I now have very long hair, two earrings I wear all of the time, a weight closer to that of a women allowing me to wear junior's shorts and tops; some new breast tissue to the point I now can and actually need to wear my new sports bras.  Still I go out primarily as a male as I did in a recent running race. I remember at the race a girl runner actually saying as she walked by in a hearable voice to another runner.  Isn't that a woman (Looking at me).  Other guy friend said - no its a man.

I am now happier in my own skin.  My therapist told me it is OK to wear unisex items and girls items, shorts/tops, that are kind of unisex.  She did tell me that I should not wear a skirt because of what it appears to do to my mind.  But again - this is really who I am, a girl, in my mind.  Dawn

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Hello Lexi - Great! Item!  I like the going more feminine part without trying.  Dawn

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My recent gender bender.  Went to my hair stylist a couple of weeks ago wearing all women's wear including a bra. (My stylist also does my pedicures and waxes my eyebrows)  She told me my hair was now finally long and was longer than most of her women customers as women currently coming to her are now getting shorter cuts.  About her she has always been a tall muscular woman.  Much heaver than me.  She commented that it looked like I had 'lost weight" and that she liked my turquois "earrings"  I said I did not think so since I had seen her last.  Then I started to think she could see my bra straps or that she knew I was transgender.  After she draped me in pink we got into a discussion of fitness and she told me she had increased her weight lifting to as much as two hours a day.  She asked me to feel her bicep and I did and it was both large and hard.  I said you can "feel mine" and she did.  'Soft' was her comment. Then she said it was "OK" and that she was going to make me beautiful and she did. She gave me a very nice feminine haircut; matching my outfit.  When I saw my image when she was done I actually felt I was passable as a woman leaving her salon.  The attached photo was taken after the visit; me in a dress.  Dawn

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Monica did you see this post?

 

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New_Bra_7.thumb.jpg.233c2c66c69e10f6fed3One of my new bras now that I have something to cover and support.

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