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Spilling The Beans Part II

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Over the past several days, I've been coming out a little more. Back on 2-22, I told my oldest sister and her fiance. It all started when I mentioned that I feel like several people live in me and at least one of them is a girl. The only reaction I got was when my sister told me not to get the surgery, and she believes Bruce Jenner would not look good as a woman. I told her that I'm not sure where this will lead. I couldn't afford treatment, anyway, and the pain would really make a cry baby out of me.

Just yesterday, I let my one friend from church hear more about it. This is the same one I told back on February 8 and I wrote about it in the first blog about spilling the beans. I let him know this is far from over, because I spent so many years trying to deny this thing, swearing up and down that I cannot be this way. My friend believes I might have to receive my sight in order for this to go away. He reassured me that I'm still part of the body of Christ. This friend dreamed, several years ago, about me receiving my sight. He strongly believes it's going to come true, someday. In the meantime, he's keeping my transgender confession between us. Any time I'm alone with him, I feel I am going to have to keep pouring this stuff out and getting it off my chest. I cannot even open up to my parents about this. It will give them more of a reason to call me a weirdo and tell me I just need to grow up. I've heard that stuff, all my life, for other reasons. Anyway, a key confession I told my friend, yesterday, is how, when it comes to needing someone to lead me to a bathroom, I prefer women to do it instead of men, never mind my biological designation as male. I am more concerned with what's between my ears and what's inside this shell of flesh and bones. The friend never criticized or warned me I will go to hell if I don't straighten up and fly right. He just listened. He's at a loss as to what to tell me other than his belief that it would have to come with divinely receiving eyesight through Jesus' healing power. I am a firm believer in miracles, and I ask God, all the time, to heal me, as I am created by Him and for Him. As long as he leaves the thorn in me, he will give me the grace to deal with it. That's especially comforting when I often have to deal with unexplainable physical discomfort I get in the manly region. Doctors haven't been able to figure out why I burn down there. I don't always empty the bladder, and that's a mystery. All they can say is I just need to learn to live with it. I told the friend of this bizarre connection between the feeling female around men, something that's been there since I was 4 or 5, and the burning sensation I've had for several years. We just leave it up to God. Only he knows what good is possibly going to come from all of this. So, as for now, I am blind and I am transgender, and there's nothing I can do about it. I cannot deliver myself. It's up to God, and if he's at all offended by the way I am, he alone will change it. It is what it is. He knows I long to be saved in the end.


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Dear Jenny,

Years ago, took care of an autistic man who had recurrent scar tissue in the urethra, caused by multiple catheterizations (he had many surgeries all his life, starting as a baby), that caused a burning sensation and a backup of urine, sometimes to the point of not urinating at all. Had to take him to many doctors to get it fixed. It is a painful procedure to get it fixed. In his case, this was life-threatening, so we had no choice.

Would suggest you consider Puritan Pride "triple cranberry" soft gels, one in the A.M. and one in the P.M. to start, and later, one at Noon, if needed. Their phone number is 1-800-645-1030.

Hope this helps.

Yours truly,

Monica

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Hi Jenny,

I'm a believer that God doesn't make mistakes, loves his creations, and we're all created in his image. Like all of us, you're in that boat too. He (and we) loves you.

A larger challenge is dealing with friends and family here where we live. I'd say you're doing remarkably here too. I hope that someday you do receive your sight. But regardless, your feelings are not a matter of your growing up, straightening up, or whatever. They don't go away. And you're beautiful the way you are.

Emma

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