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  1. Kudos to Rihanna.  I've commented a few times here around the board that I felt some were simply "going after" trans people to capture some sensational angle... and thereby making a rather nice payday for themselves.

    If Rihanna does employ a transgender person... just as she says it's not her business if a person is trans, it should also not matter to anyone else.  You either like her beauty products or you don't.   After all... is that not the market she's in - beauty products, not human grandstanding?

    Nice catch of an article, C2P.

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  2. "Did the experience help "mold me". "  --Denise Grace

    If you are asking if the "experience" caused you to be trans....   NO.

    I think such a question is one that is often asked, not only by family and friend that would prefer we were homosexual, but by the transsexual of him-/herself in a sometimes desperate attempt at explaining why s/he is the way s/he is.  This society, while not completely (or even mostly) accepting of homosexuals, has come to a point where they deem homosexuality better than transsexuality.

    Transsexuals, like homosexuals, are not made, but born.   And if the far right, more-often-than-not cisgender, bible-thumping bigots wanna lay blame anywhere... they should start with themselves, since most of us are born to heterosexual, cisgender, male/female unions.

    It is not your fault.  And the individual who interacted inappropriately with you cannot take credit.  Only thing that individual is worth, is what's horked up and spat on the sidewalk.

    -Michael

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  3. Hi Judy -

    First, I am very sorry to hear about your mother's health problems.  Whether she realizes it or not... she has a very loving child which is very apparent in your being there and trying to take care of her.

    Your frustration is pretty evident.  Sounds like you've gone from being able to do whatever you'd liked when you wanted, to now you have to be straight-laced with much of your time no longer being your own.

    I don't know how bad your mother's dementia is, but is it such that you could dress and her really not know what's going on?   If not... can you not wear stockings or women's underwear under your men's clothes?  Or some other article of women's wear that could help you feel more like Judy?  It could possibly help between times when you are able to go out.

    -Mike

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  4. "Transparent" is one of the few creations including a trans character that I have enjoyed.  While I am sorry to hear of the allegations against Jeffrey Tambor, who played Moira, I can't help but wonder how his departure from the program will affect the storyline.  

    Will they get another actor to take Tambor's place and keep Moira... or will they find a way to write Moira out?  Without Moira, without the transgender parent, it's just my opinion that "Transparent" will just be another primetime-like drama.

    I haven't seen "OITNB" - perhaps it's time to check it out....

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  5. Hello entityfree... and welcome to TG Guide.

    You have expressed a few things that are concerning.  There are several issues that appear need addressing by professionals.

    "i have had the thought that i could be pregnant, or growing female organs."
    --- If you were born male, with male genitalia/reproductive organs, and were in no way born intersex, there is no way you can be pregnant.  Additionally, neither HRT for the purpose of medically transitioning, nor over-the-counter supplements of any sort will enable you to "grow" or develope female genitals/reproductive organs.  Since you have posted in the intersex forum, perhaps you suspect being intersex, and should speak to a health professional, and possibly even your parents.

    "how effective is urethra expanding devices and what is the outcome?"
    --- I have only ever heard of urethra lengthening, which is done for trans men who opt for metoidioplasty or full phaloplasty.  I can't imagine what purpose there could be for urethra expanding.

    "what abortion and birth control drugs or methods are good for transf people?"
    --- This sounds as if you are soliciting for information on self-medicating for the purposes of transitioning without the help, guidance and supervision of a medical professional.   This board discourages self-medicating, and does not allow the discussion of such.  We would strongly recommend that you speak to your primary care physician or other medical professional if it is your desire to medically transition.

    "what could be the cause of the bloating?"
    --- Abominal bloating can be caused by a number of things.  If this bloating does not resolve itself in a reasonable amount of time, again, you should contact your PCP.

    I would suggest that you do a little homework to dispell what appears to be a plethora of myths and misinformation that you are trying to apply to transsexuality (and being intersex).  Besides speaking to your PCP, perhaps you should also seek out a competent, gender therapist to ferret out any issues, and to determine what issues you may be experiencing - if any of them are gender related at all.  If it turns out you are intersex, a therapist could also help you through all of the emotional up-heaval that might accompany that discovery.

    -Michael

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  6. UPDATE --

    November 21, 2017
    "In ruling that the ban likely violates the federal constitution, the court found noted that “A capricious, arbitrary, and unqualified tweet of new policy does not trump the methodical and systematic review by military stakeholders qualified to understand the ramifications of policy changes.”"  -aclu.org

    Federal Court Blocks All Aspects of Trump’s Transgender Military Ban

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  7. Anyone notice how in several incidents, the suspects (if/when found) were charged with only second-degree murder?  

    From the DailyBeast article ---The story about a woman who was murdered, and then her body burned, REALLY got me, "surveillance video led police to arrest 45-year-old Michael Davis and charge him with second-degree murder and first-degree arson. As the Journal noted, police investigators determined that there had been a “personal relationship” between the alleged killer and the transgender woman."

    It's as if the arson is considered the more heinous of the two crimes!!

    WHY??

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  8. So true nature is unkind to both - trans women get the better genitals if they opt for GCS, and of course they don't have to deal with scars on their chests.  On the flip side of that coin, though we're missing the right plumming... many trans men are rarely if ever noticed as anything but men.

    I didn't mean to come off as ungrateful - I am glad to see more in the media about trans men.  And it's funny you mention that "sisterhood."  I've always known it existed - I just never understood it.  I'm not even sure I really know what it feels like or what the requirements are.  I do know, however, that any female past the age of the onset of puberty seems to sense that I don't belong.  It's very unsettling.

    Best wishes to you also for a happy T-day...  :)

    -Michael

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  9. It's nice that TIME saw fit to give some face time to men.

    Ironically, I find that the sexism is still blaringly obvious in that, the article highlights how society treats a person once they are perceived as male.   Just under the surface, no matter how progressive this society prefers to claim it is, men are still more important than women.  Makes me wonder if the author of that piece even realized or entertained the idea that trans woman are also subjected to a sexually cultural change, in that they are no longer treated as men, and therefore are no longer afforded "male privilege."  

    Or if it would even have mattered.  After all, they're only women...

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  10. I'm not sure how or why the links were the same for all three women in my update above... but I've fixed them. 

    And while I'm at it, I hate to say anything to over-shadow the wins of people from our community...  but, I was a tad disappointed that these accomplishments didn't seem to get much coverage in mainstream news.  Talkshow hosts sure jumped on it though... they thoroughly enjoyed that karma jumped up and bit many haters in the posterior!

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  11. Don't go there, change your shopping outlet and stay out stereo type straight personalities. Dont pick a fight.

    I don’t think that’s the point, no one picked a fight. I think the shows are excellent as they show the humanity of what it can be to be transgender. We also see good role models for customers. Very educational for unaware cis people.

    ​Not to mention, these are staged incidents to get the reactions of people who witness the situations - so it wouldn't be fair to avoid those entities.

    I think one of these vids is floating around in another area of the Board, 'cause I KNOW I posted a comment...   thinking_or_confused.thumb.jpg.a3698314c

     

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  12. Last night, in the thread "Trans Women Storming the Political Arena," I mentioned that there was a trans man running for a seat in Minneapolis also - the same City where Andrea Jenkins just won.  Phillippe Cunningham, a former staffer to the mayor and teacher, has won Ward 4, putting two trans people on Minneapolis' 13 seat City Council.

    Meanwhile, in Pennsylvania another trans man has won a position on the Erie Public School Board.  Tyler James Titus, an openly transgender man and clinical therapist, ran for and won one of four open seats on the board.

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  13. In at least two places in the country, people have beat out homophobes, haters, and just run-of-the-mill sheeple -

    A woman in VA wins an election over an incumbent homophobe who brags about being Virginia's "chief homophobe," and "earlier this year introduced a 'bathroom bill' that died in committee."  That woman, Danica Roem, an openly transgender democrat and local journalist.

             AND, wait for it --- THERE'S MORE....

    In Minneapolis, Andrea Jenkins won in a race for City Council, representing the city's Eighth Ward.  She was endorsed by the Minneapolis Star Tribune, and she beat out three other candidates for the seat.   She was also endorsed by the Democratic-Farmer-Labor Party.

    Also, two other TGLB people are running for seats in Minneapolis - Phillipe Cunningham (trans man) and Jillia Pessenda (cisgender lesbian).  The results of their races were not in a the posting of this news.

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  14. Hey Mo... and welcome.

    That issue with the DNA test blows me away.  How can a lab refuse to provide test results to a doctor, and especially the doctor who ordered the test??  What is their reason?  Is this entity still so uptight about the intersex condition that they take it upon themselves to deny people information?   I can't get over this.  I don't see how a lab can with-hold the results of any lab test from anyone having the right to the results.  Can your doc send a sample off to a different lab?

    :blink:

    -Mike

     

     

     

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  15. "The value of therapy is legitimate but overstated. Informed consent should really be the model - which in one variation simply means the patient is capable of making an informed choice,  not necessarily that they do. The WPATH standards are very paternalistic and a serious obstacle to people with limited means."  -- Chrissy

    I've always felt that somewhere along the line, the "patient" has to take [some] responsibility.  The therapist is not a god, and is not the answer to everything. 

    Also, unless I misunderstood something in that article, the problem was that a good number of those who transitioned from male-to-female, were unhappy with living in a world that considers and treats women as second class citizens - that's NOT the fault of the therapist in my opinion if one cannot deal with the whole meal, and should not be a reason to punish everyone else, or throw up more road blocks to transition or social understanding and acceptance.  Anyone on this earth who claims to be totally ignorant of how females (no matter the age) are regarded, lives under a rock and has never been in contact with other human beings, or is lying.

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  16. By Bil Browning · Wednesday, October 11, 2017
    "Also appearing will be House Minority Whip Steve Scalise who was recently wounded in a mass shooting in DC. Scalise’s life was saved by a lesbian police officer who shot and killed the attacker. Scalise has said the incident did not change his mind about gun control or LGBT rights."  -lgbtqnation.com

    Trump will become first president to speak at hate group gathering

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  17. Dara's first edition was self-published, her second edition was recently released by Skyhorse Publishing. I'm proud to say that I helped edit the draft for Dara and have a mention in the 'thank you' section at the end of the book! (I've not nor will I receive any compensation.) I highly recommend the book for anyone questioning their gender identity, where they are on the spectrum, and to learn insights about themselves and others. 

    ​You GO, girl! ;)
    Congrats.. Dara Hoffman-Fox must surely be very greatful for your in-put.

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  18. Hi ToeMay...that's a cute little girl ya have there.  Amazing how our pets, our sometimes-the-only-one-we-can-depend-on friends, can do what way too many people can't do - love us, and be there for us, unconditionally.

    Here's my little girl...it was early.  Well, earlier than she wanted to get up and wasn't too happy about being awakened.  When she was a puppy, I had to literally get her out of bed.  She was a lazy lil thing... :lol:
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    Now she's hell on wheels and there's no slowing her down.  But she still likes to cuddle in the mornings and is content to stay in bed with me for however long.
     

     

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