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  1. "In the end it all comes down to what is cheaper,  cost of running the Court fees than settle cheaper long term cost. 

    "And it wasn't about morals but cost at the end of day."   --cross2play

    Sadly, at least on the part of the school system, this is probably too true.  They couldn't care less about the student and his rights, emotional well-being, or anything related to being transgender.

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  2. It's possible that it may depend on where the anger comes from.  I've heard many guys indicate they've lost their anger after they came out, or after someone important in their life accepted them as male, and some indicate anger began to slip away after beginning HRT.

    I can't help but believe that at least some of our anger comes from the fact that we feel trapped, alone, helpless, hopeless, etc.  Transition for some may relieve the anger we feel, and strike out with at those we care about.

    However, if your anger has nothing to do with being trans, or how you've been treated for being trans, then perhaps you and your therapist need to find out where the anger comes from, and attack it seperately from transgender issues.

    And then perhaps there is the possibility that anger issues are different between trans women and trans men.  Like bio men and women...maybe that's another one of those things that are processed differently...which would turn everything I just said up-side-down!


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  3. NOTE:

    Upgrades mentioned in this thread may no longer be relevant as newer upgrades may have been since applied, therefore this thread has been closed.  Please begin another thread if you experience any issues so that they may be better addressed.


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  4. "MUST SEE video for EVERYONE!"  -- Monica

    I dunno... I'm sorta scared to watch it.  For one thing, I don't even like needles - I have to FORCE myself to go get a flu shot, and there are some years I lose that fight and just hope I don't get the flu.   Second...well, don't think I need to say much more....

    But you ladies carry on... I'm gonna take a pass.  Thanks anyway, Monica... lol

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  5. I can't help but think that someone "reported" your Pinterest boards...  someone so et up with bigotry and transphobia they felt it was their duty (and god-given right  <_<  ) to make sure that people like us don't destroy their little corner of the internet and don't infect the "normal people."    Happens on FB quite a bit - every time I turn around my g/f is telling me about gay men who have been bounced.   I see no reason to believe that Pinterest isn't the same.  I agree with Emma - write (snail mail) those people and [nicely] ask for an explanation.

    ::: grumbles :::

    Just one more reason I don't do social media....

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  6. "I wonder if a trans doctor refused to care for an anti-lgbt patient if they would also find protection under this law"  -- Bree

    You're probably right - it's likely the doctor wouldn't have a leg to stand on.  But people should consider this.  This is what happened to the late Robert Eads - he died of ovarian cancer because no [cisgender] doctor would treat him.  

    Current events are no doubt rolling back advancements left and right.  It's sad that Drumpf's hatred of our previous president is so blinding, that he's willing (and without losing any sleep - obviously) to sacrifice the safety and well-being of so many people.  And PROUD of what he's doing, to boot!

    It was apparently made illegal under Obama-care to discriminate against trans patients in federally funded healthcare programs... but is that still the case now with this "new rule?"

    Here's an article from 2012 recounting several cases where care was either abruptly stopped or flat out denied when it was discovered that the patients were transgender.  And in the case of the late Jay Kallio, a diagnosis of breast cancer was kept from him due to transphobia, hatred, bigotry, ignorance.  Yes, you read that right - HE WAS NOT TOLD HE HAD CANCER!!

    We could be returning to just such an era...

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  7. Hi Danny, and welcome.

    Thought I'd stop in and see if you would like a more feminine username.... like, perhaps "Dani?"   Or any other username if you'd like.

    If so... just drop me a PM.

    I also wanna say "ditto" to the advice from Emma and Lori.


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  8. I wasn't sure which forum to put this in, but decided on this one since labels and privileges have a lot to do in affecting our rights.....


    By Mark Peters January 12, 2018
    "Many conservative voices don’t care for the terms either. Tina Trent recently declared “I am a woman, not a cisgender” in the Canada Free Press. “Unlike all the shiny, happy, ‘non-binary’ sexual identities popping up in human resources training manuals and court dockets these days, calling someone ‘cisgender’ is, by design, a pejorative,” she wrote. “Think of it this way: in the world of gender politics, “cisgender” is the new white — white privilege, that is.”"

    Leveling the field between trans and cis

    Quite obvious Trent doesn't like being labled.  Also appears she doesn't like it being thrown in her face that she is privileged...but whether she likes it or not, unless she works toward, fights for, or supports 100% inclusion of ALL people, she is a part of the problem, and thus is a part of that privileged group.  It is her privileged status that causes her to dislike being "labelled."  

    As has been the history at least this country (US)... only those considered "less than" are labelled.  Those old enough have only to think back to a time when news media always named a person's race/ethnicity in reporting if the crime was so much worse than had it been committed by a white person.  -DML

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  9. What a way to start the year.  Another sickening, unnecessary loss.  The only good part (if any part at all can be good), is that from the various articles I've read so far, it doesn't appear that being trans had anything to do with this tragedy.  

    It makes me wonder though. So often, trans women are objectified just as cis women are. I can't help but think trans women are objectified even more and seen as disposable. I can't help but think she was perhaps treated differently (more violently) because she is transgender. We'll probably never know that, but as wrong is the objectification of women is, it is even worse for trans women. 

    ​You have a point there, Lori. I never thought about the situation from that angle.  So if that was the case, then in a somewhat indirect way, perhaps being trans did have something to do with her death.

    Being back in chat, I see that objectification all the time, and also see that it is (or damn sure seems to be) at a higher degree - no doubt because, as you indicated, trans women apparently are thought of as disposable.  Bad part?  As much as it ticks me off when I see someone come into chat with that kind of attitude, I guess somewhere in the back of my mind, I didn't consider that could be the case here because they were a couple - and a married couple, at that.  But even among cisgender marriages, there are sometimes such issues.



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  10. What about for transmen?  Everything on here is for transwomen!  HELP!!!!

    ​Hiya Ace -

    Yeah... there be many women here!  I guess over time, I've just gotten used to it.  It also helped that back when I first joined, there were several women that often made it a point to include what few guys were here in on the many discussions.

    Though the threads are old... don't forget - there is a FTM forum here on the TG Guide Board.  There's a lot of good reading there.  I think it's safe to say that most of it is still relevant today.

    Check it out

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  11. The discovery comes shortly after the chipmaker said it was working on a patch.

    Is it just me or does this sentence reallly not make a lot of sense?  Don't they really mean the ANNOUNCEMENT of this discovery comes about after the chipmaker said it was working on a patch?  You can't work on a patch if you don't know what the problem is.  I hate wording like this in articles, it's all about minimizing how information is handled and processed and to distract the reader from the actual facts and timelines.  *grumbly sick Bree pointless gripe over* 

    ​I noted that line too.  I interpreted it (in light of the many situation over the recent years of companies sitting on issues for months before enlightening the public) as, "the discovery" being someone on the outside found out, and if it hadn't gotten out to the public, the patch would continue to be worked on and we would still be in the dark until the patch was [quietly] released.

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  12. I agree the writer should have contacted the family to try to get the other side, and if s/he was unsuccessful in getting the other side, then that should have been in the article.  I guess sometimes, I allow my sensativity to automatically side with the underdog - in this case a fellow trans person - because of how society treats us.  When I read the article, I never considered there may have been other issues - the lotto winner's children were the villians.

    And yeah... over the years, I've come to the conclusion/realization that there are no families like the ones in the TV shows I grew up watching.  There are no perfect families.  In fact, I think there are more disfunctional families than not... just some are more disfunctional and some are less disfunctional. 


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  13. Scott Newman | January 04, 2018 - 4:05 AM ET
    ...The problem impacts processors going back more than two decades and could let hackers access passwords, encryption keys or sensitive information open in applications,"  --

    Intel Acknowledges Chip-Level Security Vulnerability In Processors

    I first heard about this this evening on the NBC Nightly News.  This article seems to mention by name only computers and smartphones.  But news on TV seemed to indicate that basically ANYthing that has a processor is vulnerable - computers (both lap- and desktops), tablets, smart phones, etc., regardless of brand.  I would think this would even include smart TVs, and "all-in-one" computers and printers.  -DML

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  14. I bet those kids wish now they had sowed a wee bit more love, understanding, support and acceptance.  AND NOT CHANGED THEIR NAME!

    Karma's a.....    yeah.

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