MonicaPz

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About MonicaPz

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  • Birthday 01/19/1958

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  • Gender Female
  • Location Beacon NY
  • Interests Am a CG Lesbian with an open mind. Have had many TG friends when I lived in Florida. Exploring art. Enjoy coffee houses with live music. Visit museums and art galleries. Am on disability, using a cane. Sedate but have an active mind.

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  1. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Bumps in the Road   

    Dear MichelleLea,
    Agree with Emma.
    The reason rejection in sales is so painful is before you can sell ANY product, you need to sell YOURSELF, which leaves you feeling vulnerable to rejection.
    Have found I could not sell anything, even as a volunteer for a non-profit, unless I believed 100 percent in the product and the company behind it.
    Please keep us posted and in the meantime, you are in our thoughts.
    Your friend,
    Monica
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  2. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: "Most of the Time"   

    Dear MichelleLea and Emma,
    Read the book and watched on DVD, "Hidden Figures," and really resonated with it that women can not be both beautiful and brilliant. They were real trail blazers! 
    Also, I related to the theme, "most of the time," as NO ONE is always happy. Hope that most of the people who are happy most of the time or showing progress towards greater happiness are grateful for it.
    Feel that both of you ladies are happy most of the time and are growing towards even greater happiness!
    Your friend,
    Monica
     
     
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  3. MonicaPz added a post in a topic: Basic Issues in Transgender Mental Health   

    Dear Emma,
    Thank you for bringing this up.
    PLEASE, EVERYONE, MUST READING . . .
    Your friend,
    Monica
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  4. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: The Weeks Ahead   

    Dear MichelleLea,
    Happy belated birthday.
    My mother used to say, may God rest her soul, "If a card is late, it doesn't count."
    However, with my health struggles, I am now often late.  Can't get to the store when my back is out or when it is pouring rain.
    Just do the best I can.
    Assuming your family is getting older, too, because you are 75, so they may have difficulty getting out at times, too.  Were they always this way?
    Maybe your friends and coworkers are your family of choice.
    It hurts, because my half-brother and I do not speak at all, my oldest brother and I e-mail about four times a year, and my middle brother and I speak on the phone about five minutes once a week and my youngest brother and I have Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter and my birthday together, and maybe he returns my text once a month.
    Just to let you know, one out of three persons are estranged from at least one member of their family.
    You are not alone.
    Your friend,
    Monica
     
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  5. MonicaPz added a post in a topic: good small scissors?   

    Dear Entityfree,
    May I ask, are you asking about scissors for removing nose hair or eyebrow hair?
    There may be alternatives to scissors for grooming hair in these places.
    Does anybody have any suggestions?
    Your friend,
    Monica
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  6. MonicaPz added a post in a topic: dumb relatives   

    Dear Entityfree,
    When I lived in Tampa Bay (Clearwater, St. Petersburg and Tampa), there was a wonderful church called King of Peace MCC (Metropolitan Community Church) in St. Petersburg, that was totally inclusive towards everyone, especially the T/LGB community.  Was a greeter there.  Have heard some MCC churches were not as good as this one, but it is worth a try to visit the nearest ones you live.
    Have also heard good things about Unity and Unitarian Churches.  Of course, each church varies.
    Have been raised Catholic, and as a cisgender mid-butch Lesbian who happens to "look" like a Lesbian, I have encountered prejudice in the Catholic, as well as other churches, so I resonate with you.
    Please do not confuse God with organized religion.  As my mother used to say, may God rest her soul, "Churches are HOSPITALS for sinners, not museums for saints."  Also, my mother said, "Churches are STAIRWAYS built by humankind, to reach God."
    We ALL are injured souls, getting along the best we can.
    Take the time to find the church that is a GOOD FIT, starting with researching on the Internet and in the library about the different religions and their beliefs.
    Presently (and for decades), I have concluded organized religion is not right for me and that I am a spiritual woman with a Christian overlay.
    Hopes this helps.
    Your friend,
    Monica
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  7. MonicaPz added a post in a topic: New training program for gender affirming surgery in Philadelphia   

    Dear Chrissy and Mike,
    This should have happened a LONG TIME AGO . . .
    Your friend,
    Monica
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  8. MonicaPz added a post in a topic: TIME: "Transgender Men See Sexism From Both Sides"   

    Dear Mike and Emma,
    Read the article and watched the video and was deeply moved.  Please, EVERYONE, please read and watch!
    Your friend,
    Monica
     
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  9. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Ho-hum   

    Dear Chrissy,
    Think Widow to Widow was referring to INCAPACITATING grief.
    Still have moments of grief over losing my parents.
    Your friend,
    Monica
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  10. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Ignorance on Display   

    Dear Friends,
    Just because you have known a person for a long time, doesn't mean they will grow parallel to you.  
    Emma, I hate to say this, but this man hasn't grown much since the first grade when you knew him.  By the way, education does not always imply maturity.
    When I attended my 10 year high school reunion, I was amazed that those who attended looked and acted as if they graduated YESTERDAY.  Asked to be taken off the mailing list!
    When I moved to Dutchess County, I reunited with a friend of mine from high school and I wondered why I was ever friends with her.  She did not look or act like she had grown at all, and she and I had graduated 40 years ago!
    My youngest brother, he claimed he did not recognize me on an emotional or physical level in the ten years we were out of touch.  Took this as a compliment!  
    The upshot is that we all grow at different rates and directions.  Even if we compare ourselves to ourselves, every ten years every cell in our body is replaced, and if we are growing at a healthy pace, we should show significant differences every ten years.  Even when I look at myself from six months ago, a year ago or two years ago, I see significant change in myself.
    By the way, that man was just plain RUDE!
    Your friend,
    Monica
     
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  11. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Ho-hum   

    Dear MichelleLea, Emma and Chrissy,
    When my mother lost my father due to heart disease, she joined an organization called, "Widow to Widow," which was free, run by a woman psychologist.  My mother got a lot out of it, but the greatest thing she got out of it was that the grieving period should last no more than two years.  This is the point that the widow should clear out and give to charity the unusable property of the deceased partner.  The psychologist said it was unhealthy to grieve beyond two years, and that the survivor should get counseling.
    Hope this helps.
    Your friend,
    Monica
     
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  12. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Feminist Group event   

    Dear Chrissy,
    Strongly feel that transwomen are "real" women, and those that identify as Lesbian are "real" Lesbians, as well as those that are Straight women.  Have always looked in between the ears ("character counts").
    This also goes for transmen.  
    Want to emphasize I feel this way both about pre-op and post-op, pre-hormones and post hormones.
    Somehow, I can sense the gender and sexual orientation ("gaydar") energy of people, and beyond, the beyond I can not discuss here, as that would require a book!
    Have to accept that some others do not have this capability, and they have a lot of confusion about it.
    Just wished that people who do not understand something, did not feel the need to be hostile about it, but just accept that they do not understand it at this place and time.  By the way, there are many things I do not understand, and I accept these things as things I do not understand yet.  Hope that makes sense!
    Your friend,
    Monica
     
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  13. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: New B   

    Dear MichelleLea,
    My heart and prayers are with you.  I KNOW you can do it!
    Selling insurance is a challenge because you are selling PEACE OF MIND, and it is an abstract concept rather than a concrete object.
    Am cheering for you!
    Your friend,
    Monica
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  14. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Closets   

    Dear MichelleLea, Emma and Chrissy,
    Usually "mother of the bride" gowns are great women's formal wear that is appropriate for ball room/formal affairs.
    Is there a chance you could photograph yourself in it and upload a picture of yourself in it?
    Your friend,
    Monica
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  15. MonicaPz added a comment on a blog entry: Two year anniversary coming up   

    Dear Karen,
    The jacket probably had an interim discount. You look great!
    Also, you seem to have great friends!
    Your friend,
    Monica
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