Chrissy

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  1. Monica,

    That seems like it might have been a little while ago? From what I've learned there aren't any time limits. What matters is how much, if at all, the grieving process is interfering with daily living. It can certainly go beyond 2 years (my parents died 13 years ago and I still have moments of grieving)

    Chrissy

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  2. You never need to apologize for feeling sad or down. Grieving isn't a predictable or linear process, it's completely natural to feel it for almost any length of time. I can imagine how getting checks with just your name could trigger it.

    It's good to hear that writing about it helps. Keep writing! It's also perfectly normal to want or need some sympathy - so don't hesitate to say when you're feeling down.

    Xoxo

    Chrissy

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  3. Emma,

    Enjoy the talk!  I have to admit I wasn't thrilled by her new book, but I loved the first one and have loved her every time I've heard her speak (never in person, just on TV).

    On the topic of community - I think for me it was important to (finally) realize that I could shift my social priorities away from the trans community without cutting myself off from the people and issues of the community. So I keep doing the support group, and I work with some trans identified clients at my internship and on a volunteer basis, etc.

    xoxo

    Chrissy

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  4. "It's tight enough--breathing is an issue--but it definitely makes you feel womanly."

    Exactly ^_^  Comfort doesn't seem to be a top priority in women's attire.

    Congrats on passing the exam!!!

    Xoxo

    Chrissy

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  5. Hi Chrissy,

    I'm a little out of my element as a fashion consultant, but how would some dressy pants--loose and flowing-- with a blouse and a little fashion jewelry for one. For the second, why not do a ball gown? It doesn't have to be expensive. You could even look at a thrift shop. Might just look and feel good on you. You don't know until you try. ​I take it you don't have a lot of time to put things together. Not sure I was much help. I wish you the best and hope you have fun.

    I assume you meant this for Monica 😛 I have no impending social plans 

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  6. Just a quick thought on your comment about moving things around for awhile to get it right - that was something I needed (perhaps still need?) to learn, I would go into organizational projects like that expecting that I could make it perfect the 1st time around - that rarely happens, so I had to learn that I was going to make an effort and see how it works, then make other changes until I felt good about it (ok, I think that just turned into a comment about living in general)

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  7. I love closet remodeling!  Good luck with that!!! I don't have a walk-in closet, but I have a bigger closet that was very simple when I moved in. I added a section of shelves down the middle (not quite the middle) for shorts, t-shirts, etc. and then a single rod on one side for longer things and 2 rods on the other for shorter. I don't wear many dresses, so I didn't as much room on the single-rod side.

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  8. Welcome to TGGuide!  I can't wait to read your blog entries :P

    My own experience - I've transitioned over the past 2-3 years (depending on what I consider the starting point) - is that it is both amazing and terrifying - often at the same time. But either way is better than settling for a life that isn't right for you!

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  9. Good luck on the license exam!!!

    Thinking of your comment about wanting to be or be with a beautiful woman - an early memory for me is after seeing "Grease," thinking I wanted to "be with" Olivia Newton-John, then later realizing I wanted to "be" her :-)   (of course I was 10 years old at the time, so I wouldn't have known what to do "with" her even if I had the chance).

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  10. Sizing can be tough as it can vary from designer to designer (or even within a designer in some cases) - that's why I like the Jennifer Lopez collection @ Kohls, I always fit in large with her 😛

    With my men's clothing I ended up donating almost all of it to an AIDS organization in NYC. Nice tax break!

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  11. Kitrah,

    Safety has to be a primary concern, I'm glad you're able to find that while still making room to discover yourself. Hopefully over time you'll he able to do more and more while still being safe ☺

    I live in an area where fortunately I can be a who I am publicly, but even here I've had a few scary experiences with overly aggressive men. I keep thinking that I should take a self defense class but haven't yet 😞

    Xoxo

    Chrissy

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  12. Same here, I've never been a big chat room person (I think I've looked into the chat rooms here once or twice, and very briefly both times - possibly because nobody was there)

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  13. I did change my gender marker pre-surgery on everything except my birth certificate (NJ requires bottom surgery before you can change that, but that should change next year when we lose our current pathetic governor). 

    Another consideration for a lot of people is access to surgery, not everyone has the resources to get them done. 

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  14. I remember after Sandy my power was out for about a week, and the most frustrating thing was seeing that it was coming on near me, but I went another couple of days without 😞 Not a fun experience!

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  15. Wow, "genital mutilation." What does one say? My GCS surgeon was on a panel I saw yesterday and my thought was "she's the person who made me (physically) right." Far cry from "mutilation" ☺

    I'm not surprised on the sexual orientation part, even LG people seem to often have a problem knowing the difference between gender identity and sexual orientation.

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  16. Karen,

    I'm so sorry to hear that - hopefully they'll both be fine, but it's still a difficult process to go through :-(

    And great point about getting checked! I've been more assertive about talking with my doctor and endocrinologist to understand what things I need to be watching for that I might not have before (of course that's also part of getting older - but never mind that!!!)

    xoxo

    Chrissy

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  17. Michelle,

    Congrats on the job! It sounds challenging, working with kids in a detention setting, but possibly very rewarding. Anyone who has been exposed to the criminal "justice" system is going to have a rough time, they need all the support they can get if they're going to have any chance after.

    And congrats on growing into Michelle ☺ I definitely know what you mean about there being no going back! It is sad that it's connected to your wife passing - that seems like it would be very bittersweet - but you have to keep doing what you need and want.

    Xoxo

    Chrissy

     

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  18. Karen,

    That's so great! I know that it's best to not live for external validation, but it's always nice - really nice ☺

    I also like the sense from the first "moment" of simply feeling comfortable with another woman. I've gotten closer to one of the (female) bartenders at the jazz bar I go to. The other night I was leaving when she did and so we stopped outside to chat - that went on for about 1/2 hour - mainly about the jazz band members from that night (a little about their musical ability, but mostly other stuff 😛)

    Xoxo

    Chrissy 

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  19. Emma,

    That's all so wonderful :)  I find too that being correctly gendered still makes me very happy (I do think that having recently stopped wearing a wig kicked that back up again, but I never stopped enjoying it).

    I feel like voice trainers have some deal with ENT specialists, mine did the same thing!  And I also got a clean bill of health. Perhaps that's just cynical, it probably is a good idea, just seems suspicious :blink:

    Enjoy your ongoing "space trip"!!!

    xoxo

    Chrissy

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