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Chrissy

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  1. Ren,

    It's great to hear from you, though I wish it could be with better news 😞 I don't get on here so much lately, but I do always make a point to see if you posted anything when I do.

    It was good to hear that your grandmother was supportive! It doesn't advance your transition, but hopefully strengthens your support system, which is important too.

    Have you checked out the NH affiliate of the ACLU? They do pro-LGBT+ work as well, someone there might be helpful. www.aclu-nh.org

    Xoxo

    Chrissy

  2. Ace,

    Welcome to TGGuide!  I'm in the NYC area, so not too close, but same state in case you ever travel this way :-)

    In the meantime, this site is a great place to share thoughts, get insights and generally just vent if you need!

    Xoxo

    Chrissy

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  3. Jay,

    Oh, right, you're in the UK - how is all that going? I woke up in the middle of the night and thought to check, was shocked to see the result!

    Now just waiting for Scotland to vote again and leave the UK!  I'm of Scottish descent, would like to see them break free :-)

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  4. Michele,

    Thank you so much for sharing that - I have to admit that I've never met someone who is intersex - or at least I don't know that I did, so it's an experience/identity that I know very little about. I hope that you'll share more of your experience here.

    Your experience with your mother definitely resonated with me - I've struggled for awhile over thinking that my parents in so many ways failed me as a child - not in the same way that you experienced, but in terms of a form of neglect, mostly emotional. For so long I was hung up between "my parents screwed up," and the defense that "maybe they did the best they could?" My therapist recently added something incredibly useful to help me move past that dialogue - "I needed more." I found that helped a lot, it helped me move past wondering if they were to blame, or if they were blameless - either way, I needed more.

    Anyway, again, I hope you'll continue to share your thoughts and experiences!

    xoxo

    Chrissy

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  5. As an English purist I have to lead with this, it's "woo hoo"  :-)

    But FAR more important - CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!

    I always find it interesting that transmen and transwomen share one huge thing in common, the desire to "correct" our gender (or whatever terminology people choose to use), but literally every detail after that is the exact opposite :-)  I've spent the last 10 months taking a prescription to stop my testosterone from happening - if only they could find a way to let us do one-for-one switches!!!  I would happily give you every drop of testosterone I have (unless I actually need some amount to stay alive, then I'd hold back a bit)

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  6. Ren,

    I'd suggest double (or triple) checking on the drivers license rule - people working at agencies are known to get the law wrong (social security by me initially refused to correct my gender id, but I eventually got them to see they were wrong). Looking online it doesn't look like new hampshire requires full on surgery for a gender correction on drivers license (you are in New hampshire, right? My apologies if I got that wrong)

    Chrissy

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  7. If your experience is at all like mine was (and many others!) things could start happening very fast.  I started out cross-dressing (without acknowledging being trans), and almost immediately knew that wasn't enough!

    Circumstances can of course dictate a lot, and fear of not being accepted is obviously a strong thing, but I agree with the others' sentiments about your friend and the likelihood that she'll stay with you - she may well have been telling you she already knows :-)

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  8. Emma,

    So glad things are going well, and love the dress 😀 #PinkItUp

    I have a "life is good" t-shirt (pink), it only occurred to me after I bought it what I had bought! Before my "coming out" i would never have bought something with such an affirmative thought.

    And indeed, life is good 👯

    Xoxo

    Chrissy

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  9. Thank you Veronica :-)  It's always enough just to have this space to get things out, but definitely an added benefit to get a kind response.

    My uncle was older, and hadn't been doing well, and honestly I hadn't seen him in quite awhile. We were closer when I was younger, but then drifted. 

    As for my friends, we had also been drifting, so I'll most likely let that go - distance rarely works for me in that kind of situation. I don't like to travel to start with, and I have no interest in going to LA - with apologies to anyone on here who lives in LA :-)

    There are also some beginnings - like my volunteer work with Identity House, and one particular friendship that's emerging from that.

    So peace will happen :-)

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  10. In my work with Identity House, the very first time I did the peer counseling, the client we had was a person who came in to discuss "concerns about transgender thoughts" - he (he still identified as he) seemed very positive about the interaction (we spoke for about an hour and a half), which felt really good :-)

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  11. I watched season 1 because I felt like I should, but I decided as that season ended that I wouldn't watch it again (and apparently I'm not alone, ratings are WAY down from last year).

    The comment I heard that she made that shocked me was that she thought she could be an ambassador for Ted Cruz to the transgender community. I don't think either side wants that!!!

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  12. It would be really nice if medical science could finally confirm something biological to establish being transgender - though increasingly I only hope for that for the benefit of people who don't think it's real at all.

    Having been "out" for a year now, and on HRT and fully presenting as a woman for 7 months, I have no doubt that it's "nature" :-)

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  13. Love the top!

    I think your therapist's advice was great - "stop thinking" - that came up recently when I was doing my volunteer hours (peer counseling) and the client who came in was "concerned about transgender thoughts" - he was quite smart, a college student, and clearly was spending a lot of time analyzing the situation from an academic perspective - I was trying to find subtle ways to share that same advice, to stop thinking!  I know from my own experience that I can over-analyze and there are just situations where that will drive you crazy ("analysis paralysis" is what one therapist called it)

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  14. Sadly it seems (from my U.S. view) that right wing idiots seem to be on the rise throughout Europe, even in my beloved France!  Don't get me wrong, we're doing what we can to keep pace (Donald Trump and Ted Cruz specifically - Trump isn't really right-wing, but definitely an idiot).

    My view is that it's a global issue of economic inequality getting bigger and bigger every year, which drives all sorts of bad things among the have-nots (when you have very little you tend to start focusing on the "others" who you suspect are trying to take what you have).

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