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About Christy

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  1. Christy

    The List

    Good for you and I can relate to many of your experiences. I did talk with my mom about many of these things. Like wearing pantyhose after dinner watching the Donny & Marie shows or her doing my makeup. Lol. At first she said she didn’t remember anything about it but as time went by and we communicated more she started to remember things. Some that I forgot about! Cool 😎. My moms aunt would dress me as a girl allllll the time when I was 3 or 4. “Oh, she looks so cute” she would say. I just loved going to her house for the weekend. She would take me to the amusement park as a girl because I just loved it. Crazy. How did she know?
  2. Christy

    The List

    Yeah it’s helpful. The adult content should stay off. Just reword it if you can for the post. I had the same issues with pornography as you and I think I mentioned that before. Since I started transitioning I have look at zero online and just one lesbian movie as a test. Let’s call it a learning expedition because I’m pretty ignorant in that department. It worked by the way😉. It did take time for the memories to come back though and I am still recalling things even today so I just add them to the list. I was shocked at how much I suppressed those events and feelings. Looking back there she was fighting to get out all along. Very interesting really.
  3. I am curious if anyone has read this book. If so I would like to know what your thoughts are about it. I want to pass it along to others as a good read for understanding but before I keep doing so I would like to get some feedback. So far everyone everyone who has really looked at it says it is very helpful but they might just be being pleasant. Some tg friends refuse to read it (even though they said they would) and I have a hard time understanding that.
  4. When I was first trying to find help in my area I had a very hard time of it. Over time I have found many resources and groups in this area and it seems to be growing at a rapid pace. If you are close to WPB and looking for support and help one great local resource is “The Compass Community Center” in Lake Worth Fl. Just outside of WPB. They have help for everyone in the LBGT community and many group meetings. They also have fun events. From there I met many great people and was able to find more resources and support that were literally right down the street from me. They have transgender group meetings every week and everyone is welcome. I can’t say enough positive things about this center. If you are nervous about going to the center or a meeting you can contact me and I will try to meet you there so you feel more comfortable. 😘
  5. Christy

    Just some more thoughts.

    Well that’s understandable. Take your time with her if you want to stay together. She will need time to adjust. At least you have great friends! A support group is very important. 😊
  6. Christy

    Just some more thoughts.

    Thank you for asking Monica but there is way too much detail on that list for me to share at this point. I must respect my wife’s wishes. But! Someday I’ll definitely post it because it’s a great way to look back at my life. 😘 Tilly, give yourself some time. I went through all kinds of “What ifs” in the beginning and still do now once and awhile. I have found though that most of my worries were unfounded. The wife thing is still up in the air but I have made peace with it. I never know what or how she is going to be on any given day. Today she was cold then warm then cold and now she is out with a friend. (Which is healthy for her) I’ll still try to help her and snuggle her tonight but if she needs to move on that’s okay. I am changing very rapidly these days so I think her head is spinning a bit. I will always love her but if it’s over between us then I will also find new love too. 😘
  7. Christy

    Restless before the rain came

    Yeah plus I was so proud of her courage! She looks so cute too.
  8. Christy

    A difficult conversation

    I agree. Don’t worry about work yet. Take it slowly. I came out to my wife August 3 and she has gone up and down. This is normal. Give her space to go through her feelings. Live life and be proud of yourself because it takes a ton of courage to come out. The future is a mystery and things might work out but you never know. Just be a good person and just know that this is a process. Therapy has helped me to see the truth better and I have learned some new tools that are working. I can say this though, I am truly happy in my own skin today. Life is full of color and energy most of the time and I can finally see a future for myself. Will that be with my wife? I don’t know only time will tell. I do know that whatever happens everyone will be okay. 😊
  9. Christy

    Just some more thoughts.

    I agree that is very brave and I don’t know if I could do that even after all I’ve been through. Good for you!
  10. Christy

    Just some more thoughts.

    Thank you Emma! I remember that you shared some of the things with me before and I ended up making my own list. It does really help so thank you 😊
  11. Christy

    Restless before the rain came

    Well Monica I don’t want to derail Dee’s thread but I’m intrigued. So I’ll start another post 😊
  12. Christy

    Picking Up the Pace a Bit!

    Ouch😊 lol. Sounds like you are putting together a great team.
  13. Christy

    Just some more thoughts.

    I think you will find many of us also wore female clothing when we were younger. It took a while for me to remember all of the things from my past. I had pushed them down so far that I had forgotten many of them. Your not alone and exploration is good if you want to find out the truth. 😊
  14. Christy

    Restless before the rain came

    Yes there are many yeps there.😊 I wonder about the photos but they are probably gone. Oh well. Once the genie is out well it’s hard to put her back in. Some people do it but I can’t. I don’t want to. There is a question that many people ask. “If you could flip a switch or take a pill to make all of this go away and feel comfortable in your guy body, would you?” The answer for me is no. I love who I am. I am a girl in the wrong dam body. Unfortunately. I have spent thousands of hours thinking about that. I like being myself, whatever that looks like on any given day. Today is tomboy day. Comfy and casual. It’s funny because most of the people I have talked to have said the same thing and have done the same things in the past.