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Christy

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About Christy

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  • Birthday 11/15/1976

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    Transgender
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    Florida
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    Tennis, Painting, Shopping, Music, Yoga, Scuba, Golf, Snowboarding, Skiing, Hiking, Motorcycles, Movies

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  1. Christy

    Baby Steps

    Wow that’s pretty extensive. I am way behind you. It was mentioned to me that I should wait and by slowly. Otherwise I’ll be buying stuff and realizing later it’s not my style. I’m not really into dresses for now but who knows what I’ll like down the road.
  2. Christy

    Off to bean town

    Well I hope it snows for the kids. I would like it too 😁
  3. Christy

    Off to bean town

    This might be the first time I freeze my tits off. What?!?!
  4. Christy

    Off to bean town

    Well I’m off to bean town and this will be great. We are doing a family bonding trip before thanksgiving and have a lot of fun things planned. I will also be seeing my sister, who I haven’t seen since last year. I told her that I was transgender on coming out day. I am so excited to see her. I will also be seeing my brother, sister in-law, nephew and an aunt. I may come out to my brother but I’ll have to gauge that at the moment. I personally would just tell everyone but I have to respect my wife. I can’t wait to wear some winter clothes too. I’m going to girl it up just a bit around my kids to see how they react. I’m trying to slowly get them used to seeing a more feminine side of me. I bought some cute turtleneck sweaters and some leggings. I should go and buy some girl cross boots 🥾 but we will see. I am also going to bring an earring for my one pierced ear from years ago. I will also wear a bit of eyeliner. I know it sounds silly but I am so excited to go. I feel so alive! I can’t even remember the last time I was so excited to go somewhere without some sort of anxiety. Wow what a beautiful feeling. 😍
  5. Christy

    Baby Steps

    That is my look. MichelleLea, Emma, Jessica what are your styles?😘
  6. Christy

    Baby Steps

    Hey there is even a company called.... https://www.sissyboyjeans.com/76431/croft.aspx#.W_AI6hZOmEc I love this style but I need to shape up the body a bit more. Lol
  7. Christy

    Baby Steps

    The word “sissy” did trigger me as well. Just a bit, for a second. Then I realized why. When I was little some of the boys would call me that when they wanted to dominate me. (First grade ish) I would retaliate with a lunchbox to the head or with whatever I had in my hands at the time. So when I heard that word I had a tiny flashback. Thank you for bringing it up because now I let it go. 😘 interesting. I really don’t here that word anymore. It also brought back a lot of really great memories after I dove deeper into that time in my life. There were more positive memories then negative ones, like learning to sing and play the drums! 😊 I ran around feeling very girly back then, it was fun. I was free. I even got to wear a pink dress for a skit one time in school! I had totally forgot about that! Astonishing. It is so clear in my mind right now. Thanks MichelleLea 😘
  8. Christy

    Baby Steps

    Wow that’s great! I am happy for you. 😀 great advice Emma 😘
  9. Christy

    Am I a Woman?

    Thanks Emma I love that letter. Aiming at being the best me is the key. I have a lot of compassion for those struggling, no suffering and I try to help them when I can. I will never give up.
  10. Christy

    Won't Be Erased

    So I spoke with the president this morning regarding 11/20. I think you will be surprised at what they are going to be doing in the next year. Don’t let the fear take hold of you. No one will be erased. They are working on a solid legally founded solution for us rather then an executive order which is easily changed. They are NOT trying to erase anyone but there needs to be a balance. The military is far more complex than you may think. keep the faith as I do. I am working on it. I truly mean this.
  11. Christy

    Am I a Woman?

    Monica😊 I am sorry you are suffering, I am here for you. I think you have a beautiful soul. We have communicated over the past year and I can see how you are always trying to help others. Including me. The compassion for others in their struggles is obvious to me and you also allow us to see your pain. I believe that you feel alone at times but you’re not. Even when I’m not online I often think of you and send my wishes to you. I hope you find what you’re looking for and if you need help just ask. I only have from now until the day I die left and who knows how long that is. 10 mins or 50 years? I will not waste anymore time on being unhappy. I will not spend anymore time complaining. I will only live the time I have remaining with a positive attitude. It’s my choice. I choose to be at peace. You can choose that as well. There is not one bully on this planet that can get me down. Not one. Every person that is bullying someone else is really struggling on the inside and once I could see their real pain it all made sense. I do stand up for myself but I just don’t become offended by anyone. I let them know that I can see their pain/suffering and offer help. I consider you a great friend and I am grateful to have you in my life. Even if it’s just online. 😘 Kerri
  12. Christy

    Am I a Woman?

    Very nice Emma! I like that quote 😊 I read a blog post at the beginning of my transition that stopped me in my tracks. This girl transitioned from mtf and after 6 years she had some questions. Her transition on a physical level was very successful, she looks great and passes well. She also transitioned very quickly. She had all the surgery’s, name changes and adjusted her life to be seen as a woman. Moved to her dream location and is involved with the community. She found herself asking some questions about life because she wasn’t happy. Her statement basically: I always felt like a girl pretending to be a boy before I transitioned, now after many years of changes and hard work the world sees me as a female. This is what I always dreamed of but I am not truly happy. I am full of anxiety and stress which is debilitating at times. I find myself asking the question, am I now just a boy pretending to be a girl? Did I just switch the roles? I will truly never be an actual female or have the full life experience of being female. So, what am I really doing? Well like I said this caused me to pause and think. I have been pondering that ever since. Overtime I became ok with being me in this process. I am not a true women, I am not a true man in the general sense. I’m both I guess, I am me. Yes, I feel that mentally I am female and will make changes to my male body to give my brain what it needs. I am larger, more then just my body though, I have a soul and this soul wants to experience physical life. That is who I truly am, a soul. I am extremely lucky to get this opportunity to be free of all the other things that bind us, I am awake, aware. I will have struggles with how I interpret this life but that’s is just by me and necessary. I will grow from all of it. I am not locked into a box anymore of trying to be something, male or female, dad or mom, son or daughter, friend or enemy. I am just me. I am free, truly free. How many people can say that and mean it? What a gift! If I want to pass either way then cool and I’m not bound to someone else’s box. (Except with my wife’s but I made that bed and will give her the space she needs) I don’t need validation from others about who they think I am. On the outside. Do I desire it at times? Sure but I recognize it for what it is and move past it fairly quickly these days. That has taken years of practice. Of course I’ll ask questions about how I look and what people think of my changes. I’m a curious creature. What I really desire (deep down) is for them to see the true me, my soul. I would like to be excepted on the outside appearance of what my soul is expressing but I also know that most of the people in the world are searching for themselves as well, they are struggling too. It’s just not obvious to me at times. The eyes are the window to the soul and the people around me can see right into my soul if I let them. (Even someone standing next to me in line at the store) Easier said than done at times but I try, always trying. I push my fears aside (sometimes with a dust up) and when I am having a hard time I ask the people in my life who have truly seen my soul for help. I have let my therapist see right into my soul and she has let me see right into hers. This provides a great benefit to the both of us and is why we enjoy each other’s company so much. It also has helped the therapeutic process tremendously. I have met her daughter outside of therapy. It’s beautiful. It’s a symbiotic relationship. I was talking with 2 transgender people last night that are around 19-20. Married Collage students. They have sooo much pain in their lives trying to be excepted, trying to change the way society sees transgender people, trying to change their school. They are not at peace with in themselves and are angry at sooo many people. They spew hate all over the place. They feeling justified. They are constantly searching for a safe zone or fighting for more safe zones. They think they know how the world should be and unless they get everything they want they will never be truly at peace with themselves. This is normal for any young person and when you throw gender issues on top of it things get more complicated. I offered them help to solve a problem that they have been complaining about for 9 months. I could easily elevate the struggle for them but they refuse my help without refusing it. I think this struggle gives them a sense of identity so if it was solved.... well, they would most likely find another one. Never ending list of struggles. I have great compassion for them because I have been there and will continue to help how ever I can. It’s not a healthy way to live but that’s just my opinion. I have chosen to see Anxiety as a barometer for my life. I know for myself that if I am feeling anxious about something, that is my “soul” “the universe “ “god “ “mother nature “ (call it anything you like) trying to tell me that I need to pay close attention to whatever it is that I’m doing at that moment. I look for the real meaning, the truth behind the truth. So, what am I ? A soul, spirit or what ever you’d like to call it, having a human experience and I’m going to enjoy it without the weight of the world on my shoulders as best I can. I will laugh at myself and my mistakes knowing that there is a bigger picture. I enjoy searching for answers to questions about the world knowing I may never find them. That is life to me. I am a full time world explorer. 😊 I will enjoy the time I have on earth and if there is nothing after this life well... I will never know it. BUT, my time here will have been a more pleasurable experience. An authentic one of what it means to be me. I will waist no more time (or marbles) focusing on the wrong things, people or places. I’m so glad you posted this. I have only seen you as a mentor with knowledge that you graciously pass on to others. A woman to your core with a big heart and I would bet my life that I’m correct. A good man in your past. Still a giving loving person to your ex-wife. I have a caring love and respect for you even though we have never truly met. If you ever asked for my help I would do what I could to help you. This post let me see into your soul just a little bit more and I am grateful for it. The photo of you is beautiful and so are you. Christy😍
  13. Christy

    Ain't gonna purge NO MORE, NO MORE!

    Snow!! I am hoping for some snow this weekend 😄. We found the keys are great to visit for a couple of weeks 2x a year. Rent a condo. Great deals. Living there full time is not for us. If you really want heaven then the out islands of the Bahamas are our chosen ones 2x a year. Again rent a home or condo at the right time and it is affordable compared to... let’s say “Atlantis” or “Baja Mar”. The stress of the world disappears in the out islands. Usually takes me a day or 2. Culture is very laidback. 😉
  14. Christy

    Ain't gonna purge NO MORE, NO MORE!

    It’s funny when we were deciding to move to Florida from NE we looked at Naples - Tampa. The gulf gets to warm in the summer and is not that aqua blue. It’s more of a green, not as clear and no waves. Plus they get huge t storms in the summer. Tradewinds. I’m also a diver and well it stinks over there. It is beautiful and Tampa has a great trans community. I wasn’t thinking about that then. So, we looked at west palm and north. My parents already lived in that area (WP) so we new it pretty well. We chose saint Augustine! Found a subdivision in Ponte Vedra beach that we loved. I think it was “The Plantation” very nice with lots of amenities. Then we went back down to look at some homes in February & March. It was chillllly and everything was dead. Lawns were brown, leaves off the trees and it snowed! Just a bit. No way as we wanted warmer weather, We would rather visit the snow and enjoy it, then get out of there. Lol. So, we went south. I researched Florida for 3 years before we moved and the pros of the south treasure coast were great. Florida is a big state so being centralized is great. Not to far from the mountains up north and not to far from key west. Bahamas are a 28 min trip by plane and 2-3 hrs by a fast center console boat. I have friends that go for the day to the northern reefs. Amazing waters. So it’s funny that we seem to get along here and you are looking at Florida in a similar pattern. 🤔 cool 😎. Kerri😊 uhmm still not sure yet.
  15. Christy

    Ain't gonna purge NO MORE, NO MORE!

    Ahh I thought you were closer 😊 oh well
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