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NYT: "It's Not Always Depression"

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I hesitated to post this for a couple of reasons. First, I think it's presumptuous of me to think readers of TG Guide would appreciate the article. Second, I think it's getting to the heart of my problems and I suppose I protect myself by maintaining a wall of anonymity. But, I think the article offers a valuable insight into another way of thinking about depression. As my therapist told me this morning, the article is offering words that help me explain what I think is really going on inside.

"One innate response to this type of environment is for the child to develop chronic shame. He interprets his distress, which is caused by his emotional aloneness, as a personal flaw. He blames himself for what he is feeling and concludes that there must be something wrong with him. This all happens unconsciously. For the child, shaming himself is less terrifying than accepting that his caregivers can’t be counted on for comfort or connection.

To understand Brian’s type of shame, it helps to know that there are basically two categories of emotions. There are core emotions, like anger, joy and sadness, which when experienced viscerally lead to a sense of relief and clarity (even if they are initially unpleasant). And there are inhibitory emotions, like shame, guilt and anxiety, which serve to block you from experiencing core emotions."

I hope you find it helpful: http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/03/10/its-not-always-depression/?action=click&pgtype=Homepage&version=Moth-Visible&module=inside-nyt-region&region=inside-nyt-region&WT.nav=inside-nyt-region&_r=0


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