I have often thought of how my wife rarely gets to go out all dressed up like we dream of. On halloween one week my wife and I went out of state to a hotel were no one new me and she went shopping with me. It was quite the experience. I knew some people looked strange at me but I tried not to make eye contact. I enjoyed going through the shoe stores the most because it was one thing I normally wouldn't do while cross dressed. We also went to the rocky horror picture show together and that was a blast. I have discovered I simply have to wear womens clothes whether they are sexy or not. Therefore I have found clothes that aren't noticed as easily. They might not be sexy but they are still more comfortable than mens clothes, soft and luxurious (like underclothes). I seriously will not buy it if its not from the woman's department. Sometimes just that hint of feminine keeps me going. The sooner you can break through some of these barriers the sooner you will see that your internal fears are probobly worse than the reality. When is the last time you saw someone in public that looked different or questionable. If you have to have a reason for dressing a certain way it might help. Biking tights seem acceptable while biking, why would they suddenly not be ok if you were wearing them around the house. I wear tight stretch pants around the house often and my children have never questioned me, of course I usually wear a loose top or sweatshirt that comes past my waist enough to cover my but and crotch. I have also push the limits with shoes and my kids have not said a word, of course I have not pushed it all the way yet, so I truly understand your anxiety and wishful thinking. I hope more people can post info about sharing this part of ourselves with family and our children. If you can't be comfortable in your own home how can you be yourself anywhere. I would rather die than go back to wearing mens underwear, pants and shirts, and shoes. Ultimately It's my home and they will have to respect me as just being different, but I am not completely free yet either.