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  1. Hazeleyes40

    Transgender Housing Network

    Is there a website for studio apartments for rent and affordable. I’m in NYC.
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    You size 12 W shoes so that means you are size 10.5 w in men’s? I’m 10.5 w in men’s and size 12 in women but don’t know if I need wide or extra wide. I guess u need to go to Payless and use their measuring tool to get my right size
  3. Hazeleyes40

    This world is destroying my family

    Being a kid is hard. Some kids can be mean and as you a parent must understand a child being transgender or not will have bad days and good days. The school must have rules implemented for no bullying. Bullying is have gone out of control. Please make sure all of your kids are open about how their day was and share things with you. If one child is being bullied will be hard to know if no one speak up and say something. You can talk to the school administrators now before school starts about your child. Always ask what rules and policy they have to address issues. When I was growing up schools really didn’t address or handle the issues that occur properly. You must know school for you is different now cause the kids say and do and posting it on social media. You are a wonderful parent and getting the help for your child now and being part of his (her) life. It can be hard not know what the future hold for him (her) when it comes to friendship. Those who stick around to be his (her) friend and being supporting show they have a good heart. I hope other parents of the kids are understanding and respectful toward your family. Remember you talking about things is good.
  4. Hazeleyes40

    This world is destroying my family

    Jeff, please understand I attempt suicide cause I was under emotional distress and mostly no support from my family. I don’t have any friends so there is no support. You and your wife are helping your child. You are his support. Please understand when I refer your daughter as a boy cause it’s correct and he is a transgender. You can reach out to professional who are more qualified therapist. You can even do Video Chat and check if your insurance is accept by that therapist. There are qualified therapist who do sessions by video chat if you are unable to find one close to you or you want to be in safe environment. When I share my experience and said I attempted suicide is become I was lost, alone, and don’t have any support from family so my depression, anxiety, bipolar and every thought rushing through my mind was overwhelming. Now , I see my therapist every week, psychiatrist every month and my primary doctor for anything I need. These are my support system. If my family was supporting my decision and is there for me I would be happier I think. If my family don’t want to understand it or accept it but do still talk to me, show me love and I’m part of family function. I am fine with anyone don’t want to talk about my transgender transitioning process but all I want is to be accepted as a female, be treated as a female, and the respect and love. I would be less or even not depressed. I know I can’t make everyone understand what I’m going through or like me but I think if I give respect then I want respect back too. I won’t interact with anyone knowing they are against LGBTQ community or is a bigot person. If a person like me for me then cool. If they use the correct pronouns cool. So far in my transition I come to terms if nobody want to be part or associated with me I’m fine with that. I see like this..” I was put on this Earth to be happy not miserable”. I want to say you and your wife are an awesome parents.
  5. I being doing research on where to shop for heel shoes that have 4” or 5” heel. http://www.isybshoes.com/ This is site babe size 10 -16 and come in narrow, wide and medium width. This site start 10 and up 14 but the sad part on the site don’t support wide foot. http://www.shoesissima.com/ This site have everything to clothing to shoes and asscessories and more. Check it out. https://www.shoesofprey.com They carry up size 13 and have extra wide too. I know my size in men’s is 10.5 wide. Im 12 I’m woman don’t know if I should I get wide or extra wide. There are other sizes for width. Here example - Narrow Shoe Width: N (sometimes D or E) Medium Shoe Width: M (sometimes F) Wide Shoe Width: W (sometimes G) Extra Wide (XWide): XW (sometimes H) What Does Shoe Width E, EE, D, and DD Mean? In order of narrowest to widest, the nine shoe widths available in the U.S. are: AAA, AA, A, B, C, D, E, EE, EEE. As such, only the A and E sizes are further divided into sub-sizes. At the narrow end (A), additional letters indicate a narrower width, whereas at the wider end (E), the more letters equals a wider width. A D-width is considered a medium for men and a wide for women. It measures between 3 and 5 inches across the bottom of the ball of the foot, depending on your shoe size. For instance, in men's footwear, a size 10D is 4 inches across, while a size 14D is 4.5 inches across. An E width shoe is considered a wide for men and extra wide for women. Measuring at the bottom of the ball of the foot, an E width stretches between 3.2 and 5.2 inches, depending on foot size. For men, a size 10E is 4.2 inches across, while a size 14E is 4.7 inches across. EE width shoes are considered extra wide for men and women. Not all manufacturers carry EE widths, and women's EE choices, historically, have been limited. However, options have improved over the past decade, at least in part because of the increasing sales of women's shoes to transgendered individuals. EE width shoes measure between 3.4 and 5.4 inches across the bottom of the ball of the foot, depending on shoe size.
  6. Hazeleyes40

    This world is destroying my family

    Dear Jeff, Nothing wrong with your child. He is a transgender male. Even he yet to transition medically by being on Hormones replacement therapy. Your son had already started transitioning to a boy. He is doing this that are non-medical but it’s part of transitioning. Please understand a child not having a support group specially from family will hurt, destroy his world that is safe haven with the love he gets from his family. Im puerto rican Serbian and my experience as younger age when my mom was alive she basically told me what I’m doing is sick and not normal. My mom said to me do I need to see a doctor and be lock up to get treatment. I knew right away to be with my mom who I love I shut down and made sure I was not doing anything wrong or what they consider sick, disgusting. My mom and her side of the family was all Puerto Rican and old school. I never knew my father or my father side of the family. I started to had bad depression, anxiety and complete shut down. As I got older I started to really found my own voice and made a choice if my family don’t accept, understand or want me around I was prepared to disappear for good. Still today I still struggle even I am older and been diagnosed me with gender dysphoria and I reach out to Hormones replacement therapy doctor and started transitioning medically with medication. I do see my primary doctor, psychiatrist and therapist for they are my support system. I do want to address static show that all transgender do attempt suicide one or more and end in death. I attempted suicide once been lock up in psycho ward. Now I’m doing what is right for me cause I always identiy myself female and never like my male body. Please do understand young youth do struggle more stuff cause they don’t have the resources and can’t escape from every day problems of being bully or threats from there peers. You ask a parent can’t change people minds but you can educate them. Please get educated and discuss everything as a family and do take your son to professional who specializes in gender dysphoria or had been train in it. As for medication won’t be given until you, your wife and transgender son fully understand the process and what treatment is plan out has been given by the psychiatrist or therapist. As for other children you have please make sure the communication is open and they are aware of their transgender brother have feelings too. Their trans brother is not doing anything wrong or doing this to push them away or hurt them.