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  1. The Spectrum of Transgenderism

    As gender identity continues to be researched and theorized, the field is becoming increasingly complicated. Even with something as simple as sex, research into that field, even research limited to human sex, turns up complicated answers. Being transgender does not immediately impart perfect knowledge of the spectrum, and sex spectrums are still confused for gender spectrums, even within the transgender and intersex community. Hopefully this short guide will prove useful for how we should address one another.

    Cisgender - a person who identifies with the gender associated with their birth sex (males to boys and females to girls)

    Transgender - a person who does not identify with the gender that is associated with their birth sex

    Ambigender - a person who identifies with both major genders, including moderate biases. This includes cross-dressers and club kids.

    Androgender - a person who identifies with neither gender

    Transsexual - a person who wishes their body to match their gender identity; this includes those who have had or are seeking sexual reassignment surgery.

    Intersex - a person who's sex organs and/or chromosomal sex do not fight the definition of male or female. This includes hermaphrodites.

    Let me know if I left anybody out.

    Amare atque Pace, Semper

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  2. I remembered questioning my relationship with J. I am a hetero cisgender female, sharing my story with TG Guide members, and hope that you might find some support in your own situation from my post.

    Partner to J, a man who transitioned M2F,I found his coming out and then his transition caused me to question my own sexual preference. I struggled with societal views and judgments, and wondered how I would be perceived in the relationship if I stayed. I wondered what our sexual relationship would be like on the other side of J's transition M2F.

    If you are a heterosexual cisgender male, and "she" becomes "he" (F2M) your sex life will change. You may find yourself in a a homosexual/gay sexual relationship. Do you wonder, if you stay, and you still find pleasure and satisfaction in your relationship with your partner that it means you are a homosexual, gay, or, bisexual? In my own situation, I wondered, will that mean I am a lesbian? After much thought and angst, I concluded, maybe, I am simply, "bicapable".

    "Bicapable" is a term I coined to describe the relationship between an SO and "A PARTICULAR person (husband/wife/partner) who transitions M2F or F2M. THIS partner whom you have established a sexual relationship with as a "he or, as a she", and with whom you have a "HISTORY". I believe it is possible to have a gratifying sexual intimate relationship to each others mutual satisfaction, after "he transitions to female, or, she transitions to male" because you know and understand each others emotional and physical needs. At the same time, you know in yourself, that in any other circumstance, presented with a homosexual/gay sexual encounter or relationship, that you would have no sexual interest. This is what I mean by "bicapable".

    So many variables make up one's own ability to enjoy being with another person in an intimate way.
    It is no one's business but that of the two of you with regard to how you express your sexual nature when together. In any relationship, it is the couple that defines what that is. Self-exploration, curiosity, and experimentation can go a long way to contributing to personal growth. And, I believe a relationship can grow and flourish if done with mutual respect, self-awareness, consent, and care for another person.

    My suggestion is to talk to your partner about your needs, likes, dislikes, fears, and to be honest, and sensitive to your partners needs as well. You might be surprised at what you discover about yourself, and your partner. Could you discover you are a gay? Maybe. But you may come to realize that by nature, you are not gay, but with THIS person, in THIS relationship, you are bicapable. Thoughts?