So this weekend I had to deal with some not so nice situations and I figured Id blog about them and see what everyone else thought about it and I would love to hear responses from this entry.

Anyways, during the 4th of july weekend earlier this year, my friends invited me out (tiffany actually) to enjoy the fireworks and hang out with them. Little did I know they had a blind date set up for me. I was super nervous but he was super nice and really treated me like a lady. I had seen him a few other times after that but we had never "done anything" if you know what I mean (for those who don't understand I meant like kissing or anything physical beyond holding hands). Well anyways this past sunday he called me and invited me out for a little date and I was really excited. So I got all ready and met him out. We first went to dinner and then were going to see a movie and while we were driving, he keep putting his hand on my leg and working his way up. At first I didn't realize what he was doing, but right about when his fingers were inches from my undies, i had to stop him and push his hand away. He didn't object but not 20 mins later he was doing it again. I was not looking for any kind of sexual encounter at all and I made it perfectly honest. Later after the movie (in which he tried it a couple more times) I confronted him about it asking why he wouldn't respect the fact I didn't want to fool around. He then told me how he thought all trans girls all wanted a sexual fling and not care about a relationship. He said stuff like because I was still partially male that I should have a male pattern of thinking and want sex just like a regular guy. This upset me really deeply and i started to cry thinking that people who know me just see me as a walking sex toy. He took me back to my car and I left right away without saying a word. Story note I was not dressed provocitavely. I was wearing a knee length jean skirt and a 3/4 sleeved top that didn't show clevage or that much. The outfit was a little form fitting but most women's clothing is.

Later I called my friends who set me up with him originally and they were very supportive and said that they were sorry for setting me up with him in the first place. I talked to them for over an hour and then finally calmed down about the whole situation. I think I may have over reacted a little because it was the first time that anyone said anything to my face like that and also said im still partially male.

My therapist told me a while ago how, when Im out on a date or at a club, I need to change my train of thinking. She said that women (ts or gg) are more like prey animals and we always need to be aware of this and be safe or else we can get ourselves in a bad situations. Sometimes Im just ni'eve and too trusting, but at the same time i don't want to be someone whos skeptical right away before anyone even has a chance to give me a first impression.

Has anyone else ever had a situation like the one I went through or had heard something like my therapist said? How did you deal with it? What do you do to keep yourself safe? and most importantly How do you deal with jerks who think we are just exotic sex toys?

Thanks for reading