We had friends round on Staurday, who we hadn't seen for months. They were aware of me being Trans, but had never seen me before "en Femme", although I had sent photo's to show what to expect. The female half of the couple was fine seeing me as I really am - as Eve, and commented how slim I looked in my long black dress, this really pleased me. We had some drinks, and a little later on the male half of the couple said to me that he saw me as a "bloke in a dress with tits", whilst I don't think that he meant it to be an insult, more of a statement of his ease of being in company with me, I none-the-less was offended by it, to me it was tantamount to stating that I didn't look like a woman.

He has always just stated what was on his mind, never mind the consequences, or whoever gets hurt by his clumsiness. I started to realise that he was a dinosaur who is finding it hard to adjust to modern day life in Britain, after a little later on he also stated that he wasn't a racist but didn't like "them", I think he was referring to Asians, I argued the point that he was tarring all Asians with the same brush, and that there are good and bad in all races, but to no obvious effect upon him. I was disappointed with him and the evening that I had been looking forward to.

I know that I have changed a lot in the past 5-6 months or so, but didn't realise how much more tolerant I have become, and also how much more intolerant he had become. I have no doubt that if it wasn't for the fact that we had been such close friends previous to my transition, he wouldn't even talk to me, unless he was making fun of me. At heart though he didn't used to be a bad person, but he was just stubborn and had fixed ideas, his favourite saying was "don't try to teach a pig to sing, it only annoys the pig and frustrates the teacher".

My wife and the female half of the couple have made arrangements for us all to go on a caravaning holiday to Belgium, Luxembourg and southern Germany in September. In the past we'd have BBQ's and copious drinks in the evenings between the two caravans, which we all enjoyed immensley. I'm not sure that it's going to be as enjoyable in the future.

I suppose that I must expect relationships to change, I have already lost a brother and his family, so I have to realise that nothing remains constant..........................

Yours,

Eve