General Transgender Discussion

Happy New Year, east coasters! Well, in about 15 minutes anyway. Tonight I am doing lots of shaving, maybe I'll try this face mask stuff my friend recommended, me and my wife will probably do each other's nails... and I'm not wearing any guy clothes. It's a symbolic little ritual for me as I pass into the new year, leaving baggage behind! And my one resolution really (that stuff I mentioned on the other thread was just serendipitous timing) besides "live another year" (thanks Kristi ) is that I'm not going to switch out to guy clothes until the first day of the new year has passed. If that means I have to pull out my androgynous girls' stuff to go out.. then that's wh…

I wasn't going to post this because I've pretty much figured out the answer for myself, and I've also got a pretty decent guess at what the forum response will be. But I was egged on by a certain someone, and maybe people will find it interesting anyhow. This is a reformatted set of IMs so if it has funny pacing, that's why. I've been finding something interesting lately. I have several fronts on which I can progress transition-wise but they are sort of decisive in that they remove barriers to further transitioning .. rolling snowballs, sorta. Things like doing voice practice in person with friends, which would let me try going out, which would open up more possibilit…

:) In the spirit of the holiday, here's a few questions about a longtime tradition. Have you made any New Year's Resolutions? Are you planning to? Have you ever? What's the longest time you stuck to a resolution? What do you think the most common New Year's Resolution is? Annie

Jojo, I know that you and your wife have been going through turmoil this month. I see that you have cancelled your myspace page and I have not seen you here since before the holidays. I know things are really hard now, but are you ok? Please check in if you can, and know that whatever happens I am caring about you, and miss you here. Love -Kim

So I'm out to friends and family, but I would like to come out to my professors at my university. Unfortunately it's a small private school, so many professors I had last year I will have again and again until I graduate. So naturally, last year they were introduced to me as a female and I have since started my transition. I would like to send out an email to all my professors to note them of the changes I have made, and to ask them to please refer to me with male pronouns and my chosen male name from now on. However, I feel that this is going to be a VERY awkward experience. I'm not afraid of discrimination, I'm just afraid to write the stupid email. lol So I just wan…

Everyone here always comes up with insightful topics and discussions here. You people share your life's ups and downs and offer people like me much needed insight. I feel that we have quite a community here and I am glad to be apart of it. PS I hope everyone is having a wonderful holiday.

Didn't know how many candles, so I got ya a cake with just one. At any rate, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!! ~(the other) Shannon :)

I've been thinking a lot about this topic lately, especially as I've been reading that Gender Outlaw book. It actually fills in a major hole for me in my understanding of the world around me, because people often tend to assume that I will want to take charge, go first, take the biggest portions, whatever; that their needs are submissive to mine. This always annoyed the living %@#%@ out of me, honestly. I used to be a pretty overbearing and selfish kid, but as I grew up I've tried to consciously shed most of that and think of the needs and feelings of others in anything I do. I don't always succeed, but I got to a point where I realized I was trampling on people occasion…

My therapist recommended this book to me, and I finally picked up a copy the other day. I'm only about half way through it but it's already totally rocked a lot of my views and has (at the risk of sounding like a total marketing geek) really been pretty paradigm-defining for me. It's wonderful, she just comes right out and says all the things, bluntly, succinctly, and humorously, that everyone else (including us) has been afraid to say. I don't agree with everything she says, but I agree with enough that it's been really refreshing to hear someone else thinking them besides me. It's obtainable now in cheap/used paperback so I really recommend it if anyone's looking for…

Today we exchanged Yule gifts, and my wife got me something that just... wow. It speaks for itself so I'll just include some pictures. Its title is "Chrysalis" and its subtitle is "Protect and cherish; give wings to fly". I'm not sure what the artist's original intention was (daughter and mother? two women in love?) since it's a "print", but I know what it means for us.

I would like to take this time and wish all here a veryMerry Christmas and awounderful Happy new yr. I plan on spending time with my 2 growen children and my beautiful 4 yr. old grandson. I hope what ever denomiation ur are every one have a safe and wounderful holliday all my love to all of u Prissy.

Happy Holidays! (or at least I hope they're somewhat decent considering your circumstances -- for those having a not so good holiday season this year) Again, visiting in-laws for the week so will be out of touch. My heart will be here however. MIWBJ

I am a 82 year old retired professional living in North London, UK. I have cross dressed all my life, mostly in the closet. It was not until I was able to access Newsgroups that I realised I was transsexual. Started hormones some eleven years ago, a decision which I have never regretted. I did not tell my wife about either the crossdressing or the hormones. When we met and married we were living under barrack-like conditions where crossdressing was not possible and later I did not tell her because I, correctly, felt she would not accept. Eventually my wife found some of my hormone tablets I had carelessly left out and demanded to know what they were for. Ther…

I have not seen you around here in like forever. Why arent you poking your head in here and posting. We need someone to shoot at.

One of my hobbies is geofiction, the art of constructing imaginary countries. I followed the example of the many imaginary countries out there on the Web (such as Virtual Verduria, Itlani, and Kaupelan) and made my own imaginary country. It's of interest to people here because in my imaginary country, a transgendered person can be accepted as their gender of choice simply by presentation, i.e. without physically transitioning. Here it is: Kingdom of Daruny So, what do you all think?

Question, I have recently started hormones, which has been great. I haven't been able to start anything for facial hair removal yet, so I wanted to know if anyone has any advice for facial hair removal aside from shaving?

I was at the Goodwill Outlet Store last night again, and saw .. I'm not sure if they were a CD or a badly not-passing TS, but ... Just like the type of people that people are always mentioning on here as "probably shouldn't transition" -- probably 6'5", very masculine facial features, uhhh moderately functional fashion sense, totally unmasked male voice. The heartening thing is that there were quite a few people at that place last night and I didn't see anyone giving them a second look really. I mean geez... people are always worried about what will happen if someone reads them, but it makes me feel a lot better about trying even if I don't 100% succeed at first. (Sorr…

I've not posted much on the boards lately as life is getting busier all the time. My partner is working extra on weekends so I'm filling the 'housewife' role alot the past few weeks. Maybe I ought to get a French Maid outfit?? Work certainly isn't giving up on its' time demands either. So, with that said, while I'm not contributing much, visiting this message board is a good life-line from the near meaningless rat-race. Thank You all for being wondeful people. MIWBJ p.s., I'm hoping after the holidays things will slow down enough to participate more again. I even found the digital camera and hope to post a picture or two. I certainly could use some gentle c…

For the second time in my life I am experiencing my coming out, due to in large part by this message board which has meant the world to me. I can't help but feeling like this is my virtual family and support group. I really wasn't planning on coming out until my book was published in 2012 which is also the year that I retire. My wife has been acting so strange lately. I think it all started when she found a birthday card that I was sending to a friend that she didn't know so she opened the card that was meant to be mailed and it was signed Love Jojo. OMG! I was jumping through hoops trying to come up with a good story on that one. It seemed as if she was getting over tha…

This is a complex topic to try to introduce in a succinct manner, so bear with me here. And yeah I have a point to get to below I'm pretty extremely dissociated at the moment, which means I feel like I have an inner "me" that's looking out through the eyes of my body-bot, so to speak. I think I've got a pretty weird view of the world from inside here. Most people are probably a little bit dissociated on a regular basis, but I've been a pretty extreme case from everything I can gather. I know another friend who's a lot like me on a lot of things (we're (including him) still not sure if he's a gay guy or a transwoman in denial really) including this one. We were discuss…

Hi there, Let's face it, we could all lose a few extra kilograms here and there... Everybody included, whether or not you be a man, woman, child, beast, etc, etc. Here's what i'm going to do.... I would like everybody who would like to join in here, put your name down, your current wieght, (no cheating you're only cheating yourself) and your realistic goal weight. I feel really strong about this and determined that i said to my wife that i would grow a beard until the goal wieght was acheived. However, that's not happening straight away... However i wouldn't rule it out. So as of the 7th of December 2007, I currently weigh 92kgs. My goal weight would be…

I everyone. I really hate to put this up as a post but I am so flabbergasted that I had to tell someone. I'm at work tonight in my uniform and as usual I am in my guy mode. I'm talking to this man who is slightly intoxicated. He says to me, "you are a beautiful lady" , the guy floored me. I did not know what to say, If my partner would have been there I probably would have had to correct him because although my brain is female I'm not supposed to be. Since no one else was around I just blushed like all get out and pretended that I didn't hear what he said, but he repeated it and said that he was serious and that he really thought that I was beautiful. I don't think the …

After a cursory search of the board, did not find anything addressing this issue -- if the women of one's family often get breast cancer, does that mean a mtf on hormones will also have a significantly greater chance of breast cancer as well? Is anyone aware of someone who transitioned and later developed (breast) cancer? MIWBJ

Hi Everyone, Can anyone recommend an endocrinologist in Los Angeles area? Thank you! Andrea

Hi all.Well i have read many of people's thoughts here and would like to post mine and ask if anyone of you have similar experiences and feelings.I am 24 and have always known i had to be a girl.Since i can remember myself all i wanted was to be able to drees,act,live,breathe and be accepted as a girl.When i was about 3 years old i told my babysitter (believe it or not) that i wanted to look like her daughter who btw was a pretty teenage girl and so she dressed me up made my hairl look really girly and talked to me as one for the rest of the day.No need to say i was in heaven.Even when my parents came home and found out they took it as a joke and we all had a good time-st…