General Transgender Discussion

My apologies for the whiney ennui of this post up front. I feel like I need to get it off my chest though. I'm not even completely sure where to start with this, it's all tangled up in my head... so I'll start here: I've waffled a lot. I'm not as completely sure as to the state of my mind as some of you are with yours. However, I realized the other day that if I had a "magic button" that would make me into the real GG female image of myself that I see in my head, and change everyone's memories and such to match it.. you know, parallel universe or whatever.. I wouldn't hesitate more than a second to push it. I think that says a lot. I also realized that the "full d…

To the mods: I posted this in another forum, but I think it may be helpful to some so maybe it will get more traffic here. Want to stop? I'm sure you have all been there. What is this crossdressing thing really about? Perhaps I can shine a little light on the subject and share some of the insights I recently stumbled upon. What it comes down to is: What do you really want? You have to be willing to be honest with yourself. Be willing to look beneath the surface and really want to see what is there. There is a reason why you crossdress. You believe it will make you happier or bring you closer to peace. That's the bottom line. That's what everybody on earth…

I know I've been posting a lot of threads lately... sorry I just love to talk. I've spent a lot of time lately just meditating on, and seeing beauty everywhere in the world. I know how cheesy that sounds, but doing things like life drawings tends to do that to you. There's something intimate about putting down a person's lines and shadows on paper and unless you hate your work, it's impossible to not find beauty in your subject. It spills over into the rest of life. I grew up seeing images of TSes of the Jerry Springer variety, like some of the other threads I've seen posted on here -- badly botched implant jobs, real drag queen looking types, don't really seem to …

I know I saw one message on the forum about this when I searched, but I wondered if anyone ever thought they were going through MPD when sorting out gender identity issues? From very early days in my childhood I think I compartmentalized the "girl stuff" in my head and started thinking of her as a ghost personality in my head. Not of the strength that the media-sensationalized MPD people, where there's a total switch-over, memory loss, etc. Just kind of like an imaginary friend who happened to have many of the same wants, needs, and interests as me. An imaginary friend who liked the girl clothes I had and wanted to just wear them, but the guy body had other ideas... …

Howdi all, How do your TGism reflect itself in dreams? Have you always dreamt 'in the persona' of your 'brain/true sex'? I tend to be genderless in my dreams anyway, but occasionally I have dreams in which I 'know' I'm a woman, but to be honest, I have more where I'm certainly the extrernal person I am now ... i.e. male.... Actually I drream quite vividly every night, which I'm happy about, though more often than not the details fade within minutes if I don't concentrate my mind on them. Some of my friends claim the 'never dream'... I'm not sure thats true, I read somewhere we all dream but we don't all remember them. I'm grateful I do though. Last n…

So how have all of you been? I told you all that I would post when my episode of "Sex Change Hospital" was going to air, but I don't know how many of you can view it in the U.S.- It is only airing in the U.K. right now, but there is a international presence on this board at times, so you never know... It is airing Wednesday, June 20th, 2007, at 10pm U.K. time on More4, the documentary channel for the U.K.'s Channel 4.... It WILL play in the U.S. sometime soon- here is a link, and yes, the camera does add 15 pounds! "Sex Change Hospital" Episode 4 AND, now I am living in Los Angeles- after surgery, it seemed like I was living in someone else's apartment, and wor…

Hi all, here I am with another query. Reading many posts concerning tg people getting the hormone therapy that they desired, I read many times about the joy and peace felt after the hormones are taken. That the hormones in their blood made them feel whole again. Even a few ladies saying that it was euphoric. I am wondering if this is true for both mtf and ftm, and could it be that a non tg person would also feel something similar if they were introduced to estrogen or testosterone and were the opposite sex. If I took testosterone, for instance, might I feel energized, or powerful? And if a gm takes estrogen, would it make him mellow? Peaceful? Interesting to me. …

Been thinking about this a lot recently, and I think I need some pointers in the right direction, or maybe a kick up the bum... How does someone act female / feminine I was just wanting everyone's take on this, and then me and other people that are considering transition will have a guide on how to act. I maybe looking to far in to this (which I normally do), but if there is anyone out there that has gone through transition and now act's differently, or if you haven't gone through transition but have some thing to say on the subject, please put it down on this thread Thanks Lee

I read many posts relating to Gender Identity Disorder. And all of a sudden when I was reading a post today containing GID, i wondered, isn't it rather insulting that this is called a 'disorder'? When I hear the word disorder it conjures up things like 'bi-polar', or "panic disorder', or something like that. I think I may bum out if I was considered a disorder. Or maybe it just means that something went wrong somewhere and you are different. But different isnt a disorder, I don't know, maybe i'm thinking about it too much. I will go wash my dog now . -Kim

How do you do it? I'm in my early 20's and I'm trying to figure myself out. I recently posted on the "I'm I or Ain't I" thread a list of reasons why I think I could be TG. It's a constant battle for me trying to decide. I have to say that so far you have all been very supportive and helpful And yet, no matter how much I decide to investigate or research, there's this part of me that is constantly telling me "It's not real." It's like sometimes I feel like I want to be a girl and sometimes I don't and it's really confusing. I've become very stable and successful as a guy. Some of it feels like an act and some of it doesn't and I don't know how that affects all t…

First off, I want to say hello. I've been talking to a member of this site on another forum, and he has give me the link here. I Have been looking around for the last 3 weeks or so, and have decided to post my little dilemma. Hopefully someone can help me or maybe just give me some advice. Here go's: As far as I can remember my feelings started around 10, 11, or 12 years old. I used to put on my mum’s clothes when she was out, and strapped my penis back, so it looked like I didn’t have one. I had a funny childhood and for a boy, I had some strange interests; among over things, I was into Horse Riding and also was in a Jazz Band, in my eyes these are main…

Hi, I finally got validated today to be able to post, something i am very happy about. I have been reading the posts on the site for the last couple of days and have been excited for the chance to jump in. So I figured what better way than to just tell all about me, in book form! lol. I am 29 yrs old and i live in Louisville, Ky. I am married and have three children. I have been seeing a psychologist (herein referred to as "psych") for about a year now for a lot of things, all of which I am about to go into. Please forgive me for just kind of dumping all of this right off the bat, I have been in need of someone, people, to talk to for some time now. When I wa…

I know that we have talked about this subject many times but I will never get used to people talking about me. I was at the mall the other day and I over heard some guys talking about me, saying "I couldn't tell if that was a man or a woman". I usually just ignore such talk but I just don't know how you can let it keep from bothering you. Should we just accept such behavior as a fact of life because of what we are? Am I alone in these types of situations or have others experienced such circumstances? :(

I couldn't help myself with the title! So, I found a counsellor/therapist I think I'm going to start seeing! :)

Wired magazine recently had a blurb along the lines of "When a transgendered one has gotta go, where?" They answered with http://www.safe2pee.org. I checked, the site is real and created by self-described genderqueers with anarchist tendencies. You can search, add, upload photos, etc. Search is by city and state but includes Canada, too. Check it out before you go out!

I am looking for insight. information, websites, chat rooms (any) that you know of in relationship to marriage, affairs, sex, dating, between a MtF transgender and a normal male. I mean any tidbits, paragraphs, insight, experiences, websites or chatrooms where I can find out what I can expect in the area of marriage, affairs, sex, dating, between a MtF transgender and a normal male. OR the probabilities of transgendered MtF ending up in a lesbian relationship. Cassandra

:angry: I hate it. Summer is coming, and i want to wear some more skirts this year. Casual skirts. Do you ever wear skirts without hose? Like maybe use a self tanner, and not wear the pantyhose? Does that look trashy? Should it only be done with sandals? Opinions please. -Kim

Had this run in with a girl today, who apparently doesn't have a life, othen then wanting to make people around them miserable, and feel better about themselves. I dress in the mens fashion, though I still fully pre-op, and suddenly she feels the need to get in my face about it. Well Im good about not letting it bother me normaly, but I told her the true and said I was transexual. Hopping this might get her to just give up and go away. Result? Didn't work and made it worse. She just proceeded to laugh and say, "No, your a Fu**ing lesbian! You have the breasts and cooch to prove it! Lesbian!" Did not even bother after that to tell her im hetero and a man in a women bod…

I was randomly browsing around hotornot.com and I saw this picture: http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=GSHZBSA&amp...=MCM&sid=EM Is that an Adam's apple I see?! I didn't know GGs (I'm assuming she's GG, I could be wrong) could have such prominent adams apples. Her picture was rated 9.7 though.

http://www.wa-doma.org/ I kind of wish this would pass. It would be the kind of law that would cause DOMA to be struck down at the national level. For those who don't know what DOMA (the so-called Defense of Marriage Act) says, basically any state can ignore the marriage laws in other states and make it's own rules about who is married and who isn't. So theoretically, a hetersexual couple married in state A could have their marriage declared invalid in state B. Washington Initiative 957 would do just that. Because of a court case that struck down gay marriage for the reason that gay people can't procreate, I-957 makes the ability to procreate a determination o…

dear ladies and gentlemen iwas just now asked to leave a chat room why? when asked :are you female?: i said :im transgender:i was then informed :you dont belong here! dont come here to prolinthestyze ! then i was cut off oh dear god hatred is ever y where even cyberspace please reply i feel pretty down right now ladywolf

I was curious who has deatlt with significant difficulty adjust to the realization that your attractions now make you a memebr of the gay or lesbian community?

I haven't posted here in a while, but I finally worked up the courage to take the first steps to transition and I contacted a bunch of therapists to set up consultations. I'm really nervous/excited! just thought I'd share :-)

As you know I am a gg. I envy the women I see out in the stores and workplaces that can get away with wearing really cool and stylish heels. Problem is I am 5'9" and i don't have itty-bitty feet. Size 10 to be exact. I feel like a lumbering giant in heels, and I wish i could just get over it. Why shouldnt I be able to wear really cool, like leopard print high heels. Dammit, i am missing out on some fun here. My question for the taller ladies, do you have the same feeling I do when you wear heels? My husband says 'just wear them if you like them', but i dont like looking like an awkward giant either. Last time I went to Kohl's wearing 2 inch heels, I had 2 shorte…

I run an online business in my female name. However, my legal name is still my male name (I'm undecided about changing it at this time). I'm about to hire someone who will work for me over the internet; I may never meet him in person. But my legal name will need to be on the contract he signs (I am a sole proprietor, not incorporated at this time). So, I will be presenting him with a contract that has my male name on it. Any suggestions on what to do about this? Should I just be honest but nonchalant about it, like "Here's the contract, please sign it, btw <malename> is my legal name" or what?