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That's very true, it is definitely being thrown in at the deep end. The location of my office requires that in getting from the elevators to the office I have to walk through the cafeteria. During lunch hour there will be hundreds of students there. And excellent comment about "staring back" - as I started wearing more and more make-up I was very aware that I tended to look away if someone passed so I've been actively working on making eye contact with people. On the plus side, I used to not smile very easily (I had "resting bitch face"), but it comes much more naturally now :-)

It's good that you're in the throng too, mostly you'll either be ignored or have positive comments, a few bad comments might happen but I suspect not many at all. I had a bit of negativism (have I spelt that correctly?) from two or three of my neighbours, and an awful looking woman in a pub, and I think that was about it with negative responses when I transitioned full-time. The neighbours soon stopped staring especially when I eventually stared back at them! I soon became yesterday's news. From most accounts this seems to be a fairly typical sort of negative reaction, so don't worry too much about it. So why is it good to be in the throng?, because it'll give you so much confidence in a relatively short period of time, it's termed 'being thrown in at the deep end'. Hmmm character building I 'spose. Going to County Court did it for me, as I posted a few months ago.

Finishing touches probably wasn't the right term. In my mind it's stepping over the line from overall presenting as a man to presenting as a woman (right now I think I mostly look like a man trying to look like a woman). But that definitely isn't the finish line :-)

Congrats on all of this! It is great to have doctors that you trust, and a therapist. And I definitely know what you mean about feeling like you're just rambling during therapy sessions, but I've found that I often get the best feedback from therapists when that's what I think I'm doing :-) I look forward to seeing your comics!

I'm so glad that you feel so much more at ease with yourself now, and as you've already found out to an extent, it just gets easier and easier being who you are. Finishing touches? I'm not aware that they really ever finish................anyway you'll find out for yourself soon enough, I found it all to be fun, hope it's the same for you. Cheers, Eve

Well how to feel stupid! LoL Sorry........anyway ,hormones still change the man so it was half appropriate!

I'm FtM. So...Reverse that. ​

hmmmmm .........Hope cahnges a man?, no, hormones change a man ! LoL, & so you won't be male everywhere it counts for much longer so it would seem! Good luck with the endocrinologist. Cheers, Eve

Ben, Lots of excellent points here. To focus quickly on the point about media representation, I recall the early years when I had come out as gay (mistakenly as it turns out!), and finding even the LGBT rights movement trying to focus people on "mainstream" or "normal" lesbian and gay people. Can't say LGBT for that part since they definitely did not want attention focused on the BT part! Long before I realized I was trans I was really pissed about that - it was trans people who rioted at the Stonewall back in '69 after all. Your talk about setting standards made me think of a Barney Frank quote (bear with me, I will connect this!) - back in 1993 when people were arguing over whether LGBT people were 1% or 10% of the population I saw him in a debate - and quite brilliantly he didn't engage in the battle of the numbers, he just said "how many of us do there have to be to be entitled to civil rights?" The connection that I would add here is this - how perfect do we all have to be to be entitled to civil rights? The answer of course should be "NOT AT F***ING ALL!" - many, many imperfect cis-people get rights after all. xoxo Christie

UK NHS advice regarding trans breast size is that a cup size smaller than your mother's is the norm. I also suspect that if you were heavy chested as a male it will also have a bearing. Good luck with your religious issues................. Cheers, Eve

Warren, I really feel for you and your deep discomfort. It's a shame you don't have an NHS in the US. I too, used to not want to go out or be very selective as to the places that I would go out to, so I have an idea of some of your problem's. I hope that things improve for you soon, Cheers, Eve

7 mos HRT - woah

I'm a newbie - Been 7 mos. HRT - haven't shared experience with anyone yet

My mom has opened me as her other Daught. and told the rest of the family accept and get on with life. My friends all are so open and been the back bone seeing me along the ad f who and what I am. I now nedto let my twitter friends so my change.Plese help me do that a bit scared. .