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  1. Dawn13


    Over 20,000 views of my site. This count is mind boggling. Maybe I can be a good influence to those I impact. Dawn Added - this is all me - wearing a sports bra and a nice running outfit - Showing two early photos to now - Can anyone see why I might be first seen as a woman now? This photo represents the best of how I feel and look today. I have changed quite a bit since I joined this site. Lost weight, longer hair, pierced ears, some breast growth, smooth small and shapely muscles, beard gone. I have reshaped and modified myself as much as I could with out going through extensive surgeries. Now much more feminine in body I am and much more aware of my being transgender. I love it when I look and feel like a woman. This is where I am and I think this is where I will remain. I expect I will take a few more steps toward physical and inward beauty. (Ask me) Thanks to all of you who have positively critiqued my photos,logs and blogs. I love and respect to all of you - Dawn
  2. Dawn13

    Jenner and Beauty

    I Have been following all the Jenner news. This has stirred some of my recent thinking. What is the core of why we have our feelings and want so much to change. I think there is a certain desire to see ourselves as beautiful. Women express this better than almost all men. When I put on a dress I feel changed. When I see most other men I see most of them as lazy/unkempt, fat/heavy and scuzzy. This is the excepted image of men. I do not fit this image and I know I am stared at a lot by other men, usually in restrooms, who do not expect a beautiful looking man. When I look beautiful (Handsome) day-to-day, I am often mistaken for a girl, even when in unisex or masculine clothing. I usually do not go out of my way but I am well groomed, very tan, fit and now have longer styled blond hair. I think some of why I wish I could change is rooted in the concept of beauty - and if men could also be beautiful in what is currently a woman's norm early in life - I think fewer would be unhappy with their body image and fewer would want to change. Here is another thought. I think is more acceptable to be changed completely into a woman than it is to dress and adorn ones self in a similar fashion. Yes, I would love to wear a colorful attractive dress and show off my small waist and still not try to hide that I have a somewhat feminine looking male body. However, I feel less anxiety when I go through the complete effort of hiding any maleness as I look completely like a woman. Also, I actually feel safer in woman mode as I do not see myself as a homosexual; not wishing for men to lust for me in this fashion.
  3. 'Transparent': A New Dramedy Where Dad Becomes Mom "... in what he [Jeffrey Tambor] calls "the role of a lifetime." Best-known for comedy, Tambor turns in a full-range performance as Mort Pfefferman, who, much to the shock of his grown children, comes out as a woman christened Maura." Read more at http://abcnews.go.co...ad-mom-25722978
  4. i remember when i first realized that i wasn't like my brothers, that i was like my sisters. it seemed like a delicious secret but .it didn't take too long for that delcious secret to become a nightmare. By age 5 i prayed that God would make me a girl (i still do). From age 8 until i was18 i dressed in my sister's clothes daily. It always felt soo right to be wearing girl clothes and always i felt calm, the only time in my days when i did feel calm. Until was 11 i thought that i was the only one like me. At age 11 I read about Jan Morris and for the first time i thought that maybe i wasn't alone. When i turned 18 the impossibility of being me was overwhelming, everyday all day i would see other girls and ladies and feel the pain of not being able to be openly like them. i became angry at being trans and even hating me being me. In the next years i ran from me fell in love, got married had 4 children earned 2 degrees all the while hating the best part of me and always when i would pause i would feel the same pain of not being me only every day every year the pain grew worse, it still does. For those of you who are young and hesitating to transition please do whatever it takes to transition. You can run from being trans but it won'ty go away. YOU CAN"T RUN FROM THE BEST PART OF YOURSELF no matter how hard you run or how faryou run. Please don't be cowardly like me and find yourself at 59 years of age hurting soo badly because you need to be the woman you were born to be. May we all love the person we are and be willing to do what it takes to be true to ourselves everyday of our lives. i fear that for me it probably is too late but there are some wonderful things that have happened to me. My maternal instinct makes me an outstanding special educator and i now have grown to love the girl i am. To any who might be reading this, please know that you and i are friends whom i haven't met yet. i will love you forever.
  5. I was born a woman in a mans body. I've known this since my earliest memory but growing up during the 70s and 80s in Southern California and being raised by two very conservative parents made life heartbreaking and filled with pain. I wasn't strong enough to go against my parents and now at the young age of 50 it's still difficult. I think about how different my life will become and it excites me to think that one day I'll be able to transform into the woman I've always hidden from the public. It's going to take a lot of work—surgical and hormonal— but the end result for me will be liberating and glorious. When I was younger I would wear my sisters dresses as often as I could. One day in my sophomore year of high school my mother caught me in a dress. I spent the next two years in counseling being told it was unacceptable to feel the way I did. In 1986 when I graduated from high school I was forced by my parents to enlist in the United States Army in order to make me a man. I retired after serving 25 years. During my career I fought the urge to be who I was inside. I married three times but that never lasted. I was always jealous of my wives. I wanted to be a wife too. I've begun the necessary steps to happiness. Will it be easy? Absolutely not but anything this important shouldn't be an easy process to traverse. I have several roadblocks ahead of me; weight loss, the looks I'll get when coming out in public for the first time (I'm 6'3" 250 lbs) but I even though I know tough times are ahead I'm still driven to become the woman I was born to be. ​I quit my job and moved 1,400 miles to Seattle with the hopes of finding a job where I can transition and continue on with becoming Olivia.This will be the first of many blogs depicting my journey.I hope you'll join me by following in on this new grand adventure.
  6. NICOLE PELLETIERE | 18 March 2017 "Maison said in June that Corey was bullied for being transgender when she was younger. The first incident was when a child pushed her down a hill covered in frozen ice, causing injuries to Corey's face. Eventually, Corey was moved to another school as a result of the bullying, Maison said." -- gma.yahoo.com Dad and daughter transition together from mother and son: 'If she can do it, so can I'
  7. I still cannot, for the life of me, figure out why the murders of transgender poeple are NEVER immediately thought to be, believed to be, speculated that or suspected of being, a hate crime - only statements are made like (paraphrasing), "officials have not commented on whether the murder will be investigated as a hate crime," or "it's unknown if this will be concidered a hate crime," or "the murder is not being investigated as a hate crime at this time," etc., etc., etc.. Even in murders where their is unmistakable, viciously brutal over-kill, no one will even say, "this looks like a hate crime." It's like they go total stupid about it. I don't get it. 27 February 2017 | by Stefanie Gerdes "At least one news station – New Orleans’ WWL-TV – misgendered her, and a number of others used Chyna’s dead name." --gaystarnews.com Performer shot down in New Orleans is fifth trans woman to be killed in the US this year
  8. I made this film a couple years ago to use in some of my early lectures. It's an overview and certainly doesn't cover all who feel they fit the term transgender, but many might find it helpful. Most of my education isn't directed to transgender people themselves, but instead to the general public so they can gain a better understanding. Often the people I'm speaking to work in the mental health system in some way.
  9. If we were to educate on the basics, giving the general public a foundation of knowledge, a common vocabulary, I believe we would get further faster.
  10. This short movie airs 12/5/2016. I'm interested as it may help me to understand other transgender people when assisting them. Summary: Directed by acclaimed portrait photographer and filmmaker Timothy Greenfield-Sanders (HBO’s The Black List, The Out List and The Latino List, among others) and featuring interviews and an introduction by Janet Mock, The Trans List shines a light on prominent members of the transgender community. Featuring such outspoken subjects as Kylar Broadus, Caroline Cossey, Amos Mac, Bamby Salcedo, Buck Angel, Miss Major Griffin-Gracy, Nicole Maines, Shane Ortega, Caitlyn Jenner, Alok Vaid-Menon and Laverne Cox, the film profiles this diverse group of 11 transgender individuals, telling their stories in their own words, addressing identity, family, career, love, struggle and accomplishment. Simultaneously, The Annenberg Space for Photography in Los Angeles is presenting IDENTITY: Timothy Greenfield-Sanders The List Portraits, a special exhibition in which the renowned photographer’s List Series portfolios (The Black List, The Latino List, The Women’s List and The Out List) will be shown together for the first time, along with The Trans List portraits, through February 2017. The Trans List was directed by Timothy Greenfield-Sanders; interviews by Janet Mock; executive producers, Ingrid Duran, Catherine Pino, Chad Thompson and Tommy Walker; producers, Timothy Greenfield-Sanders, Sam McConnell and Janet Mock; editor, Johanna Giebelhaus. For HBO: supervising producer, Lisa Heller; executive producer Sheila Nevins.
  11. by Sean Mandell | August 15, 2016 "Strut, both the name of the show and the agency, follows a group of transgender models as they trail-blaze their way in the glamorous and oh-so-dramatic (not to mention catty) world of modeling. Whoopi Goldberg executive produces the show which brings together a group of faces that may be familiar to some readers" -- towleroad.com Get Ready to ‘Strut’: Oxygen Debuts New Reality Series About a Trans Modeling Agency
  12. by Zack Ford Apr 19, 2016 3:23 pm "According to research from J. Walter Thompson Intelligence (JWT) and Out Professionals in Advertising and Media, when people are shown ads that feature transgender people, 74 percent agreed that it simply reflects the reality of today’s society. Some 65 percent agree that brands that choose to include trans people in their ads are brave and progressive. Approval unsurprisingly tended to be higher among women, Millennials, liberals, and non-heterosexuals." --thinkprogress.org Customers Are OK With Transgender People In Advertising, But Don’t Know What It Means
  13. I talk about creating a new normal while transitioning. But creating a new normal is adaptive for anyone. I've been asked by several "When are you going to make this video?". I was thinking about it in the tub last night and when I got out around 9:30 I grabbed my voice recorder and just started talking like I do to everyone. Making the video itself always takes much longer but I didn't do anything too special so it didn't take long and I was able to get it up on YouTube by about midnight. ‪#transgender ‪#TransgenderUnafraid
  14. Beth Greenfield, Senior Writer | May 17, 2016 "While the details of the situation are disturbing — particularly in light of various transgender “bathroom bills” being debated in North Carolina and beyond — similar episodes are neither rare nor new for women seen as being on the male end of the gender spectrum. And Toms’ experience is shining a light on how such confrontations can affect women on the receiving end — as well as how the growing national frenzy around bathroom use is emboldening citizens, more than ever, to become restroom gender vigilantes." -- yahoo.com Woman Harassed in Bathroom for Appearing Transgender — and She’s Not Alone
  15. Scott Gleeson, USA TODAY Sports 11:58 a.m. EDT April 27, 2016 "“I feel like I need to be concerned for my well-being” in North Carolina, he said. “I’m not as concerned in the race. But I’m going to be in the state where I don’t feel a lot of love. There’s the hotel, a restaurant. Anything can happen. ..." --usatoday.com Transgender athlete Chris Mosier worries about competing in North Carolina
  16. UsernameOptional

    What It Feels Like to be Transgender

    Lee Mokobe - 20 year old South african poet. The first time I uttered a prayer was in a glass-stained cathedral.I was kneeling long after the congregation was on its feet, dip both hands into holy water, trace the trinity across my chest, my tiny body drooping like a question mark all over the wooden pew. I asked Jesus to fix me, and when he did not answer I befriended silence in the hopes that my sin would burn and salve my mouth would dissolve like sugar on tongue, but shame lingered as an aftertaste. And in an attempt to reintroduce me to sanctity, my mother told me of the miracle I was, said I could grow up to be anything I want. I decided to be a boy. It was cute. I had snapback, toothless grin, used skinned knees as street cred, played hide and seek with what was left of my goal. I was it. The winner to a game the other kids couldn't play, I was the mystery of an anatomy, a question asked but not answered, tightroping between awkward boy and apologetic girl, and when I turned 12, the boy phase wasn't deemed cute anymore. It was met with nostalgic aunts who missed seeing my knees in the shadow of skirts, who reminded me that my kind of attitude would never bring a husband home, that I exist for heterosexual marriage and child-bearing. And I swallowed their insults along with their slurs. Naturally, I did not come out of the closet. The kids at my school opened it without my permission. Called me by a name I did not recognize, said "lesbian," but I was more boy than girl, more Ken than Barbie. It had nothing to do with hating my body, I just love it enough to let it go, I treat it like a house, and when your house is falling apart, you do not evacuate, you make it comfortable enough to house all your insides, you make it pretty enough to invite guests over, you make the floorboards strong enough to stand on. My mother fears I have named myself after fading things. As she counts the echoes left behind by Mya Hall, Leelah Alcorn, Blake Brockington. She fears that I'll die without a whisper, that I'll turn into "what a shame" conversations at the bus stop. She claims I have turned myself into a mausoleum, that I am a walking casket, news headlines have turned my identity into a spectacle, Bruce Jenner on everyone's lips while the brutality of living in this body becomes an asterisk at the bottom of equality pages. No one ever thinks of us as human because we are more ghost than flesh, because people fear that my gender expression is a trick, that it exists to be perverse, that it ensnares them without their consent, that my body is a feast for their eyes and hands and once they have fed off my queer, they'll regurgitate all the parts they did not like. They'll put me back into the closet, hang me with all the other skeletons. I will be the best attraction. Can you see how easy it is to talk people into coffins, to misspell their names on gravestones. And people still wonder why there are boys rotting, they go away in high school hallways they are afraid of becoming another hashtag in a second afraid of classroom discussions becoming like judgment day and now oncoming traffic is embracing more transgender children than parents. I wonder how long it will be before the trans suicide notes start to feel redundant, before we realize that our bodies become lessons about sin way before we learn how to love them. Like God didn't save all this breath and mercy, like my blood is not the wine that washed over Jesus' feet. My prayers are now getting stuck in my throat. Maybe I am finally fixed, maybe I just don't care, maybe God finally listened to my prayers. Thank you.
  17. 24 July 2016 } James Withers "The largest LGBTQ civil rights organization in the country made the announcement today (24 July). She is scheduled to speak on the assembly’s last day (28 July). Chad Griffin, the organization’s president will also speak that day. -- gaystarnews.com Democratic convention makes history with first openly transgender speaker
  18. Pearson McKinney | June 19, 2016 "The Navajo refer to Two Spirits as Nádleehí (one who is transformed), among the Lakota is Winkté (indicative of a male who has a compulsion to behave as a female), Niizh Manidoowag (two spirit) in Ojibwe, Hemaneh (half man, half woman) in Cheyenne, to name a few." -- bipartisanreport.com Before European Christians Forced Gender Roles, Native Americans Acknowledged 5 Genders
  19. Peter Hancock | June 2, 2016 "His remarks came during debate over a nonbinding resolution condemning the Obama administration's new guidelines on Title IX compliance that instruct schools to allow transgender students to use restrooms and locker rooms and to participate in other sex-segregated activities that correspond to their gender identity." --ljworld.com Psychiatric consensus: Kansas lawmaker’s claim that transgender people are ‘insane’ is false, misguided
  20. By Cleis Abeni January 18 2016 12:46 PM EST "A writer of fiction, essays, columns, and book reviews, Kelly, an Ohio native, moved to New York City after a stint in Michigan. Kelly was, at one time, active within the Femme Collective, and she participated in Baltimore's 2012 Femme Conference. In her tribute, Branlandingham spoke of how Kelly was also a vital part of the "Femme Family," a community to which both Kelly and Branlandingham belonged." -advocate.com Literary Community Mourns Trans Writer Bryn Kelly
  21. EricaRavenwood

    University Lecture NY State

    Erica Ravenwood Guest Lecture MCC - New York State University Monroe Community College. January 21st 2016 http://www.thetransgendermovement.com/ #thetransgendermovement #transgender #lgbt
  22. EricaRavenwood

    The Erica Ravenwood Tecnique, lol

    My Personal Voice Changing Technique Some simple techniques for changing your voice if that is something you would like to do. This technique works for developing both male and female voices. In short SING! Sounds too easy right? Let me explain. When I was working in male mode I use to do a lot of speaking before large groups. I found people will pay attention more if you have a voice they want to hear so I trained my voice to be extremely deep and resonant. Like an old man singing Old Man River deep. Seriously, I became legend for my deep voice and the way I got it there was to sing. And yes I sang Old Man River but also Johnny Cash, Elvis, songs that had deep, resonant notes in it. When I lived full time in California for the three years one of the things that bothered me most was my voice. It’s a common comment I hear from many so I know that I’m not alone in that. This time around I knew that had to change since I refuse to go through life afraid to talk. I know some would like me to stop talking but that isn’t going to happen. I looked for tips on changing my voice and all I could find was either the absurd (“try talking like Mickey Mouse and then pulling it back”) or too ridiculously expensive lessons to buy. So I surmised that if singing could give my voice deep resonance then I should be able to train it the other way using the same technique. I chose one song, Foolish Games by Jewel, and sang it on a loop without stopping, every morning for two hours for a month and it moved my voice box to a place where I had a higher register that then translated into my natural speaking voice after time. In order to use this technique you HAVE to be committed to doing it. There is no here or thing with it. No “I’ll do it when I feel like it.” Every morning for twos hours, non-stop, without fail and you must PROJECT. Don’t strain but being timid in your singing won’t work. You’re going to sound like crap. Don’t let that throw you. Perseverance is needed in this and know that even after your voice starts to change in your singing the first few times through are a warm up, you will probably sound your best a few times in the middle and start to sound like crap again toward the end as your voice gets tired. Just expect it. The goal isn't to become a great singer. The goal is to develop a natural speaking voice you’re comfortable with so you can have the confidence you want while speaking. This will change your pitch and isn't a technique where you will be able to go back and forth between a higher and lower register unless you wish to take the time to train your voice box back. It’s semi permanent in nature but pitch is only half the story to a good speaking voice. Voice mannerisms should be learned as well. Men tend to speak in a monotone manner with little inflection and it is perfectly acceptable for a man to mumble. Women tend to enunciate their words and have a rise and fall throughout a sentence or thought. To help get some of that natural sing song inflection in your speech pattern I suggest trying to sound slightly excited when you speak. This will do three things. 1) It raises your pitch 2) You won't hold the same tone throughout an entire sentence or thought and will therefore give some natural inflection and 3) This will also create excitement for the person you are talking to and usually results in being responded to positively which is a great confidence booster in it self. Use it as an exercise when appropriate (or not so appropriate but maybe not when something sad is going on) and drop it back at some point if you like once you've gotten used to having inflection. For men, you’re trying to feel a rumble at the point where the neck meets the torso. When singing a song like Old Man River, after time, you should feel a resonant rumble in the low part of your throat when you go through the bass line of certain notes. It takes work to get there but that rumble, once achieved, will give you satisfaction in the feeling of it and you’ll want to feel that often. Smoking, as most people know, is very damaging when trying to attain a clear sounding voice. Remember Lucille Ball? Probably not...um..Remember the I Love Lucy lady? Think of her like way after I Love Lucy. She loved to smoke and her voice became awful. The last tip is keeping hydrated. Good hydration will make your voice sound it's best. Drinking alcohol will affect your hydration since alcohol is very dehydrating. Gargling with a little warm saltwater will smooth strained vocal cords and help relax them. Just don't swallow the saltwater. Seriously. Spit in out. Your voice may sound bad to you when you are nervous. I know I think that about mine. When I get nervous my throat constricts, affecting how I sound. When I can relax my voice sounds just as it should. I'm offering this as an example of my voice. I did the VA seminar in 2014 and the last half the beginning of 2016. Pitch isn't the important part of sounding female. Mannerism is what sells it. When on the phone, when people can't see me, I'm never confused for male and for me this is very helpful in many regards.