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MonicaPz's Blog

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Fantasia Fair Has Extended Their Early Bird Fee Until The End of June . . .

Dear Friends, Have found a roommate on Fantasia Fair's Facebook page. But now for the better news . . . I just learned today that Fantasia Fair is extending their early bird rate of $510.00 for the week until the end of June! You can pay half to lock in the special price, but, instead of paying half, you can ask them to break it up into thirds. They will be meeting in beautiful Provincetown MA from Sunday, October 17th to Sunday, October 24th. Some meals are included. Please
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Need A Roommate (Female) For Fantasia Fair . . .

Dear Friends, Have a double King Size bedded room at The Boat Slip Resort while I attend the Fantasia Fair from Sunday, October 17th to Sunday, October 24th. Seeking a platonic female roommate. To learn more about Fantasia Fair and The Boat Slip Resort, check it out by Googling "Fantasia Fair." Please drop me a PM to learn more. Thank you for considering me as your roommate. Yours truly, Monica            

Free Monthly Workshop On Zoom

Dear friends, A few days ago a friend passed on some information that might be helpful to you and I. This coming Saturday, August 22nd, a generous Speech Language Pathologist and gender voice specialist, Nicole Gress, MS, CCC, SLP, is starting to offer free monthly classes on Zoom, at 10 AM Pacific and 1 PM Eastern times.  If you would like to learn more or sign up, here's her contact information: Website: https://letstalk.mykajabi.com/gender-voice-tension-workshop

New Online Transgender Clinic and An Inspirational Video . . .

Dear Friends, First, I learned of a new transgender clinic that specializes in telehealth. Presently, they do not work with any insurance companies, but they are working hard to change that. Do understand they do have a sliding fee scale. Their website is: https://www.transclinique.com Secondly, a local transwoman, who I have known for years shares her amazing life story, showing that real change is possible. She overcame undiagnosed ADHD, abuse at the hands of her parents and tea

My Take on the Book, The Sky Turned Green & The Grass Turned Blue: Diane's Story by Diane Kelly

Realize that Ellen already wrote a book review on the book, The Sky Turned Green & The Grass Turned Blue:  Diane's Story by Diana Kelly, about her personal journey as the significant other to a M2F transsexual. Feel very strongly that not only significant others, but also transgender people themselves and therapists should read this book. The most important lesson I took away from this book was that serious personality disorders can afflict transgender people, as they can anyone el

Tuesday In Seattle

Today it poured all day, not just drizzled.  Wanted to make the most of my trip and I did not want to stay in my hotel room.  Had a choice of visiting the physical Blick Art Materials Store in Seattle or the Seattle Public Library Central Library, but not both.  Checked the websites of both, and I chose the library hands-down! Am a library enthusiast, and I fell in love with the library from the moment I saw it from the bus.  The architecture was just amazing and the library was just huge,

My First Monday In Seattle . . . Looking At Public Housing

Early Monday morning I looked at my first choice in public housing.  Wrote off my second choice because it was three miles from the nearest bus stop and it was a run down house that catered to hippies, on the top of a very steep hill.  The third choice was also three miles from the nearest bus stop and far into the boondocks, not near anything. Thanks to my friend, Emma, she researched my three choices before I arrived, saving me long bus trips on my second and third choices, and affirming

My First Weekend In Seattle . . .

After sleeping in at the hotel's pillow soft bed, trying to recover from three days riding coach on AMTRAK, I visited "Gay City," Seattle's LGBT Center.  Intended to visit for two hours, from 1 PM to 3 PM, the Asexual Support Group, which I found very informative.  After the Asexual Support Group, I wanted to visit for two hours, from 3 PM to 5 PM, the Lesbian Social Group, but I had to cancel as my back was acting up on the folding chair I was sitting on.  Following the Asexual Support Group, w

My First Day In Seattle!

Although I was exhausted, I took advantage of the King Street Railroad Station only being a block away from the offices of Sound Transit to pick up an ORCA card, which is $8.00 per day ($4.00 per day if you are a senior (65 or older), or disabled, which I highly recommend.  The ORCA card is good for the bus, ferry, streetcar, light rail, and heavy rail.  Bought eight days, and it is loaded onto one card, and I can not recommend it enough.  Much better than paying cash, and you save a lot of mone

Two Cities and a Huge Warehouse at Night . . .

Dear Friends, On the train ride from Poughkeepsie, NY to Seattle, WA, during the night, I encountered two beautiful cities at night (Cleveland, OH and Minneapolis/St. Paul, MN.  In between these two cities, we passed Milwaukee WI where I encountered many huge warehouses (3 - 4 city blocks on each edge) the largest of which was an Amazon Distribution Center.  Also passed a huge Miller High Life beer plant there, too. Met wonderful people on the train, including a best selling Western au

Seattle Fact Finding Trip

Dear Friends, Am going on a fact finding (but still fun!) trip to Seattle to see if I should continue on the 2 - 3 year wait list I have been on to get into Seattle Public Housing.   Hope to upload useful information every day, including pictures.   Presently the public housing I am in (Dutchess County, New York State - although it has shown improvement recently, it is still very trans and homo phobic), and the housing itself is going very quickly downhill.  Of course, it is unrea

Bullying

Bullying Bullying is a problem for everyone, sooner or later, at every age and stage of life. Sometimes it's subtle and other times it's very direct. In short, a behavior becomes bullying when a person "triangulates," which means bringing one or more other person(s) in to act against the victim. Others may have behaviors we don't like, such as racism, but this is their problem, not yours.  However, we have a right and obligation (bystander) to call out bullies because it crea

What is Important in a Relationship

What is Important in a Relationship What I have noticed is that many people create their own loneliness either by not being mindful of what they are looking for in a partner or what they can offer to a partner. Many people think that love just "happens," to them ("you'll know you're in love when it happens to you," as my dear Mother used to say, may God rest her soul). Here's an example, based on my own life, and I recommend people to make such a list so they can be more aware of

The Headlines Are As Stunning As They Are Frequent . . .

The Headlines Are As Stunning As They Are Frequent An article by Corrine Goodwin for "The GayJournal Magazine" "Trump's transgender military ban 'worse than don't ask, don't tell,' advocates say." U.S. rolls back protections for transgender prison inmates Trump administration dismantles LGBT-friendly policies Health care new front for transgender rights under Trump In fact, the only thing that seems to happen more frequently than these headlines are the tweets emana

When You Transition . . . Everyone You Know Transitions, Too

When You Transition . . . Everyone You Know Transitions, Too Written By Corinne Goodwin in "The GAYJOURNAL Magazine" I began my so-called "path to transition" at the age of 55.  That is when I finally said the words "I am transgender and I have to live authentically" out loud.  Of course, I knew that I was trans decades earlier.  I was not able to put a name to it, but I knew there was something different about me even before I started kindergarten.  I was a real hard charger who worke

Should You Move?

Recently I commented on someone's post about being bullied, and, literally, I was bullied in the public library by two teenage girls only 15 minutes later! That evening, I called a T/LGB Warmline to discuss this idea further. First of all, I believe, due to the current Administration, that T/LGBs will encounter an increase in bullying, no matter where they live. The first thing is that you deserve to be welcome, not just tolerated.  Be sure your overall situation improves with eac

On Turning Sixty . . .

Looking back, I accepted my birthdays quite happily and proudly except for the last year before the decade turned and the first year of the new decade. For instance, I grieved turning 19, as I knew this was the last year I could call myself a teenager, and grieved a little more at 20, as I knew I was not only no longer a teenager, but never will be again. This happened at ages 29 and 30, as I knew I was leaving "young adulthood" behind. Again, at ages 39 and 40, I knew I was defin

The "New" Friendship

Some people feel there is a new definition of friendship:  persons can be friends even if they never met face-to-face or even spoke on the telephone, such as Internet "friendships." They argue the old definition of friendship, such as knowing each other's personal information (first and last names, home addresses and telephone numbers) and regularly entertaining each other in each other's homes), no longer holds true in today's day and age. In my opinion, I think some people are confus

Is There A Place For Short-Term Relationships?

All my life I sought a life-long relationship, and, yes, I found true love for ten years, (in my forties), only to lose it for my refusal to marry her (back then, a Holy Union), for fear of losing my Disability benefits and bankrupting her as a result. As I approach my 60's, I realize I have become more complex, because of all the life experience I have been through, making it more difficult for me to find someone with whom I am compatible.  What brought this home to me was my experience with fo

How To Survive The Holidays

In my opinion, there are three kinds of people when it comes to celebrating the holidays.  The first group of people had wonderful memories of the holidays.  Even if they came from dysfunctional families, sometimes all the dysfunction stops during the holiday, and, however so briefly, everything is "normal," or even idealistic during the holiday, before returning to the dysfunction of everyday life.  Often, as adults, they strive to recreate these idealistic holidays they enjoyed as children, w

The New Loneliness: Confusing Internet Connections With Face to Face Friendships

Today people are confusing becoming "friends" with people they "meet" on the Internet with the friends they meet in real life. Ideally, people would physically meet and become friends with people, then use the Internet to maintain contact between meetings, or to grow these friendships if they're long distance friendships.  Rarely I have experienced friendships I met on the Internet to progress to face-to-face friendships, or that they have lasted, usually "petering out."  However, the friends I

Nine Relationship Stages That All Couples Go Through

The following is an article that a friend sent me, with which I really resonate with. "Wondering what relationship stage you're in right now?  Here are the nine relationship stages that all couples go through, not how love starts." "Relationships are unique.  No one experiences love in the same way." "You may have been in several relationships in your life, and every relationship is unique.  But there are a few traits that are in common with every relationship." "Relationships, just like life, h

Rocky Garden (My First Poem in Decades)

Rocky Garden First saw a 12 year old girl Working on her large garden by herself Six to eight hours a day Moving heavy rocks to build up her garden Mother shouts to her father to come, please help her He works beside her for a few hours That summer was a drought Her garden burns in the heat   Next year, at age 13 She builds up her garden further Having bags of topsoil and gravel delivered Enlarging her already large garden Separating her vegetables by a wall of stone Proudly sharing her vegetabl

Addictions

Would like to comment on two articles in the May/June 2016 issue of Lesbian Connection Magazine, on the topic of addictions.  Please note ALL the articles on addictions were EXCELLENT, but these two, in particular, resonated with me. "Last Fall I ended my 22-year relationship.  We had been in a civil union for the past 15 years, though things had not been very 'civil' for quite some time." "The very short version of the story begins with her back injury several years ago.  The resulting chronic

Living Apart Together (LAT) - A New Kind of Relationship

Learned about the concept, "Living Apart Together," (LAT), when I was surfing the 'net for "couples living apart happily," as I love my apartment and my town, Beacon, but miss having a woman (I am a cisgender Lesbian) to love and care about, because my community (Dutchess County, NY) is very TLGB-phobic.  My additional reasons are that I am a loud snorer, and have some other habits that I am too embarrassed to talk about.   Interestingly, "Living Apart Together," (LAT) came up.  Most of the info

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