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New therapist

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Good morning everyone!

I started with my new therapist yesterday. My former therapist dropped out of my insurance network so I had to change. The timing worked out quite well though, I was able to look for a therapist who works extensively with gender identity issues. Going in I wasn't that sure how experienced she was (the Psychology Today website said that she has transsexual clients, but for all I knew that could have meant 2 or 3).

As soon as we met I felt very comfortable with her, and during the course of the first session she made me feel more and more comfortable. She seems very well versed in the various issues around transitioning, and the complexity of what it means to transition.

She also asked me early on if I have pronoun preferences (which in hindsight seemed interesting, after all, in a one-on-one conversation with therapy is, how often do pronouns come up?). She also asked me which name I'd prefer to use. At first I went with my male name, most likely because out of necessity I was presenting more male at the time, but then I switched it to my female (REAL) name.

So between her, my friends, and the wonderful people on this website I feel like I have a great support system in place as I proceed along this journey :wub: (perhaps even family will join the group at some point, anything is possible).

xoxo

Christie

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eveannessant

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Go for it Christie, be yourself! By now you'll realise that I also despised dressing up as a male!

Hugs, Eve

Hi Christie,

You've heard the expression "one door closes, another door opens"? I think that describes how you needed to change therapists. I'm sure that felt like a huge drag, having to help her come up the learning curve about your history and all. But you are making the most of it and I'm so happy for you. 

I agree too with the pronoun question. As you said, how often would she use a pronoun for you when you are in the same room? To me that question speaks to her respect of you and her desire to help you feel comfortable. I think that's so terrific that you found her. Good therapists, with or without gender experience and knowledge, can be hard to find.

really, I'm very delighted and happy for you,

Emma

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