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Unprepared but all is fine


KarenPayne

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I had nothing on my agenda today so off to the mall to browse around. After entering the mall through Macy's my phone rings, look down and it's my son. So I answer the phone and he says "happy father's day". We chat, here ask how things are going in Oregon (he is in California). I did the usual, everything is fine then tell him about my transition.

My expected response did not come which would be something like "why" but instead he asked questions which I answered and he seems fine with what I am doing. I told him that everyone knew except for him as I was not sure how it would be taken. At one point in the conversation I ask if it would be alright if I could come down and visit and he is fine with me coming down.

Usually are chats are about ten minutes but after getting off the phone this call was almost an hour and only part of the discussion was about me while the remainder was about what he was up to and other family members. In regards to other family members, both him and he's sister chat on average once a month and she went and visited him last summer for a week.

So I am very optimistic that I have a strong connection to both of my children now which is fantastic.

In retrospect I was not looking forward to "the" talk about me transitioning and happy it was done now this way.

UPDATE After the phone call I sent him a picture of me but did not hear back then remember him saying he was off to work after done talking. So two hours later I get a text message back in response to the picture that was all positive.

  

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Dear Karen,

In my opinion you are BOTH his father (or WERE his father) AND his co-mother (along with your ex-wife).  He needs your help to deal with the PAST (his father) and his PRESENT (his co-mother).  

Your friend,

Monica

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