Interesting blog post Crysti. Thanks for sharing it.

I remember early in transition having to relearn the nonverbal communication that goes on between women and men, based on your gender presentation. At first I considered the possibility that I was being read by women but then I discovered that women often look at each other either admiringly or sometimes with a touch of jealousy or contempt.

It was also interesting how men and women exchange those quick little glances to check each other out. I learned very quickly not to make eye contact or look too long at another woman's man.

If we pay attention, there is a lot to be learned from the nonverbal communication that goes on between men and women in our society. Much of it is based on gender roles and the social norms on how to relate to each other.

I did my best to learn from the nonverbal communication and figure out how I could best fit in.

Hi!

I think the most powerful communication I've learned is the total non verbal eye contact that women use.

I have not experienced the looking at the man glance but have many times been included in the "that guy's an idiot" look.

More importantly my bartender friends are very protective of me (thank god) and I get the "are you OK? look.

Verbally some will tell me when I use a "male" descriptor or sentence.

Fascinating!

Thanks Admin!

I agree with your comments. The best advice I have received so far from someone was recently from my father he said "just be yourself". Isn't that what many people have said to each other over the years. If someone means the words "be yourself" than the world needs to realize what it takes sometimes to be "one's self" it may mean breaking the fashion rules, and so what? Go for it!

My mother died five years ago and for me becoming more feminine each day helps me cope with her death in a very mysterious way. She was a wonderful mother and a well liked and classy woman, I so much feel the world still needs someone like her around.

Amie

Amie

The mother connection with kids like us is a great avenue to explore. I've done a small post about it on another site. I'll bring it over for your comments. Thanks so much.