General Transgender Discussion

Well, that old brick wall called FEAR has me stopping again. I have always been... well in the closet... or the house as is my case. My TG issues have always (with one exception a few years back) a private world just for me. After reading the forums here and seeing all you gals venturing forth with your lives, I started thinking about breaking out of my protective shell a bit. Here in the middle of the Bible Belt of the Country in a state called IOWA, there is few if any TG resources. Anyway, I have recently discovered that a threapist in TG related issues has a practice locally. I even sent an inquiry email to confirm this. So here I am looking at a phone numb…

As I was shopping this weekend, I visited Barnes & Noble hoping to find a paperback to kill time with. I don't even remember now what section I found this in; musta been fate! Dr. B. is a psychiatrist. She has decades of experience treating ordinary people, males and females, and their relationships with each other. In this book, published in 2006, she has gathered much of the latest research using PET and fMRI scans of the active human brains and animal studies of the effects of testosterone, estrogen, progesterone and other hormones on the brain. The book is organized from in utero through childhood, adolescence, adulthood to peri- and post- menopause, for t…

I am mad at myself. I have had this lumpy, rollypolly, extremely gross wad of waist fat that i promised myself I would lose in time for summer. well guess what, it aint gone, not even a small amount of the wad is gone. i have had some stress, i currently have one of my sweet rescue dogs in final stage kidney disease, i love her so much, she is not ready to be put down but i know it is coming. so i soothe myself with food, what an ass i am. i know dang well that me stuffing my face isnt going to help with her kidneys, so why do i do it. I am hopeless. So here it is getting beautiful outside, sunny and 70's, baseball games, vacations, and i had to go to Kohl's and buy…

Surfing the web and looking at TG webpages, sometimes I've come across the idea of the "T-dar", that transfolk can be spotted (by some people). What got me interested in this is that back in high school I was often called fag, queer, or homo and got into a couple of physical fights because of it (no suprises there!) and while that happened to a couple of other kids, there was one insult that I only ever heard used on me: "dude, you're not male, I reckon you're a girl or something!" I tried hard to pass (the short hair! ) but even then the smallest thing (how I was sitting, my hand movements, giving an opinion in class and realizing that the girls agreed with me and…

hey everyone i'm a student at san francisco state doing research on gender role attitudes and i was just wondering if anyone could take a minute to fill out this anonymous online survey that i made. i'd really appreciate it!! feel free to talk to me about it after you've taken the survey. copy and paste the link in the URL. http://FreeOnlineSurveys.com/rendersurvey....ec4dk4anm502256

I was just thinking on my way home from work yesterday, that I am so grateful to have accidentally found this message board. It's inexplicable, but I have not felt this much at home on any other site that I have visited, and this is the only board i hang with. I actually think about some of you during the day here and there, and look forward to checking in to see how everything is going for you. It's inexplicable because I am not tg, but the issues presented here are really universal, about real life humans making their way in this world. Issues concerning fear, rejection, family, confusion, transition, success and joy and peace. And no matter where you fall in those c…

I have not seen you around here in like forever. Why arent you poking your head in here and posting. We need someone to shoot at.

Ok then, Like the title says, i've had some time at home alone to do a bit of a photo shoot and play with make up. It's been a while since i last did anything as i even started to grow a beard because i was going through a lazy stage. Here's some of the results from last friday night....

:huh: This has been a tough nut to crack since I went full-time in '99...Friendship. First thing I lost were all my bible-thumping straight friends, but I had family...then the family started to drop by the wayside... But I was still happily [for the most part] married to my best friend...no worries then. But then she left me [ouch]....thus I became essentially a social shut-in....I worked all day/week, coming home to my little cottage near the Lake, only to emerge the next mornig/monday for work...I was/am a working girl...a dream come true many times over...but no social life cause: 1. Risky...who tell/share your life with will not take your stealth as ser…

On Wednesday night I went to NYC to the gay center. There was a transgender support group there and it was wonderful. I have done a ton of research on the net, but nothing beats actually coming out to the community. The meeting was 7:30 to 9pm. The room was filled with people from the trans community. Everyone was at different stages of transition and coming out with various age ranges. I went to the first group of the "semester" and as time goes on we will discuss various topics. After the hour we all went to the local coffee house and hung out for an hour socializing. And to top it all off, there were trans boys there(diversity rules!). It was just awesome. I feel p…

Even though I still legally have my boy name for a little while longer yet, when the new org chart came out at work today, they had me listed with my girl name instead of my legal name. YEA ! Bobbie Jo

I was just curious as to what some thought about the idea of never revealing your gender history, to anyone, once transition is completed. Of course this is only possible if one has actual surgery. If no one knew your history genderwise, like all your family disappeared or something, would you still reveal?

I was wished a "Happy Mother's Day" several times today. Each time, I answered "Oh, thank you!" very sweetly... Annie PS-- Happy belated Mother's Day to everyone's mom!

I went and asked my pastor my gender confusion. Has been very comforting and compassionate toward me. He brought up some good questions for me to think about so I will post it here. "what is truly masculine and truly feminine" Is it all about clothing and feelings and emotion? Could it be possible that the goal for all human beings is to understand that these to areas of a personality are ok possesed partially in both sexes and that the only real problem is when we repress them? When we join with another human being that compliments us there can also be this sense of fulfillment and completeness. Could it be that many of us feel isolated and alone and …

I've been developing this FAQ to hand out to supportive friends and family and I thought maybe it had some things in it that might be useful for others on here. I've tried to be as unbiased and up to date as possible, though I am lacking "sources" for some things that I can't remember where I heard them now. Also I've removed some personal info from it where possible. It is obviously written by an MtF, but I have tried to include info on FtMs where possible as well, since I think it benefits us all for people to hear about all sides of this. There are some links at the bottom too which, if I'm not supposed to have them, moderators feel free to nuke 'em. But they're int…

Hi! Everybody, Though you see me comment from time to time and I haven't done much of that lately,I am here everyday seeing how everyone is doing..Although I have sent a few private messages. I figured I'd just let you know what's been going on with me.I'm still at the same place I've been since I joined this wonderful internet community.First I'd like to say I hope everyone who lives down south is safe and ok.You've been through alot down there lately. I have been in the same location to long now and plan to leave hopefully sometime before winter sets in.I have relied on the kindness of my folks long enough plus at my age I shouldn't be here in the first place anyway.…

Hello everyone - I'm new here. I'm looking for the member named "nellenelle" because I've seen her posts regarding visiting the Transgender Clinic at Dartmouth in New Hampshire. I live in New Hampshire and am in the process of seeking out competent gender specialists: therapists; endocrinologists; surgeons, etc. Nellenelle, if you're still here, I'd really appreciate hearing your thoughts about Dartmouth's program. Also, are there other NH specialists you've heard good things about? I hope you receive this. If not, does any one else have any experience finding specialists in NH? Thanks! - LEN

All of this addoration men have for me on some of the dating sites is causing more problems than before.The experiences i have had from emails of my profiles on a few web sites is like i thought of myself as this sex goddess they seem to think i am.Hundreds of email admirers should be given to a celiberity not me.Why I see why sex goddess feel now and the image men protray them as. but you know i can barely meet any man face to face with a date to meet and see or feel the mystery of if we have chemistry or not. I am obessed with all their complements .but keep trying for a man even for short time and it is work. What advice could you give me? :(

Ok, so I have this really shi**y part time job until graduate school starts in July. I was in the break room yesterday, and they were bashing the gays and lesbians that works for us. They were talking about how many of them are homophobes and how they would literally drop everything and run away because they don't "want to get raped." I was so horrified over it. It was like 15 minutes of hell. I heard it from my own family the last thing i need to hear it from is my job. I looked on the internet and saw the company i work part time for is rated as the least friendly towards the GLBT community. Thank God i am only there for 4 more months.

This week on Tuesday I received my first hormone prescription. I am so happy upon taking the first steps to transition. Yeah baby yeah, I'm so happy. I even received a round of applause when I told everyone in the support group I visit in NYC. I hope all is well with everyone here. ^_^

It was the beginning of a Monday morning sometime around 12am, so the sky was still dark. Anyway, I had a throbbing tooth ache that didn't allow to rest. So I got dress and prepared to go to the hospital's emergency room, to give me pain meds. During the registration process, I wrote down on the forums using my biological since I didn't get my name changed legally just yet, and next to the name I wrote my female name that I wanted to be called by as "Rhonda". The treating nurse called me out by my biological name, which caused a lot of heads to turn around wondering why my gender expression MTF didn't match using male pronouns? I was hoping to avoid being starred, anyway …

This is a very important isuue for me and probably for alot of us ts girls. I would like to hear about personal experiences for post op girls and sex. I have not had any sexual experiences with men. This may sound silly but I am holding out until I get srs. I don't want sex to be the overriding factor in my reason for transitioning. I know if I were to start having sex with men it would preoccupy my mind so much I might become promiscuous and wish for transition to happen faster. Sex as a woman with men will be very importatnt. I do crave being with men but as I said it will only compound the problem. I am a hetero woman but I don't want it to push my desire to live as…

A blog by Gabriel Rotello that appears in Huffington Post, October 4th 2007. I'm posting this as it might provide some food for thought and debate. link: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/gabriel-rote...-t_b_67202.html I hope it is OK to do this. MIWBJ ************************* The decision by the Democratic leadership in Congress to eliminate transgendered people from ENDA, the bill to ban discrimination against gays in the workplace, has ignited a genuine firestorm in gay political circles. It's heartening to see that LGBT activists are coming out of the woodwork to insist that any meaningful bill that does not protect the transgendered isn't worth the pa…

I haven't done this in a Long time but I feel I need to ask this question , I have read many posts , watched many Vlogs on youtube . and the simple of it is Does the Rules have a place for every one that finally decides to transition .... I dont believe they do , hear me out , Yes I do think they are a good guide for some but for others to be socked into these rules is in my oppinion ubsered to simply say that if you want to have these things done to complete you as a person and to be any use to society you have to jump through these critearia to do so , hog wash , am I mentally strong enough to adjust to my new life as >>> then if so then I should be able to …

I was asked by the leader of our bimonthly fellowship if I would like to teach a lesson. I said that I would. I am the only transgender person in the group so this is a welcome opportunity share what it is to be a gender variant individual. Transgender basics about the different expressions of gender and the role transgender people have played in history are a couple of topics that I have in mind. There are probably other topics that could be discussed. I'll have to think about it. I welcome the opportunity to share what it is to be transgender and a cross dresser. I love to share my experiences in hope that others will be encouraged. Gennee :D