General Transgender Discussion

I thought it might be nice to share some TG childhood memories. When I was little, like about 6, I remember going to a wishing fountain well... thing, and wishing to be a girl. I also remember my cousin telling me a liked barbie dolls more than her, which was probably true, as whenever I went over to her house I wanted to play barbie... Does anyone else have anything to share?

http://www.harrybenjaminsyndrome-info.org/soc.html. There's a storm front coming in and that is a new definition to HBS, it is HBI. All of us have struggled throughout our lives to understand who we are, now we have a glimmer of hope. We are all "intersexuals." As we know this a "medical" term not "physcological." With this change to medical we now have a chance to get get the medical treatment we all need, including meds and surgeries. This is going to take time and patience. Many of us have had SRS and/or on HRT. Many have had to do it the hard way facing many obstacles and barriers, from medical indifference to social ostracism and even violence. This going to be an u…

Hello,I was wondering if anyone knows of any support groups or ...Well really just anything helpfull about the southeastern,Ky. area.Everyone here seems so against anything having to do with the transgendered community.I seem to be all alone here although I know there are others here I just can't find anyone.If anyone can help with this problem please let me know.

in a thread begun by one of the ladies, "How important to you is being passable..." one of them commented about the rationality of transitioning or not based on whether one is passable or not, "...none of this is rational for me... it's an emotional, soulful thing, existing *beneath* and behind my rational thoughts." to that, chris42 replied, "I never chose to dress as female. I always chose male because something inside me made me do it. I just could not put on female clothes once I had a choice." god, do i know that feeling! i never liked the frilly stuff my mum put me in. later, i tried to dress accordingly when i thought it was necessary, but it always felt wro…

For the women: Do you think more highly of women than most genetic women seem to? For the men: Do you share any misogynistic beliefs with genetic men? (I won't be offended if you say yes.) My answer: As many of you know, I'm a feminist. Even a lot of feminists consider me extreme. A few things that are true of me but not a lot of genetic women I know: My entire concept of politics revolves around how something affects women (that includes transwomen). I don't care all that much about many other issues. For me, the average person is a woman. When I picture a person, it's usually a woman unless something strongly suggests otherwise. Someone who is not obviousl…

My partner told me of a coworker sitting in office. They were looking at the old picture of me that Deb keeps on her desk (they never let go of those old pictures). Her visitor, who knows me, said, "He certainly was a handsome man. But you know, he's not a bad looking woman." I'll take that as a deseant compliment since she's a lesbian. :D

As people who are often considered WAY OUTSIDE normal society (whatever normal is), a lot of us find ourselves rejected by the places of worship in which we grew up. I personally was kicked out of 3 different churches. And yet, as spiritual beings having a human experience, we have an inherent need to connect with others, as well as our concept of a Higher Power, at a deeply spiritual level. Cut off from our original source, we have to find new ways to feed our souls. Personally, I have managed to become a part of new communities where I can get real, share, listen, laugh, cry and ultimately grow. Some of these spiritual circles focus on a particular spiritual path, ot…

I first came out to my parents as being Female when I was about 15, and what I expected to happen, happened. They told me that I was deceived by 'Satan' and should ask God for forgiveness of my sin. The fact that I cried for about an hour and a half didn't phase them at all. I've talked to them since then about it and they still refuse to accept me for I am. Quite recently I wanted to make myself a little happier, so I went out and purchased a whole bunch a girl clothes and other things. I made sure not to get anything over-feminine, like skirts or dresses. I just stuck with buying jeans and shirts so my parents wouldn't freak out on me. So, I got the clothes and summ…

As you know I am a gg. I envy the women I see out in the stores and workplaces that can get away with wearing really cool and stylish heels. Problem is I am 5'9" and i don't have itty-bitty feet. Size 10 to be exact. I feel like a lumbering giant in heels, and I wish i could just get over it. Why shouldnt I be able to wear really cool, like leopard print high heels. Dammit, i am missing out on some fun here. My question for the taller ladies, do you have the same feeling I do when you wear heels? My husband says 'just wear them if you like them', but i dont like looking like an awkward giant either. Last time I went to Kohl's wearing 2 inch heels, I had 2 shorte…

This might sound odd but I need to find some answers. My husband has mentioned that he could be a transgender. He has felt like he is a female since he was about 7 or 8 years old. He dosen't relate to very many male things like sports or fishing or hunting. He says he loves me but his brain thinks female. He is in his late 40's says he is too old to hav the surgery even though he said as long as he is married he would not change his sex. He would only change if we separate. I love him and he loves me so that is not something to be considered. He used to be on this board 2 years ago we are now in thearpy and he tells me and his theaist that most of the things he sa…

I know I find the term Genital Reconstuction Surgery the best one, because to me it is the most accurate. That's what the operation does, it reconstructs your genitals. I don't like the term "sex change operation" because I feel it's almost the transphobic title that it's been given and we're not changing our sex, we have always been girls, now we're just matching our body to our mind. Sex reassignment surgery I don't really have a problem with.

Hello Everyone, I am slowly moving through some external transitioning and I do not honestly know where I will end up. But As I change on the outside it is recorded in pictures. I like myself a lot better as I look now moving more from FTM. Lately I have been reacting in my head to older pictures of me that are much more female and I am having a hard time. I was wondering how people felt about old pictures of themselves before beginning to transition. Do you keep pictures? Did you burn them? Do you wipe out the fact that was you? Or have you found some way to keep your past? My gut wants to wipe it out. People I know from before can’t bear that I would wipe out…

because we had gotten way off the topic of Dee's original thread - GENDER IDENTITY TESTS - i've taken it upon myself to bring the discussion to a new thread. our apologies, Dee. Insertnamehere (in reply to post #37, Gen TS Topics, GENDER IDENTITY TESTS) your thoughts on transsexuality and it's causes are unique at best. but i think your beliefs are born of your equally unique stand on gender. your posts up until recently made me believe you were MTF. then i got the impression you were GG. come to find out you are not GG, and really don't consider yourself MTF, yet you desire a procedure that many MTFs want - an orchiectomy. you said in post #37 "You should …

I was randomly browsing around hotornot.com and I saw this picture: http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=GSHZBSA&amp...=MCM&sid=EM Is that an Adam's apple I see?! I didn't know GGs (I'm assuming she's GG, I could be wrong) could have such prominent adams apples. Her picture was rated 9.7 though.

I'm 20, and for those of us who are transitioning early we know that we most likely won't ever have biological children. That's the only thing that bothers me, and yet I can't live the way I am, not without a lot of pain and a lot of suffering. And I'm betting that it's like this for most of us who transition before having kids. I've never had a problem with adopting kids, I've thought a lot about it but it's really not the same to adopt. But having biological children is very important to me, and it's so hard to let it go. But as you can understand, adopting isn't the issue at hand here. Luckily for me I'm a very positive person. I don't have to question my transsexua…

Hi I am not transgender myself, but I need to talk to some trans people about this. Story: I recently started going to college, and I met this fantastic guy. He's adorable and sweet, and I am very happy just being with him, but I have a few conserns, because he used to be a girl. I come from a really small town, and I was the only bisexual in my graduating class (there were no 'out' gays) so I know nothing about trans people because I have never been exposed to them. Is there anything I should know? -JessaLaFaye

People here are always saying how badly transsexuals are portrayed on TV, but I don't think that's true at all...Last night I watched an episode of "The Jeffersons" where George meets up with his old navy buddy Eddie...only Eddie turned into Edie and became a woman...They got a really gorgeous, really feminine woman to play Edie and transsexualism was portrayed in a really nice way. Also, there's an episode of Just Shoot Me with a similar plot, where Finch meets up with his old guy friend who had a sex change played by Jenny McCarthey. And then he has sex with her in the end I think. And on Veronica Mars there was an episode where she helps a boy discover that his f…

I am looking for any insight that others might have. My partner is having a very hard time with my desire to transition. VERY HARD. She says she just can not see me as a man. She says that it is like me telling her the trees are red when she knows full well they are green. I feel like I am invisible. Like I keep trying to show her myself and she can not see or refuses to see. I have not worn women’s clothes in years and I have never liked wearing them. I have always been on the male end as far as interests. It is not like I am all of a sudden showing something that was totally hidden. I see that I am asking her to rearrange her own identity but she can not even accept my …

My youngest daughter: "Why don't you leave your hair the way it is?,,, The silver looks so pretty." Uff dah!

The forum has been pretty quiet overall so I'm just going to step up to the mic here I've only been to two laser sessions so far, but after comparing some old pictures and looking at what I have today, I think the progress on that front has been pretty amazing. I don't have pics to share right now, but I've got some empty patches tonight, my upper lip has maybe 40% of the hair it used to, and most of the dark hair that's left is in my chin area now.. maybe 60% as thick as it used to be. Overall not too bad since I got a pretty cheap deal on it, and I have 3 more to go! I'll need some electrolysis later too, for blonde beard hairs as well as the "girl sideburns" area b…

I have always dreamed of having breasts,not Pam Anderson types,but a simple little b cup on a 32".More than enough for me,to complete my femme image.I have even looked at the girls on "sites" that featured small breasted women,and felt a certain amount of envy.I looked into the possibilities of aquiring these precious assets,and discovered that by taking a combination of hormone drugs,I could achieve my goal.Bonus!.....my hips would expand as I would transfer fat from my belly to them.I could achieve a girly figure(at last!)...and ...have breasts! Upon further investigation,I found that these effects are irrevesible..that didn't bother me a bit...that's what I wanted....…

I've been thinking of taking up weight training or getting some type of exercise machine to help me tone up and lose some weight. My only fear is that I don't want to start looking like a bodybuilder or something. I remember reading that HRT assists Female to Male transgender people in getting the male physique that they want. So well logically I was thinking that HRT would help me get the female physique that I want. Does anybody know if this is true or not? T_T

Hi, I have just recently found the Transgender Guide Message Board and find it and most of the tgguide insightful, intellectually provocative and occasionally very emotionally painful. In all likelihood my life would be quite different if this type of resource was available when I was a child of 5-6 wondering why I wanted to be a girl like mommy. This morning I read Annie's "GENDER IDENTITY DISORDER" article and my jaw dropped as I read the following; "Persons with this disorder know from an age of five or 6, that they are different from other individuals of the same physical sex. Early on, they learn to hide it from all others, even their parents and siblin…

I been thinkin about this for a long time. Whether I should put it up there and get advice or not. Being that i'm not very trusting to really open up to people, I had to think hard. I decided to give it a try. You see. okay, lets start of with how much I do love my parents, grandparents, and so on. Anyway, I found out at an early age that they're not too good with change. Then when I realized I was transgendered, I debaited on telling anyone of them. Later I casually went to my mom and told her that I needed to see a therapist. When she asked why, I told her because I have issues I nee to sort out and deal with. She said you tryin to tell me you like women? I said …

Hi Everyone, Has anyone used any over the counter herbal hormones? Do you think they are worth? Andrea MB