General Transgender Discussion

Government stupidity, (but I repeat myself). Good thing I am starting this process early. I figured government stupidity would be involved at some point, and it was, right at step 1. Today I go to get my passport application done, and they tell me that they can't take my birth certificate. Apparently they need a certified copy of the long form birth certificate (whatever the **** that is). So I guess I get to call the Baltimore City health Department on Monday to try and get this long form nonsense. Why is it that our idiotic government does such a fine oustatsnding job of harassing its own citizens? If our stupid government wants americans to have a pa…

Is it just me or is 90% of the chatroom on this website full of fakes? Last week I decided to log onto the chat site and see if i can expand the number of friends I have. I currently belong to another site and we hang out in real life and just have a good time. So I figured it would be kinda the same here. WOW was I WRONG. I developed a really refine sense of trandar since coming out. I know this sounds shallow but I can spot a fake when someone is chatting with me in no time. It's the way they handle themselves in chat and the things they say that keeps me guarded. Then they will PM me. I dont mind PMs but the fake ones always talk about how their "sexy cloth…

Well it is settled , next week I am heading to court to get my name legally changed and with my wifes support and blessing , Victoria Anne will legally , finally be here I am so giddy I just can't wait. To court then social security and then my new lisence and off to celebrate with a nice dinner and perhaps a movie who knows I am just so excited as the day draws near.

Most of you can probably identify with how well clothes fit when it is one size fits all. As often as I have been duped into believing this phrase, it continues to catch my attention. I am surprised at how often when I am reading the remarks online that I am drawn to the tempation of the transsexual progressive ladder that has been posted a few times on this site. And I can't help but feel inferior to the person who has gone "all the way" and even made it to being "stealth". Personally I don't want to be envious but sometimes I just can't help myself. On the other hand sometimes what I am reading from those who have completed transition I actually feel very sorr…

Hi! I'm new here, and I've recently been searching the internet high and low for information on Female to Male Transitioning for my love. My love, R, has been my girlfriend for about 2 years now. I love her so much, and sense we have an honest relationship, R has just told me that she feels like she's in the wrong body. (sorry if I'm messing up pronouns) Truth be told, she is my first relationship at all, and so coming to terms with liking the same gender proved a difficult task, but only in the way that telling my parents was a nightmare. Now it's R's turn to tell her parents, not just about being in love with me, a girl, but about wanting to transition into a male. The …

I seriously need to get this out because its driving me nuts. My brother loves to nitpick about everything. He does it to everyone in the house. He also loves to threaten. He knows i need his car to get him and I both to work. Well he gets a bug up his rear and right away he starts crap with me. I could just be sitting there minding my own business, and he'll start shit. His latest thing is my license. No I dont have one but he claims i should have a long time ago. I said its alittle hard to do when you noone is willing to allow you the use of their car to do so. Hes like thats not an excuse, i gave you a car, all you had to do was fix it. I said why fix the car when you …

I've been thinking about this puzzle for a long time. A while back, I asked about coping strategies for baby hunger: http://tgguide.com/message/index.php?showtopic=3565 Recently, I came back with an update, about my guinea pigs: http://tgguide.com/message/index.php?showtopic=4303 I'm surprised the topic of maternal desires hasn't resonated more with the MTFs here. I seem to be the only one asking about such things, and only a few people seemed to understand. Much of what I have read anywhere is about the desire to be pregnant, give birth, and breastfeed--the physical aspects of motherhood. I have seen little about the common female desire to love and nur…

Ok so I decided to really take off on my transition and to become more relaxed as to who i am. Since doing so, when i am dressed how i am suppose to be dressed, ive been getting hit on a lot by other guys. I really do not have words to explain the happiness or euphoria i go through when this happens.Or even the excitement when you smile at them and say "im sorry not right now ok?" Its so new to me. To have this unique position on the sexual social ladder.Its very fun and flattering but wisdom is a must lol. Or youll be saying yes to everyone just because you're too flattered. Transitioning. Loving it!!

It has been 3yrs that I've been seeing my gender specialist/therapist, and during my last appointment meeting with her, she addressed male pronouns on me, although my true gender identity/expression is female. During my last conversation with her, she explained about my life living as a "man"? I frowned at her comment, although I'm not denying about my biological gender, its just her terminology that upsets me, I find it hard to believe that I lived my life as a "man" since I always acted like a girl, playing with my Barbie dolls, among other things that I already told her about my past life, that things boys don't go threw. Perhaps I might be over reacting, and that it m…

"Its odd that bi-sexuality often seems to be shunned by the gay community for example last year I was as [sic] a Pride in Chelmsford and in the entertainments tent I heard at least three of the entertainers refer to bi-sexuals as 'greedy'. I was quite hurt." - Caroline (from the thread "Advice Please" by Melanie) i did not want to derail melanie's thread "Advice Please," so i brought Caroline's comment here to begin a new discussion. GLBT. or, LGBT. seems the first two initials are interchangable depending on whether the speaker is male or female. The last two initials seem always to be in the same place...and as usual, the "T" is usually last tho it has become popula…

My life came to a standing point, I just couldn't continue on suppressing my true gender identity forever. After a meeting with my gender specialist, and telling me my diagnose, I returned home and started cleaning out my closet, throwing away my male clothes or clothing that was gender neutral. Now that my closet was empty, it was time for my MTF transition to begin, but I ran into a problem called fear. Fear of what people might say or do, once they seen me come out full time in women's clothing, and how well if I passed at all? After string awhile in the bathroom mirror, I finally steered up enough courage to call the cab, to drop me off at the WalMart department store…

I know i'm probably not the only one going through this type of situation. The one where you're going to college and staying with a few relatives. You might thing this isnt so bad right? Well wrong. I get treated like the outcast everyday. I get called Lesbian, Dyke, and other countless names involving my own personal situation. I have a brother that moved into the house temperarly with his fiancee and their 2 year old son. I liked that idea til my brother told me to my face that he doesnt care about me. He tries to dominate and act like hes my father (I dont have one anymore, because I disowned him) and he has no right to say sh*t to me about anything. The one parents i …

I missed many opportunities early in my life because I thought I was alone. There were people to help me as a child, but fear kept me from telling them the truth. Here is what finally changed my thinking. I reached a point where I recognized that not one human being that has ever walked the earth knew all the answers. Some people would say Jesus knew it all, for those that believe he is God, However outside of that whether you are poor or the richest person on Earth we all face the same unknown answers to some very big questions. After careful thought over many years I finally decided to look more at the facts of my own being rather than always looking at the ab…

Major Update: Hello Everyone, I would like update you all on what has been going on in my life. In January of 2009 I first entered this site but was to afraid even to log in. by February of 2010, I had just about given up on life. A nice moderator named Felisha chatted with me for about 3 hours. the next week I started reading the various stories that you have all put out there for us. within 2 weeks I finally accepted my being transgender and decided to get help wherever I could get it. I called a therapist who specializes in transgender issues and she evaluated me for the seriousness of my case. I learned all about electrolysis and did my own electrolysis …

I've been really busy with school for a long time, and now I'm leaving to find a job--hopefully there's good work out there for someone with a Master's in math. I'm looking into becoming an actuary or a government mathematician. Now that I have time to post things here, I thought I'd tell you all how things have been going, for those members who remember me. I started a thread some time ago, about baby hunger and how awful it is for us to be unable to have babies. Like some of the people who responded to that thread, I solved that problem by finding the right species of pet for me. Last September, I adopted two female guinea pigs, and since then, we have added t…

After much thought and discussion with my wife we have decided I am going to take the next step . It is our goal that by years end I will legally change my name but with a minor concession to protect my job,I know that sounds silly but I cannot afford to risk my livelyhood. This means I will retain my first name with Victoria Anne as my middle but I will get an ID card ommitting my first name. For now this an excepptable compromise but none the less it is a step forward and I feel good about it.

Hi everyone. Recently I just started going to electrolysis on my face, trying to thin out my facial hair and eventually have it all gone so I don't have to shave anymore. But that isn't my reason for posting this. I had a question for others who are transitioning and either going through or have done electrolysis. Which do you think is better: 1. Doing electrolysis first and then starting hormones 2. Starting hormones at the same time as starting electrolysis 3. Hormone therapy for a few months and then starting electrolysis I'm sure everyone else has started at different times and I was wondering if one way works better than another. Its a little late for me…

I am just curious how many of us are married. I am married , 5 kids all grown . My wife is not only understanding but my biggest support and has gone as far as to give me her blessings for a full transition without fear of loosing her. It is awsome to me , as she helps me in every way imaginable. So how many of us are there and how is your relationship with your SO ?

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I am going to say less and listen more on this one I am posting. I am becoming more comfortable in public situations, especially with friends, but 3 times in the last month I have had car trouble, twice where I was towed off the road, and a few times needing to deal with auto repair shops. Each time I was not completely feminine as I did not have make-up and was dressed conservatively. I am starting to really fear those unknown times when I may find myself face to face with people that will probobly recognize me as a man and discriminate me in an unknown matter even to myself. Some situations you just cannot walk away from. Until I am more confident I really fear th…

Thanks Annie for the post about GID. I sent the info to my Mom. Not that she cares ...but I hold out hope.

Hi everyone. Been a long time since I have posted. Been working hard at making my transition work. Writing because I am feeling overwhelmed. I have so many things I need to take care of to stay in good health, and can't find a way to make it all work. I am so tired of working a job where i consistently face discrimination, tired of dealing with the same in my neighborhood, and tired of not being able to come up with a constructive way out! I try my best to be a good, honest, hardworking person. Seems these days, that don't count for much. I dare say that prisoners in solitary confinement have more freedom than I do. Sorry, just needed to sound off.

I'm sure many of you have seen or even participated in a "womanless" beauty pageant. The "femulate site" has many in depth looks at some of the best pageants. Just Google it and look around on the site. In addition have you've seen any of the Japanese TV shows that dress high school boys as real attractive girls? Very impressive! We will never see a TV show (no pun intended) in this country like it! You have to sort through the "not so good" with the American shows to find the contestants who have either worked hard at being a girl or have a lot of practice! Maybe Mom wanted a daughter? Well she got a pretty darn good looking son for these pageants. All of this brin…

"There are three passages one from god in the old testament, one from Jesus in Mathew and one in Act's when the holy spirit directed Philip to teach and baptize a eunuch. Be armed with this when people confront you with 'it's against my religious upbringing'." -Kellibusey, Post #11 of the thread "refused business at salon." i'm not familiar with the passages that kelli has sited above so maybe i need to go do a little reading, but i have to wonder why philip had to be told he should teach and baptize a eunuch (i'm assuming it might have had to do with some stigma attached to eunuchs at the time). and i don't really see where this is applicable to [trans]women. the r…

Sometimes I wonder what is worse, trying to pass as a woman while living out my day as a man who thinks like a woman, not attempting to pass at all but just carry on in my life with confidence, OR getting all dressed up to present as a woman knowing that some people will definately recognize that I am a man trying to look like a woman who may or may not feel sorry for me having to look so odd. I try to act ignorant of anyone looking at me at all, I don't really want to know what people think of me, but if they are interested in understanding why I act this way then I am more than happy to explain. Some days I look in the mirror and I see the feminine beauty in me. …