General Transgender Discussion

Today the same salon that has cut my hair for about 2 years put specific conditions on my being accepted for beauty services. I called for a haircut as usual but reminded the stylist of my being transgendered and wanting a feminine hairstyle. I simply asked if it would be helpful for her if I wore make-up to help recommend a style that would be best for my facial shape and feminine identity in public. I was told that I would have to come in for a special appointment because my being there would be "bad for busines". I was told that because it was a small town everybody talks and the owner didn't want that. I respected the viewpoint that they were looking ou…

So, Family Guy is a pretty offensive show, on its surface. It's clearly meant as satire. All of the characters have major personality flaws (like pretty much everyone, right?), so when views are expressed on the show, it's often through the lens of someone who clearly has no clue what they're talking about, which should likely impress upon you that it's wrong. In a new episode of Family Guy titled "Quagmire's Dad", the character Glen Quagmire's father returns home for a celebration of a successful military career and then, as it turns out, to get a "sex change". There were glaring misconceptions in the story which may have been used as plot devices to craft a 30 min…

Do you feel that there is a discrimination against the Trans Community within the GLBTQ Community? If so, why is that? What do you think it would take to bridge the gap?

I have looked into my states rules on changing my name. The process seems straightforward. If I was single and alone things might be easier, but many people strongly identify with me as a male because of my past and my traditionally male name. I like the name Amy very much, after writing so much on this website and becoming friends with other transgender members I really do feel like Amy as well. My mother always told me that if I was a girl she would have named me Sarah Jane. Since my mother did not know whether she was going to have a girl or boy when she was pregnant she had a boy and a girls name picked out. I can't help but think that my name really is Sarah b…

For fourty years I have been molded and shaped into a person who represents the classic stereotype of a good Christian, loyal American, and Caring Father and Husband. I have done well in school and followed the instructions of many teachers, employers, fellow classmates, friends, and co-workers. I grew a business that has provided an adequate but below average income for ten years now. As long as I have done everything as carfully prescribed my life had meaning to others and people approved. However with every passing year I became more and more depressed. Why? Because I began to learn more and more about the real self within me. The self that had good things to say…

I Desperately Need Some Advice I would like to ask everyone here if they could help to understand this issue, how to fix it, and what their advice would be, if any. I have managed to place myself into a dilemma with no obvious solution and I need help before I lose my sanity. Any advice or recommendation would be appreciated; no suggestion will go unconsidered. I have been married to my wife for 3 years now. I love her dearly. This has, as one can imagine, placed a significant strain upon our marriage; we are in a tail spin which we simply cannot recover. I have accepted my marriage is not going to survive this, and although it hurts I can understand why. The issue the…

I was just curious as to what some thought about the idea of never revealing your gender history, to anyone, once transition is completed. Of course this is only possible if one has actual surgery. If no one knew your history genderwise, like all your family disappeared or something, would you still reveal?

It is known that there are transgendered people who adapt to society and will never even begin transition. When two of these people with opposite brains come together, interesting things can happen. I married a woman who thinks more like a man and I think exactly like a woman even though I am biologically male. Though I do not want my penis 99% of the time. When I have sex with my wife it does work and we have always enjoyed each other. When I have sex it is almost impossible for me to visualize the experience as a male. I have always imagined myself being the woman and my visualization is so strong that I actually feel as the girl experiencing this. This is s…

I was curious if there might be any reverse couples on this board. For those that are confused a reverse couple is an FTM man and a MTF woman in a committed relation ship.

I always heard the statistics about suicide among us but it never hit home as it did tonight. I just came home from work and this email was in my inbox: To Kareal, Excuse me Kareal, but I have to give you a message from Sharon, before I will do as she asked me too, and close down her account on FB. A few days ago, Sharon has passed away, after a long fight against her cancer and depression. She never told you that she knew so well how you felt and what you were going through. She wanted you to be strong and fight, as you had a chance to win, she didnt. It was her time and she was not strong neough to win the battle this time. I have to tell you that she loved…

Hi, I found this forum after browsing Twitter and followed the Transgendered Guide, just seeking more information at the moment.

I was invited to the forum and asked to introduce myself. I am truly hoping that I am posting this in the right area! I just wanted to say hello and hope to learn more from everyone and share what experience I have so far. Take care!

I guess that means HRT is working huh? lol Any tips to avoid this unique pain? I mean don't get me wrong, its amazing to see the changes in my body but i work in retail right now and well handling a boxed TV right now isn't my idea of a great day right now. :P

Hi! girls. i'm a 50ish t-girl from around atlanta. this is my first time posting and i'm so happy to have found yall. after all these years i have given up on dening what i am and i am ready to reach out to the T community to hopfully find friends and support. i've been in theropy for a year or so and have started the process of coming out. i dress to go to my theropist now and let me tell you that is one of the most wonderful feeling i think i have ever had. i hope with support i can get comfortable going any where i wish. i very very much want to take my transition all the way but who knows what life will bring. for now i'm just concentrating on being the woman i know…

I talked about GLBT with my son. He asked a number of questions to which I was able to answer. He asked if being gay is a sin? I answered no. I shared with him that I knew that I was different all my life. I love these moments because it presents an opportunity to share that we are people, too. We touched on topics like gays in the military, trangenderism, my wearing women's clothing, Christianity, GLBT people in the church, and numerous other topics. I'm happy that he's accepting and open about my transgenderism. He's always been perceptive about life. I hope that there will be more opportunities like this. :)

I just got off the phone with the Dean of Admissions and Academics and he informed me ill be starting seminary this fall. This is very exciting for me because not many Seminaries will accept a transgendered person to get their Masters of Divinity for a church. This is like a dream come true for me. I told him about my transition and the financial aid department is even ready when I change my name legally to Annah next year. He even gave me advice on how to do it effectively as he has a wonderful friend who is trans. All my life I struggled with churches putting us down and for the first time in my life, I see a church who really accepts me for who I am and they dont…

On Monday I attended my first real-life Transgender meeting in Appleton Wisconsin. TG guide prepared me well, for I spent most of the meeting listening to others. Then I asked one question and about ten people were suddenely eager to answer me directly. I felt comfortable in the group and I plan on going there every month. I strongly encourage anyone who has not had a real life experience like this to find a local group in your area. What is really helpful is to hear everyone's voices and see their mannerisms. The overall feeling is similar to watching some of the videos on you tube but even better. I am much more confident about myself after seeing how com…

i started dating a trans girl earlier this year. We really hit it off and had many things in common. It was a really great relationship until we became serious. I wont go into details but i think im done with dating until after surgery. Besides, i think my hrt is sorta getting me into being attracted to men now. Stay away from relationships until after transition. not worth the pain.

I'm posting to say don't let circumstances keep you from achieveing your goals and dreams. The present circumstances may not be so great now but it isn't going to last forever. Gennee :)

Like it wasn't a shock. I was served divorce papers from my wife's attorney today. Im more worried about my kids. I hope she doesn't brain wash them. For a super duper mega Christian she has a heart made of mud

When I told my doctor he really didn't react at all,which was not what I expected. He referred me to the psychiatry department of Kaiser Permanente and apparently they have this thing were they schedule on the same day as you go in for evaluation, so I'm going next Friday.Does anybody have any experience with Kaiser and how they deal with transgender people.

Three nights ago i stopped peeing (well, peed only blood) and i went to the hospital. OMG everything hurts so bad. I had a cath put it me. I still pee blood and no kidney stones yet. Not having a good week :(

Luke 15:11-32 I was reading a couple of posts about the Prodigal Son. Looking at the father huggng his wayward son is a touching moment. Many words can describe the poignant scene; forgiveness, love, acceptance, and joy are some words that come to mind. Affirmation comes to mind when I view the picture. Yes the son had spent everything he had on wanton living. The son felt shame and remorse, so much so that he was willing to be a servant. The father would have none of it. The father's affirmation of his son demonstrated his love for him. Contrast this response to that of the older son. He responded in anger upon hearing that his young brother's return. I'm than…

Ok, I have a question...I want to start HRT (and yes correctly, under care). I am 41, 5'10", 185 and workout daily. I have a very defined body and am wondering what effect hormones will have on me? If I am taking them but continue working out, how much will I hurt my breast growth, if any? As is I have a small B cup just from having a developed chest. Anyone have some thoughts on this?????? I appreciate any and all comments.

Anyone got any ideas for hair removal for Psoriosis sufferers like myself? I have it bad on my legs in particular which are also highly hairy. Its just that some waxes/removal creams are not suitable.