General Transgender Discussion

Kate Bornstein brought this idea up in her book Gender Outlaw but sort of brushed it off as half-baked. The funny thing is, lately I've had an experience I can only relate to people as feeling a great deal like waking up from a life long brainwashing. Things suddenly seem so clear with the globs of mental goop starting to be removed. It is actually sort of similar to Tadatoshi's description in some ways ... of course I've always been a girl, and now that I'm finally finding the cracks in my clay facade, I am able to tear pieces away and both allow others to experience the "real" me and experience the world without a lot of the fog/dirt that has clouded the lens for many y…

I just adore being a tgirl, I have finally found my inner and true self. I am almost out 24X7 now, not at work yet, but that will be coming later this year. I have met many great people, made lots of new friends, met lots of people online (a special wink at everyone on this board) I went grocery shopping today, a lady came around the corner and bumped into me with her cart while I was bent down picking out some pantyhose, she said, "oh I'm sorry honey, are you okay? Yes thank you,. I'm fine. cute, cute guy at one of the cash registers, hmm, yes, I think I'll go in this line. He rang up all my groceries, plus the bottle of diet coke I bought. He aske…

On Wednesday night I went to NYC to the gay center. There was a transgender support group there and it was wonderful. I have done a ton of research on the net, but nothing beats actually coming out to the community. The meeting was 7:30 to 9pm. The room was filled with people from the trans community. Everyone was at different stages of transition and coming out with various age ranges. I went to the first group of the "semester" and as time goes on we will discuss various topics. After the hour we all went to the local coffee house and hung out for an hour socializing. And to top it all off, there were trans boys there(diversity rules!). It was just awesome. I feel p…

I got pulled over this weekend. I had blown a "No turn on red" sign. So Im digging around in my glove box when the cop comes up to the window. I hand him this crumpled packet of insurance cards/registrations i have been building over the years, and then i hand him my ID. He said, "Miss, can you just give me what i need out of here," indicating the packet of fun. So i dig through it and notice my insurance card is out of date and the real one was somewhere in my car. My registration was just renewed recently and the new card hadn't arrived yet. So I explain this to him and start digging around my glove box for the Insurance card. It wasn't there so I told him that …

So I don't remember where I heard this, but I heard you can take BC pills instead of getting hormone shots and get the same effects. Does anyone know if this is true? It's not really soemthing I'm considdering, just wandered if theres any factual basis behind it. Plus I'm sure the negative side effects would outweigh the positive. Tiff

Someone else on here sent me this link, it's most amusing Focus on Hallucinogens My comment after reading this was... Wow, why hasn't the trans community found this earlier? LSD turns you into a woman! *runs and hides*

I would like to know how to get a prescription for hormones to transition. I have been giving it a lot of thought processing who I am day after day. I am a woman. It has taken me time to come out to myself, but I except myself for who I am. I am ready to take my first steps to transition and live as I truly am. Can anyone help?

Hi, I'm a young adult and had a question about being transgender. I was wondering if you can be tg and don't really do girly activities. However, I had question my gender since being a teenager because i never could relate the men but could relate to women more. Does gender and sexual orientation differ. The reason is that i'm attracted to women instead men so i don't fit the typical tg scenario. I never dress before because i don't have any sisters and my mom clothes would never fit but i wanted to grow breasts since i was a teenager. I tried on a bra and it felt awkward at first but then i felt whole. I'm not sure if i could pass or not. I mainly do manly a…

Dear Jo jo, I sincerely hope you are well. I and many others in this forum have been concerned about you. As far as I know, you have not written any posts in awhile. You know how we are similar in certain ways, especially in wanting to be a female, making some efforts to live as a female, yet feeling a need to maintain existing marriages, thereby compromising some of our strongest inner needs. Jo jo, I hope again you are well. Best wishes. Koreen

I've been looking around the forum for the last few days, and I've decided to join up! I'm in my late teens, and I guess my story is similar to a lot of others: I remember I was four years old when I told a woman at daycare that I was a girl, I got along well with other girls in my childhood and was basically happy until (drum roll please!) I hit puberty. On the upside I could open pickle jars really easily but the rest of it - the unwanted physical changes, being one of the "weird" kids, thinking I was gay because I didn't date anyone - all that I would have gladly avoided, I have a male body but have always felt like a girl, so I guess that's why I'm here. I don…

This movie survey offers up titles not listed in the TS MOVIE POLL or the CD MOVIE POLL This one's multiple choice, so have fun! (includes TS, CD and drag films) .

Have any of you ladies ever went on to youtube to see all the transgender blogs there? It is amazing how much information about the trans community is on there. I use them as a resource for support, information and possibly guidance. I absolutely love it. It is fabulous to see all the information on the net.

That's right, My wife gave birth to our second child on Tuesday 15th of January. A little girl weighing in at 7 pound 7 oz. Mother and baby are now home and doing well.

Hi there! I finally decided to come out of hiding lol I've read many things here and found that I related to a lot of it. Well I guess I should say a little about myself. I've known for a long time that I should be female but was forced to act like my physical body's sex or at least try. I just don't know what to do about it. I can't tell anyone that's in my life about it. I could never tell my parents because they would never understand and I have no friends. I have a brother but we've been enemies for years. There have been many problems in my life and all those problems have been inside me. All the time, silently I had to deal with the torment inside while on the …

This had to have been a topic on this forum before. However, when did you people truly got the hint that you maybe trans? If this topic has already been covered then I apologize. :P

Hi everybody!! It's been a while since I checked up on this board. It's the way I operate really, but I do feel I was part of this community. I love you all and you gave me a great pillar of support when I needed it most. Thankyou all and much love. I've decided that I'm going all the way, I will be getting GRS asap. This isn't truely news, but my resolve is solid now. I will be getting everything, FFS and GRS. For me, and I stress for me as I know everyone's road in this is very different, it is what I need to do to be me. I am me on the inside. I am me in character finally. I am breaking the ice. Now I just wish to be able to see myself in the mirror. As me. So that,…

If you have wanted to do this and haven't gotten up the courage to do it, I really have to say... whatever reactions you were expecting from having bright metallic purple nails (and looking somewhat male still) are probably not what you were going to get, no matter what you were expecting. I think the enjoyment of throwing people's minds has kept me out of depression for the past couple of days. Saturday and Sunday I went to a party and hung out for a while at a new age store, respectively (among other random trips). I got no comments or really even glances about it. I mentioned on the other thread that I started this on Thursday afternoon, and then went to work wit…

I read this in another thread, and rather than take that thread off topic, I decided to start a new thread. I'm exactly the same way in relationships--which is one reason I've decided to avoid them! The thing is, as women, we've subconsciously picked up the belief that we're supposed to be passive and submissive, especially to those we care about. But what are we supposed to do when we are told by those we care about that we are supposed to act like men? Do we discard all femininity in order to submit? Or do we act like men and assert privilege that does not exist? [robotic voice] DOES NOT COMPUTE!!! I had a male friend in middle school who obviously w…

Hi Everyone, I started my HRT last month. I did one dose with an injection. Although my Doctor said the pellets are much more efficient and less side effects. I am considering taking his advice and use pellets instead. Does anyone has used pellets for HRT? Is there any risk of infection or contamination such HIV or Hepatitis? What should I look at? What should I do? thank you everyone! Andrea

While Mike's away and unable to send me to the corner, I figured it'd a good time to get a good speech in. I really don't like the word "transition" and I'm not sure I like what it implies either. Before anyone starts throwing eggs/tomatoes/your food substance of choice... This all goes back to Kate Bornstein's Gender Outlaw book for me. It made me realize that I was still laboring under this strange social system called "gender". "Gender" is nearly as strange as one of the old feudal caste systems. In those systems, one was either born noble or not; nobility were one thing, and commoners were another, and that was that. It's strange to us now, but it was as simpl…

I know that this is off topic, but does anyone here train in the martial arts. I figured it would be a fun topic to discuss. I have been training in judo myself for awhile now. ^_^

hey everyone - just thought i'd let you all know i'll be out-of-pocket pretty much as i'm off visiting my mum. well, actually... mama annie told me that i should let you all know why i'm not here. lol...women always think of things like that. anyway getting on my mum's computer is not the easiest and i'm thinking i've been fairly lucky today finding a wireless connection in the area. so...i'll check in when i can. may just read mostly since i dunno how reliable this connection is. i'd be mighty pissed if i started some kind of big philosophical debate or reply and someone (whoever it is). PULLED THE PLUG!!!!!. hope everyone is well. bonnie, kim... don…

I might have to work in Vegas for two weeks and as a result I'm thinking all sorts of possible things to try. Chances are not much will come of this as my imagination is significantly larger than my courage. Still, I like the idea of doing a transgender makeover for a day or two once work is done. A few factors I need to take into account: 1. Vegas is somewhat familiar territory as I spent most of my teen years there (+20 years ago), 2. have no clue about transgender resources in the area, 3. parents still live there, they're elderly so I know where they won't be running into me, 4. limited budget, 5. interested in meeting other Ts (I'm not into fooling around so I'm …

I thought this deserved its own topic, because not everyone who may be interested or have something to say would neccessarily be reading the other thread. This is basically a place holder. I had something typed up as a reply in the other thread, but the site ate it. Gave me a "406 Error". So, I started a new thread and there's more to come. Pages 4 and 5 in the other thread are the "important" ones. Just be patient. It will take a bit to reorganize my thoughts and such, but I will get back to it.

Figured I'd attach a cute party animal instead of a cake this time (I always love your avatars) HAPPY BIRTHDAY, KIM!!! ~Shannon