General Transgender Discussion

The forum has been pretty quiet overall so I'm just going to step up to the mic here I've only been to two laser sessions so far, but after comparing some old pictures and looking at what I have today, I think the progress on that front has been pretty amazing. I don't have pics to share right now, but I've got some empty patches tonight, my upper lip has maybe 40% of the hair it used to, and most of the dark hair that's left is in my chin area now.. maybe 60% as thick as it used to be. Overall not too bad since I got a pretty cheap deal on it, and I have 3 more to go! I'll need some electrolysis later too, for blonde beard hairs as well as the "girl sideburns" area b…

Hello, After years of hurt and pain, I have come out with my real feelings. It has been a long time for me. I guess it started when I was real little. My sisters used to dress me up. My Mom kept my hair long which was a plus. They would often dress me in their skirts and dresses and put my hair in pony tails with ribbons in them. I can remember that it felt weird to me, but I also felt good. I so after started dressing in my sisters clothes on my own. This continued on and off all through my school years and into college. I had a BF in HS and nobody knew about us. I would often dress for him and told him I would like for him to marry me someday. I always was very jealo…

What did you do today on your birthday? Hope it was a good one! -Love Kim :)

Happy Halloween and Samhain! We pretty much sat at home and handed out candy and watched Survivor.. I know, boo. I realized though that I can't do "en femme" for Halloween. It's sort of self-insulting and sending the wrong message to myself. If anything I've had my costume today by not doing anything special. I felt kinda cruddy about it as the day went on though, seeing a bunch of people dressed up as various things today, because now I wished I'd taken the opportunity to do some sort of female Halloween costume. Oh well, maybe next year. My wife wanted to be Eowyn, so maybe we'll get swords, armor, and Nordic dresses, and do dual Eowyns Anyone actually do anythin…

If you had been born into a society where gender roles are completely reversed from yours, like in that episode of Star Trek: The Next Generation, would you still be TG, or would you have fit right in from the beginning? If you're MTF, for example, would you be like the women of that society (i.e. like men in your culture) or like the women of our society?

I don't want this to be a downer topic, but honestly, how likely is it a MtF will find a good man or woman after transitioning? I haven't a clue so am wondering what other's observations on this subject might indicate. From my own personal experience, within the gay community it is very hard to find a good, faithful, stable, employed, sane, loveable guy. Since the trans community is smaller I am guessing the odds are slimmer? MIWBJ

If there were a country you could go to where even the most masculine-looking man can live as a woman, and even the most feminine-looking woman can live as a man, and they could be accepted in their desired gender and everything without changing their bodies, would you choose to go instead of transitioning? (If you have transitioned, would you have chosen to go to that country if you could avoid transitioning by doing so?)

Something that came out constructively while I was discussing with the therapist today was, what exactly defines a man or a woman? Really there is no good definition based on any sort of solid, medical/scientific criteria. Chromosomes don't do it since you can have XX men and XY women, even ignoring TS. Fertility/virility don't enter into it because plenty of people don't have these functions, but are still considered men or women as appropriate. Even physical characteristics are no good because a man who's definitely a man could easily go get hormones and GRS and be totally miserable. I think really the only useful definition for a man or a woman is "that's what you b…

I did not wear much makeup for the longest time, but recently lost weight, and am feeling better about myself, so am starting to wear some make-up again. I have a very very favorite eyeliner, it is by Urban Decay, and the color I use is called Smoke Out. It is not waterproof so it comes off at night easy, but it stays on great all day. I highly recommend it! If you have some fav's, share them! -Kim PS) Sorry Mikey, nothing for you to contribute here. hehe

Hi everyone. I don't recall if this has already been requested here so I am posting with the author's permission. She sent it to me earlier this year and so I have been writing my story since with many rewrites and only now am I noticing that I didn't send her request out to anyone. Hello all, My name is Robin Hamilton and I have been Crossdressing since around the age of nine years old. Suffice to say I have a lot of stories to tell during my 37 years on this crazy planet! This project is over ten years in the making and is now in full swing. I am in the process of compiling stories from people who X-dress, Significant others, Ex's, MTF, Pre and post-op TG's…

:D I hope you had a wonderful day!!!! Love Kim

It just occured to me a few minutes ago. After shaving my legs, I put some powdered base on to make them look nice too. Do I have to worry about the stuff getting on the furniture? If so, any suggestions to get that nice even smooth appearance without using base? What other unexpected surprises might the various kinds of make up have which newbies should be aware of?

I'm here enjoying my 'first' time dressed, life is good. I'm actually fairly relaxed and not into libidinous overdrive (thank goodness!) I realize clothing and make-up does not the woman make, but for now, I can dress-up and pretend a bit. I've got on flowy pin-striped pants, a frilly white 'blouse', hose, flats, make-up and my nails painted. Not quite feminine looking but more elegant and softer than normal. I suspect I will remember this for some time. Do you remember your first time? P.S., while I've worn fem clothing before, it was just a piece or two. This is my first time with 'outfit' and make-up.

While I was doing things on the com. and listening to tv.I noticed a show on G called Taboo.I'm sure many of you have heard of it but today Sat. at 2-3 cst. they had a show about transsexuals and transitioning.I didn't catch to much of it but it showed transsexuals from many different countries. I found that Samoa is quite accepting of transgendered people. It also showed Dr. Bowers and many other places.I don't know if they'll have it on again and I didn't catch the title of the show but one can check their guide to see if it's on again if your interested. Dee

I'm only going to leave these up here for a day or two because I don't want it to become part of the internet wayback machine's perpetual archive of hilarity But I thought I'd post a sample of the voice progress so far and ask what everyone thinks. I'm attaching a sample of the male voice for comparison. (Sadly I actually like the way it sounds.. just not coming out of my mouth by default.. heheh) The female voice sample is sort of a parody... someone told me my voice sounds a little too uptight like I'm doing a voiceover for a PBS special, so.. I figured I might as well make the best of it until I can correct that. (Edit: I removed the male sample but I'll go ahe…

I actually went out en-pseudo-femme this evening for the first time. (Well, there were some false starts years ago, but let's just forget about that. ) It was only walking out to the car, driving 10 miles to pick up my wife and head home, and walking back into the house, but... wow, how wonderful. I had my androgynous urban grunge clothes but I had a pinkish shirt under my hoodie, a choker, my hair done in a feminine style, and the breast forms. I thought it was rather cute actually, and little possibility of mistaking me for a normal old straight guy. I had a "holy crap" moment when I first stepped out of my house because I don't know if I've ever felt so un-dissociat…

many of you have probably seen this documentary...but i'm sure some have not. "Born a Boy, Brought Up a Girl" will air on The Learning Channel tonite 8PM central time. viewers should check their local listing for times in their respective areas. synopsis: After a tragic accident, David Reimer's parents must decide to raise their son as a girl. For the next 14 years, on the advice of a top doctor, he believes he is a girl. But the experiment of nature versus nurture goes tragically wrong.

Got back from Asia... Had a great trip with some very surreal moments Here's a pic! not especially TG related but what the heck :)

I1m Really new at this and just got to this sight not too long ago. I`ve never posted anything nor did I reply to any. Believe it or not I`m just toooooooo shigh and don`t know just just what to post. But I did get up enough nerve to tell 2 people thank u very much for all ur help in getting me this far. Thank u Lori and Jo jo for all uyou`ve done for me. U girls were like my gaurdian angels. I know I`ve said thank u in the past but putting here for all to see will sweetin the frosting. Thank u girls for evreything,hugs Priscilla Anne(Prissy)

I'm always getting these spam mails, I'm sure you know the ones, "fix your problem down there!" and I can't help but laugh a little and think, really, you can sell me something that will do biological SRS for me?! But it got me to thinking.. is there anything that works the opposite of "blood flow increasers" like viagra? I mean, I guess for some people long term HRT does that. But it'd be handy to have something you could take for a day to make sure you don't have any uncomfortable reactions down there for whatever reason... I guess if all else fails there's the old standby, imagining my parents in bed :blink:

I was going to save this for therapy Friday but I figure what the heck.. I wonder if anyone else has had this problem. I like to sift through my brain one grain of sand at a time (that's what it's made of mostly, I think ) and try to tease out tangled messes of emotions, find causes of problems to confront them, and so on. Well, I found a really interesting (and kind of embarrassing, shameful) thing about myself that explains a whole lot: I have a prejudice against trans people. Which means I have a prejudice against myself...! This can't be good. Maybe this merits some extra explanation too, before anyone thinks I dislike them or something. Basically I understand…

I think I'm officially a fan now 'Dear Abby' says she's for gay marriage

My friend sent this to me: The effeminate sheep & other problems with Darwinian sexual selection. I thought the idea was pretty interesting. It really is striking how much standard theories of gender and sexuality try to toss out the "bad samples"...

OK, maybe I'm making a mountain out of a molehill. Maybe not. I'm a bit puzzled about something I'd like to do. Will gladly listen to anyone's thoughts on the matter. I'm still thinking of dressing for Halloween, and it's occured to me that my makeup skills are nill. I was thinking of recruiting the woman next door to help me out once or twice to get some practice. I think she would be OK with helping as long as it's for Halloween. What has me concerned is for me dressing for Halloween might be a bit pseudo-sexual. I'd like her help, but because of this last factor I'm afraid I probably should not ask her to help since for me it might be a bit more than dress-up. I know I…

Hi everyone, I'm guessing this has been covered before but I couldn't find a specific topic for it. I want to know how other Ts have coped (or are coping) with 'angry explosions' at other people (like friends) who don't understand and touch a raw nerve when commenting on your gender. Or perhaps I'm just really touchy about it? I'm gonna vent a bit here so apologies for waffling but just to enforce my point... I am pre-op so everyone 'knows' me as a girl (even though I've been hopelessly presenting as male for a few years). I don't intend on having surgery any time soon, simply because I can't afford it. But through the way I look and also many verbal hints along the…