General Transgender Discussion

Hello, I've been reading on the net about Dr Bushong's 'Gender Matrix". As usual, tried to figure out how I might fit into the classification. For those not familiar with this -- I would think most everyone here is -- he uses a five axis system to show how complex gender identity can be. The five axis are: 1. Genetic Gender 2. Physical Gender 3. Brain Gender 4. Brain Sex 5. Gender Identity In the article, he uses simply "M" or "F" in his examples. Since these are a continuous spectrum, maybe it's better to use something like M - m - N - f - F to represent from strongly male to weakly male to neutral to weakly female to strongly female. So, according to …

For the second time in my life I am experiencing my coming out, due to in large part by this message board which has meant the world to me. I can't help but feeling like this is my virtual family and support group. I really wasn't planning on coming out until my book was published in 2012 which is also the year that I retire. My wife has been acting so strange lately. I think it all started when she found a birthday card that I was sending to a friend that she didn't know so she opened the card that was meant to be mailed and it was signed Love Jojo. OMG! I was jumping through hoops trying to come up with a good story on that one. It seemed as if she was getting over tha…

For quite some time, everyone who feels the need to number us, claims that there are only 700,000 transgender people in the US. That number has been bandied about so much, that even some trans people have begun to use that figure. I've always thought that was a crock of crap. And it angers me more each time I see it, 'cause in the back of my mind, I can't help but believe that the part of the nation hell-bent on keeping us grovelling in the gutter have got to be thinking, "so what, there's only 700,000 of ya's." I just finished reading the article The faces of transgender teen America. According to that article, "among the documented 1.6 million homeless youth across …

Before I came out, no one ever asked me about my gender or sexual orientation. Now I'm out as FTM, EVERYONE suddenly wants to know my sexual orientation! They'll say, "Okay, I get the gender thing, but are you gay or straight?" so bizarre. just wondering if anyone else had similar experiences...

Hi everyone I’m Jamie, I’m in a weird situation where I’m planning to move and work to Japan from China(I used to live in the US) and also I’d like to begin my transition from male to female while there. In order not to derail my “coming out to my spouse” thread too much I made this one. I would like to know any resources or information of mtf life in Japan. Or your experiences while there. Firstly I’d like to recommend this source to anyone asking similar questions https://stonewalljapan.files.wordpress.com/2016/02/transguide2016.pdf this seemed both helpful and a bit depressing. I’ll be working in a small(?) city called Mito and I don’t know if…

If there were a country you could go to where even the most masculine-looking man can live as a woman, and even the most feminine-looking woman can live as a man, and they could be accepted in their desired gender and everything without changing their bodies, would you choose to go instead of transitioning? (If you have transitioned, would you have chosen to go to that country if you could avoid transitioning by doing so?)

ohhhhhhhh-kay... many of you are familiar with the post i began in sept 2005 "THEORY: Why So Many MTFs Prefer Women." it quickly became a hot topic and generated some lively debate. so...i'm off on a new quest for info and understanding -- since i began hanging out in TG/TS chatrooms and forums, it seems to me to be, that: most of the women, the MTF individuals, strive to be all that is feminine and womanly. most seem to work untiringly toward achieving a feminine shape and look, perfecting feminine mannerisms, and eliminating as much as possible...anything that would ID them physically as having been born male-bodied. on the other hand.... lately, …

Is it possible for a teenager to recieve confidential transgender testing? Possibly through the school system?

long story short, she did not respond well (for a lack of better words). I think she's kicking me out tomorrow. Actually, Im pretty sure. I lost my wife, children, job, home and now my mother and a roof over my head because of my GID. its not fair

I dont know if this has been discussed or not yet. But I, right now, get medical assistance from the state I live in. Which means I have to go to DES to get it renewed every 3 months or so. Anyway, when I have to go there, I like that they have to call me by my choosen name, but being that I dont totally pass for male in the chest area, I get people staring in my direction. Anywhere I go that I use MY name, I get that. Does this bother anyone else? How do you handle it?

My apologies for the whiney ennui of this post up front. I feel like I need to get it off my chest though. I'm not even completely sure where to start with this, it's all tangled up in my head... so I'll start here: I've waffled a lot. I'm not as completely sure as to the state of my mind as some of you are with yours. However, I realized the other day that if I had a "magic button" that would make me into the real GG female image of myself that I see in my head, and change everyone's memories and such to match it.. you know, parallel universe or whatever.. I wouldn't hesitate more than a second to push it. I think that says a lot. I also realized that the "full d…

http://www.wa-doma.org/ I kind of wish this would pass. It would be the kind of law that would cause DOMA to be struck down at the national level. For those who don't know what DOMA (the so-called Defense of Marriage Act) says, basically any state can ignore the marriage laws in other states and make it's own rules about who is married and who isn't. So theoretically, a hetersexual couple married in state A could have their marriage declared invalid in state B. Washington Initiative 957 would do just that. Because of a court case that struck down gay marriage for the reason that gay people can't procreate, I-957 makes the ability to procreate a determination o…

If you are interested, her show will be about transgenders, she has a HUGE audience, so lets hope it is done properly, with correct facts. Have a great Friday, I will check in later for a critique. -Kim PS) ABC 4pm Eastern time.

because we had gotten way off the topic of Dee's original thread - GENDER IDENTITY TESTS - i've taken it upon myself to bring the discussion to a new thread. our apologies, Dee. Insertnamehere (in reply to post #37, Gen TS Topics, GENDER IDENTITY TESTS) your thoughts on transsexuality and it's causes are unique at best. but i think your beliefs are born of your equally unique stand on gender. your posts up until recently made me believe you were MTF. then i got the impression you were GG. come to find out you are not GG, and really don't consider yourself MTF, yet you desire a procedure that many MTFs want - an orchiectomy. you said in post #37 "You should …

It strikes me that if you added up all of the "Non Normal" people in the world - EI- Us, Gay's, Non mainstream religions, people under 4.5 feet and over 7 feet, hippie types, rockers, and on and on, and lumped us all toghther under one umbrella then that would most likely put the "Normal" people in the minority, would it not? :rolleyes:

well, I had been dating a great guy for the last month or two, and yes, I thought he might be "the one". He lives out of town, six hours away by car. He has driven here twice to see me, and he also took the bus another time to see me. I thought we were hitting it off really well, we laughed, we talked, we got along really well, we had great intimacy too. We seemed to like the same things. We had even talked about him coming here, getting a job here, and moving in with me. He even got along with my cat well, she came up to him and let him pet her the first night he was here, and she's never done that with anyone. Today he pm'ed me and said he has decided agains…

I haven't posted here in a while, but I finally worked up the courage to take the first steps to transition and I contacted a bunch of therapists to set up consultations. I'm really nervous/excited! just thought I'd share :-)

I'm not sure where to start so please bear with me. Since I can remember I have never been totally comfortable with being male. Most of the time I'm glad that I'm a man but yet I want to look somewhere in between a man and a woman. When I was younger I could pass fairly well and dressing up always made me feel stimulated and relaxed all at the same time. I'm 50 now, very young looking and I am married. My wife knows to some degree of what I am but she seems disinterested in it and perhaps threatened. She knows that I'm not gay. However, she has never been supportive of what I think is a need. This is going to get convoluted so I will try to have it make sense. …

Help! My son is in need of some talk therapy from a child psychologist that deals with gender confusion. He is 11 years old and acts very "girly". He was born with a small penis and his mother and father (I am his stepmother)thought the entire pregnancy that he was female. They could not see a penis on ultrasound. I have only been married to his father for a short while, but in the two years I have known this child he has been asking questions about his gender. I am a nurse and feel it is our responsibilty to get him any help he needs in order to grow up as "normal" as possible. Kids make fun of him, and he feels bad about himself. I have an appointment with an adolecent …

I just want to give Aylwin some public gratitude. Over a week ago, I would have been terrified of letting anyone know. Talking to Aylwin and seeing how well that had been going to her really encouraged me to tell an old friend. I even got to hang out with this friend this weekend as shannon and it went really excellently. I was a bit nervous, but other than that she said it was one of the more normal/fun social times we'd had in years(possibly ever). That was on Sunday, and I thought that went well enough that I told a good amount of my closes friends yesterday, and even hung out with a couple last night. Things really couldn't better in regard to how everything wor…

I know, not a common complaint, huh? Yesterday I was out with friends (equinox and all) and spent most of the time hanging out with the ladies in the group.. had lots of fun. We met up with an old friend we thought we'd lost by way of a jerk husband, and she had left him and was doing well. On the way home we were talking about boyfriends, girlfriends, and sundries with one girl we were taking home, and she said... I decided I didn't want to be a lesbian because I just like the 'guy parts' too much. So my wife pipes up and says, well, I get the best of both worlds because mine's trans! The other girl didn't show any surprise at all, she just said ohhh yeah, I dated one…

Something keeps going thru my head, its what Annie said: "Sex is between your legs, Gender is between your ears" And I figured out something...MtF TGs are Male in Sex, but Female in Gender, so since I would gladly date an MtF as much as I'd date a bio-female, that makes me bisexual, but since I'm going on the gender, being female, I am straight, or heterogender? (If that is a word). Summed up, I'm Bisexual, yet Heterogender? What are your thoughts on it Ladies, and Gentlemen?

I've been thinking of taking up weight training or getting some type of exercise machine to help me tone up and lose some weight. My only fear is that I don't want to start looking like a bodybuilder or something. I remember reading that HRT assists Female to Male transgender people in getting the male physique that they want. So well logically I was thinking that HRT would help me get the female physique that I want. Does anybody know if this is true or not? T_T

Howdi all, How do your TGism reflect itself in dreams? Have you always dreamt 'in the persona' of your 'brain/true sex'? I tend to be genderless in my dreams anyway, but occasionally I have dreams in which I 'know' I'm a woman, but to be honest, I have more where I'm certainly the extrernal person I am now ... i.e. male.... Actually I drream quite vividly every night, which I'm happy about, though more often than not the details fade within minutes if I don't concentrate my mind on them. Some of my friends claim the 'never dream'... I'm not sure thats true, I read somewhere we all dream but we don't all remember them. I'm grateful I do though. Last n…

Are you right brained or left brained? What's the difference? The answers lie ahead! This little test takes two minutes to complete. I'm satisfied with my results. Certainly the description was apt. Similar Minds test Annie