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I wasn't much of a Starsky and Hutch fan, maybe because my fantasies were more about being one of the females. I used to love watching Star Trek, both when it was new and in re-runs and I recall the details of many episodes. But man, did I want to be Yeoman Rand! Emma

In one way I am not surprised that they still have this show running as it was a great show (yet I don't remember any episodes), For some odd reason they remind me of Hall and Oats, go figure. I bet many back then wish they were one of them. Any ways good to hear you have found some perspective watching them.

Good luck with the implants Karen, really hope you like the results. Eve x

Christie, I agree with you 100% about Jacklyn Smith. I suppose the one for me that trumps all others? My namesake, Mrs. Emma Peel (Diana Rigg) of The Avengers! Oh, but let's not forget Julie Andrews, Stephanie Powers, Mary Tyler Moore, Sally Field, Julie Newmar, Barbara Feldon, Natalie Wood, Marlo Thomas, Patty Duke, .... and, Shirley Temple!!! Emma

Best of luck! I look forward to hearing how it goes xoxo Christie

My fantasies were more about Charlie's Angels - my dream was being Jaclyn Smith. I think she was the most elegantly glamorous

Happy to hear going out is getting easier for you and will eventually be no male brain left that thinks about being nervous.

Hi Christie, I'm so glad that you're confidence is growing, well done and yes it does get easier after each time you go out, and after each new thing that you do as a female, I'm proud of you! Eve oxo !!!!!

Update: Just received a text from one another female friend, she will be in town on Sunday and visit me along with hitting my fav coffee shop woohoo!!!

I like the idea of "no male brain left," that is a way of thinking about this that hadn't occurred to me. A couple of months ago when I was discussing my transition with one of my supervisors she said she thought that I was talking about going to work wearing skirts. At that time I said no, I was going for female, but not that far yet. But now I feel like just a few weeks in the idea of wearing a skirt to work isn't that far off. I think that might happen after I see sufficient results from the electrolysis that I'm starting tomorrow (I don't want to have 5 o'clock shadow while wearing a skirt)

Thank you, ladies. I really appreciate it! --Lisa

Lisa, Are there any kind of support groups near you? (I was surprised that I haven't been able to find any in NYC, so I have no idea how common they are anywhere else.) The strength and courage that you're showing is inspiring - and also the fact that you clearly do care about how your wife is handling it. I'm sure it might feel easier at times to just walk away (I do know that from experience, I was married when I came out as gay - as it turns out the "coming out" part was right, just maybe not the gay part). Hopefully if you give her the space she needs she might come around and at least be supportive (more supportive I guess, since she is being a little supportive already). xoxo Christie

Thanks for sharing. Thinking about your spouse, I watched a show called "New Girls on the Block" last weekend where a man has been transitioning with what he thought was with his wife's support but she was not happy at all. What she did for closure since she still loves the person inside was interesting, they held a funeral for his former male self where he (of course) was not invited. Not totally sure if it worked or not but after I have heard so many stories of spouses having issues coping with their spouse transitioning that this might be an opinion for some or put a twist on it so the spouse has some form of closure.

Karen and Eve, Thank you both for your comments! Fear is definitely the big thing, but I know I can work through that And Eve, the "o's" in "xoxo" are hugs xoxo Christie

Hey Christie, it gets easier and easier the more you go out. There seems to be some confusion as to being yourself and being someone else! I had this too, but you really need to go out unconcerned, just getting on with whatever it is that you're doing, if you don't do this you won't look natural. Nothing wrong with wearing a wig, I have to (but a combination of Finasteride tabs and Decapeptyl injections are working wonders in the hair replacement dept!), and it's hell in the Summer, which keeps me moving for cooling purposes! Karen's advice is good, smiles are always helpful as well as keeping eyes wide open at the same time, but try to keep it natural, not like someone who's been startled. The clothes you wear are going to help a hell of a lot, try to dress your age, if you intend going in a leather mini skirt and thigh boots you will be instantly read as a "tranny tart" (sorry for anyone upset at my lack of political correctness). In my case I wear ankle boots with a 2-3 inch comboy boot style block heel, black trousers, a nice top and something long, e.g. a longline jacket or a knee length coat, these hide my lack of hips and also hide tucked junk to an extent. I try to keep tops long, typically down to the crotch/backside area, sometimes these are referred to as tunics, also for me sleeves are a must to hide my "bricklayer style" arms. Hair that can cover some of my broad shoulders is also helpful. But all that can be termed as "props", you just have to be as natural as you can be, so going out forgetting that you are in womens clothes etc is a good way to do this, I do do this now, but I had to go through all the unnatural nervous stuff, luckily I survived without any problems, I do remember feeling great after my first few outings. Eye contact when you are talking to someone is an absolute must, I've spoken to many and my voice is awful, but I get away with it, people believe what they see, not what they hear, unless on the phone of course. So, I've said this before a few entries ago, and here it is again; Believe in yourself, be who you really are. (that's yourself!) If you don't do this, you will soon be seen as false, or to state it in a way that most Trans people will recognise, you will be read or you won't pass!, so heed my message! Cheers, Eve x P.S. What are the O's in xoxoxo

I think you or on the right track and must know by now that the more you get out the easier it will be. Find something to do before getting out of house i.e. listen to up beat music, concentrate on the music and forget about what will happen when you leave the house, be your female self. When out and about remember when appropriate to look at people when talking to them, make eye contact and of course smile. Bottom line, don't let fear rule your life (yes it's easier said than done but I have been there).