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Jay, I wonder why you wrote this. What was the context? Is someone suggesting that you see a therapist? Or, as you contemplate more steps along your journey you know that your medical establishment will insist on it for some sort of approval? Anyway, as you say, to each his own! If you don't feel the need, don't go, because unless you have a need driven by some inner concern or turmoil, what would you even talk about? But I will say that it's doubtful that they would ask "insensitive questions" should you go. In my experience (with so many over, my goodness, thirty years off and on) they typically just ask what is going on for me, and only ask questions for clarification. That said, I have found good ones and better ones. Some I connect to better than others. We are all people and there needs to be a chemistry of trust, respect (mutual), and faith that he/she has the wherewithal to help. Unfortunately that can take a while to determine, so it is an investment of time and money. I was also surprised to learn at least for me that therapy isn't like debugging a program or typo: identify the problem, determine the fix, and voila! All done and repaired. Nope, doesn't work that way. It's much more subtle and gradual. Maybe that is just my experience. I carried such a heavy load of shame and guilt over my TG feelings, and depression. The lifting of that load wasn't even obvious to me while it was happening. And then I started to wonder, is it happening? I'm feeling a little better, maybe this is a result? Indeed, after more time and sessions with my therapist, I can say that it has. Please know that I am most definitely not advising you to see one. I just wanted to share my experience in the hopes that, should you ever feel the need, this might help you. Hugs, Emma

You're a shining example to us all Karen, I just got back from cycling 30 mins ago! Must try to drink more water!!!! Hugs, Eve

For me it was Whitney Houston. To this day it hurts to think that she is gone. Even with her later music, when her voice wasn't what it had been, i couldn't listen to her without feeling something, and that is truly a gift.

That's wonderful - congrats!

HI Jay, It doesn't sound to me like you've lost your muse as much as you've gotten stuck in getting started, into the flow of writing. It's hard to fill up that blank screen. I found what often works for me is to turn away from the computer and use paper and pen. That was surprising for me because it's much slower. But, it's like my psyche knows it's okay if I make a mistake. I just cross it out and keep writing. And soon, the flow just begins and I can choose to stay on the paper or return to the computer. Give that a try! Emma

Well my partner writes, she talks with other writers she met on courses and gatherings etc., they help one another are you in such a group? Can put you in touch with my partner if you like? Oh I 'd just add that some of them are from different countries even, let alone scattered around the UK. Hugs, Eve

I really don't want to vote Karen, if I voted no I'd feel that I was being negative, and if I voted yes and your story didn't sell I'd feel that I advised you incorrectly. Let me say this, there is a hell of a lot of hard work involved in writing a story about your life (biography), and as you have correctly said it's been done before. However there is a book over here called "Becoming Drusilla" please read it, and see that it was not an autobiographical tale, it was written by Dru's friend Richard Beard, who knew Dru as Andrew prior to transition. He at first had a hard time with accepting Dru, after all she was very much mechanically minded, and the type of person - similar to myself in fact - that can fix most things. They used to go on long walks in the countryside backpacking with lightweight tents, so in the book they did it again but this time with Dru fully transitioned...... I doubt that has been done in the US, and I doubt that many US citizens will have read "Becoming Drusilla", so perhaps doing your story from a similar second party perspective might work? Cheers, Eve

Same thoughts as for Christie, Veronica.................don't hang about giving them time to welch out of paying.