Dear Michele, Wonderful post, thank you. Here's a quick excerpt that I agree with so much: "So the first step to being happy about the person you have become, is thinking about if everything is as you would have done it, or are you at least at a spot in life where you can be happy to continue." I think it's all too easy for us to get morbid, to think of alternatives that ease the feelings. The feelings run so deep, don't they? We are a loose community of like-minded people, and we are here for each other. You are a good and valued person, Michele. I feel fortunate to at least know you here on TG Guide. Sincerely, Emma