KarenPayne

Don't let them scare you too much but look at things I wrote about and understand they do happen so knowing so ahead of time should make it easier.

Yes I am dealing with a lot. Today I solved the problem by shopping at Macy's and Victoria's Secrets :-)

When of the things I learned early on when in sales about Bloomingdales was too always present angry/frustrated customers with a smile, sympathize with them. Currently as a moderator for one of the largest programmer forums at Microsoft for a language known as C# I deal with similar things and do the same in posting back to them. It is always better to not fight them but instead see their point and educate them. There will always be a small amount that never will see eye to eye but I think you and your mother have the right attitude and will be just fine.

The sad thing is when a trans* person must contend with people in public, seldom we have the time to educate and must resort to different methods to walk away safely.

I teach various forms of self-defense and always tell my students that the first thing is to ask yourself "Can I walk away from this" and combine this with "Should I had been there is the first place".

I am the same way with were I elect to write about trans issues and if a site has bashers I think "should I really be here knowing full well there are those haters here?" So instead find places such as this site and similar sites to post information as I truly have better things to do then educate haters which may not sound like a good thing but life is too short for this.

Any ways thanks for sharing your thoughts and wish you all the best in your life ahead.

There are four that can be used but Marci skips the first one which is from my understanding very narrow in diameter and would guess it is only for those who have a small vagina. During my after surgery visit they showed me how to use the dilators and started with the middle one which went in 6.5 inches and was a tad sore. I then used the first one for a week then transitioned to the middle one which was painful so next time I used the small one for five minutes, not as bad but still hurt. Then after two days I was perfectly fine with the middle one.

I am going to start the largest one sometime next week, it is very large in diameter and not looking forward to it but must be done if I ever want to be penetrated which I do want to experience but I am more into women so I am not so concerned.

Bottom line is you must dilate three times a day for three months then two times a day till 12 months then thereafter once a day for the rest of my life.

I never had any issues with anesthesia. Was under for about 5 to 6 hours. I've had major surgery before and did take naps on that one too several years ago now that I think about it. Everyday is better than the day before so I am thinking all should be well soon. The important thing here is they say six weeks for a full recovery.

You are most welcome, the main reason for me blogging is to alert others what to expect as before these blogs I never blogged before.

Monica, I actually never thought about that, being seen in public together with them and they made me feel no different than before surgery.

Being yourself and happy being yourself is healthy for the soul. Good to hear things are brightening up.

I believe over time you will see the little things as landmarks that can cause great happiness.

I agree Mike, it was a day to forget and have moved on to a better day :-)

I truly believe that both of you would greatly benefit from reading the following book.

Enter the title into Amazon

True Selves: Understanding Transsexualism--For Families, Friends, Coworkers, and Helping Professionals

I purchased a copy for work and during a meeting where I announced my transition I said that this book will be on my desk if anyone wanted answers and of course said feel free to chat with me too. Both have happened and from feedback the book helped many come to terms with my transition that were unsure.

I am 100 percent right now and have a doctor's appointment this morning :-)

Hello, I wanted to add in that PayPal was great for me in the USA. I deactivated my former account on the phone then had them transfer my bank information from that account to the Karen Payne account which must be done by PalPay. Total time on the phone was just about ten minutes.

Emma, this is my profession :-) also I have the other browsers installed and tried them in December and again prior to posting this.

To give an idea of my computer talent, Microsoft has a program MVP (Most Valued Professional) where each quarter there is at least 5 million people trying to get this but there are only 3,000 slots available and you can not apply, someone nominates say me then they ask if I want it. Hopefully I am not coming across badly but I have debugging skills here and know enough that at this very moment in time, same as the week of Christmas when I first encountered this can not be fixed. I could easily write up several MS-Word pages of a document to show the underbelly of what I did while diagnosing this out but I have better things to do.

Below is my MVP page

https://mvp.microsoft.com/en-us/mvp/Kevin%20S%20Gallagher-5001096

I have an idea what is causing this and if I was at work could quickly verify it since we have one computer that can do all versions of Windows and every major browser and at last the past three major revisions of the browsers. Bottom line is there nothing I can do here other than use an older computer which is not for me

Staying local until Friday

If I use my old Window machine it works but fails on my new laptop and also the interment Windows 8 laptop. I write software for a living thus I did try things like uploading to the gallery first but that also locked up. Sadly all other sites I deal with work fine other than here which is why I signed up on WordPress for a blog as what I do there works.

Sorry for all the short comments, they will help me later to tell a story and for anyone interested to know kind of what i am doing.

Just was shown how to rub an ointment on my sutures but they did it for me

All food taste like cardboard, gas less of an issue. Took another walk this afternoon.

Got to walk but got a really bad gas attack, lucky it happened next to my bed because I collapsed onto the bed. Ten minutes later I feel fine

Feeling much better, packing has been removed, virtually no bleeding

Just typed a whole lot and was lost with no idea why

Update, the nurses started to become concerned with me bleeding excessively. About 4PM Marci came in after finishing up another surgery and had to do a few sutures on me. At 9PM no bleeding detected so all is good.

Tomorrow I get out of bed and walk :-)

PS Saw my new plumbing :-)

Perhaps there is a Saturday market to sell your things at that are normally closed in the winter months but worth investigating.

I just did an update on my Wordpress blog for today if interested.