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  1. Dawn13 added a comment on a blog entry How many times have you been mistaken as a girl   

    Thanks Monica,
    I guess by what you say is my ENERGY is female.  Neat!  Thanks.  love and kisses.  Dawn
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  2. Dawn13 added a blog entry in Dawn's Blog   

    How many times have you been mistaken as a girl
    Last week I was called Mam four times. Even had one restaurant employee say " Welcome ladies - how are you doing" as I entered his restaurant. I have given up correcting people, actually kind of like how it makes me feel. A month ago in boy mode I was at a sports expo and had stopped at a booth selling shoe inserts. The shop/booth owner was busy and asked one of his workers to "please help this woman" I could not believe myself - how feminine I must have looked to him. (Really was not trying) Yesterday, I had two women runners make commits on my shaved legs "how are they were so perfect" and "perfect looking legs"

    Have any of you all had these kind of comments - even when in boy mode?
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  3. Dawn13 added a post in a topic Pinterest and other social media   

    I still have a FB account as Dawn - but I made it inactive.  I wonder if there are any sites besides this one that are really Transgender friendly.  Bonnie mentioned a few sites she uses.  Dawn
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  4. Dawn13 added a comment on a blog entry How many times have you been mistaken as a girl   

    Monica you are the best and thanks for commenting as much as you do.  Seems like I always learn much from you.
    Latest trip and gender mix up.  I was at a Ross Store in GA ready to check out, in guy mode, and the female teller said I can help you over here Miss.  I thought she was talking to someone else and then I realized I was the only one there.  I checked out and am quite sure she thought I was a woman.  Then the next day while eating at an IHOP with friends the waitress said to me what can I get you ma'am, because I was with friends I corrected her saying "sir."  She repeated "sir" but when she came back she presented me my breakfast and said ma'am can I get you anything else.  This time I did not correct her as actually I was a bit flattered and later I checked the mirror to try to see what she saw.  Could be my chest/breasts are showing more (Was wearing a bra but straps were almost impossible to detect), earrings, hair, wore unisex clothing - still in acceptable unisex look. 
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  5. Dawn13 added a topic in Member Recommended Resources   

    Pinterest and other social media
    Recently I was on Pinterest with my own place using my name "Dawn."  I coded myself as Transgender.  I built a couple of boards - one called the "blur of gender" and another about feminine looking men and boys.  Two weeks ago I was kicked out of Pinterest.  I contested the action and the only reply I got was to read their rules; really.  Was it my boards? Did I misrepresent myself.  Was it a pin or pins I got from someone else that was considered offensive?   There is transgender info in Pinterest so I am confused to where I may have gone wrong. I sent a second request for clarification and so far no reply.  Does anyone have experience with Pinterest?  I really liked the site but think it might not be transgender friendly.  Dawn
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  6. Dawn13 added a blog entry in Dawn's Blog   

    Over 20,000 views of my site.  This count is mind boggling.  Maybe I can be a good influence to those I impact.  Dawn
    Added - this is all me - wearing a sports bra and a nice running outfit - Showing two early photos to now - Can anyone see why I might be first seen as a woman now?
    This photo represents the best of how I feel and look today.  I have changed quite a bit since I joined this site. Lost weight, longer hair, pierced ears, some breast growth, smooth small and shapely muscles, beard gone.  I have reshaped and modified myself as much as I could with out going through extensive surgeries.  Now much more feminine in body I am and much more aware of my being transgender.  I love it when I look and feel like a woman.  This is where I am and I think this is where I will remain.  I expect I will take a few more steps toward physical and inward beauty. (Ask me)  Thanks to all of you who have positively critiqued my photos,logs and blogs.  I love and respect to all of you - Dawn

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  7. Dawn13 added a comment on a blog entry 20,000 views   

    When I say it is all me - I mean the breast and hair growth is real.  I am wearing a shaping sports bra with normal padding.  So neat as I do not have to wear breast forms any more.  Dawn
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  8. Dawn13 added a comment on a blog entry I Don't Care Much for Myself Tonight   

    Hello Emma,
    I care about as you have cared about me.
    I noticed you were having issues with your electrolysis.  When I last had it done, the better electrologist (However more expensive) I went to used a cooling gel and it helped a lot. I had my chest done my face and my legs. It was expensive and I quit the treatments when all my dark face hair was gone.  I took electrolysis for about two years.  I still have about 3000 hairs left on my face as I even plucked the remaining ones a couple of times, but they are all white and easily shaved and when shaved I have no shadow at all.  So the electrolysis was worth it.  I share your issues with losing hair.  In a few weeks I will be starting hair therapy. 
    I also go to a therapist and the goal is currently to help my marriage while accepting that I am Transgender.  Have I not been trying to salvage a happy home relationship I am sure I would transition completely. 
    So I am hoping and thinking about you and your path - some things we share and others not - wishing you love and support along your way.  Dawn
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  9. Dawn13 added a comment on a blog entry How many times have you been mistaken as a girl   

    I have posted several photos of the look I achieved with my Dicks Sportswear - here is one of my favorite ones
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  10. Dawn13 added a blog entry in The Beauty Delima   

    Jenner and Beauty
    I Have been following all the Jenner news.  This has stirred some of my recent thinking.  What is the core of why we have our feelings and want so much to change.  I think there is a certain desire to see ourselves as beautiful.  Women express this better than almost all men.  When I put on a dress I feel changed.  When I see most other men I see most of them as lazy/unkempt, fat/heavy and scuzzy.  This is the excepted image of men.  I do not fit this image and I know I am stared at a lot by other men, usually in restrooms, who do not expect a beautiful looking man.  When I look beautiful (Handsome) day-to-day, I am often mistaken for a girl, even when in unisex or masculine clothing.  I usually do not go out of my way but I am well groomed, very tan, fit and now have longer styled blond hair.  I think some of why I wish I could change is rooted in the concept of beauty - and if men could also be beautiful in what is currently a woman's norm early in life - I think fewer would be unhappy with their body image and fewer would want to change.  Here is another thought.  I think is more acceptable to be changed completely into a woman than it is to dress and adorn ones self in a similar fashion.  Yes, I would love to wear a colorful attractive dress and show off my small waist and still not try to hide that I have a somewhat feminine looking male body.  However, I feel less anxiety when I go through the complete effort of hiding any maleness as I look completely like a woman.  Also, I actually feel safer in woman mode as I do not see myself as a homosexual; not wishing for men to lust for me in this fashion.
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  11. Dawn13 added a comment on a blog entry Is There A Place For Short-Term Relationships?   

    My mail box is full - will try to empty it tomorrow.  Dawn
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  12. Dawn13 added a comment on a blog entry Is There A Place For Short-Term Relationships?   

    Monica,  Bonnie has some good points.  You must follow the course of your heart.  I am a moral person but I also understand that I am transgender, finally not lying to myself anymore.  The love I share with my wife is real and is unconditional.  Do we agree on everything = no.  When we married she did not know I was transgender but we have worked it out.  I am as close to being female as I dare to be and still keep family and friends.  A compromise - yes.  If I had known what I now know about myself I would likely be female today; would have transitioned as a youth.  More soon  - have to go again  -- Dawn
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  13. Dawn13 added a comment on a blog entry Is There A Place For Short-Term Relationships?   

    Quick note to Bonnie - will try to meet you in SL - Do you have a blog I can go to?  Dawn
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  14. Dawn13 added a comment on a blog entry Is There A Place For Short-Term Relationships?   

    Finally I have some time to respond.  I really do believe in the friendship and companionship aspect of life.  This means a kiss and hug, a laugh together, some shared memories.  A true friend is forever - my wife - and I have been together for 40 years and we are firstly just friends.  I have almost 100 other friends I have strong ties to.  I kind of collect my friendships.  Some know of my transgender leanings others do not.
    About shorter relationships these all need to be friendships to succeed. The first aspect of being a friend is acceptance and realistic expectations.  One does not try to make a friend someone they are not.  If you have quirkiness that is you, who you are, this is usually the last thing a friend considerers - this may be something you joke about and actually could draw you closer, as all of us who are real have our quirks.  I hope this helps.  I know you through your writings to be a wonderful person well deserving of many good comments and relationships.  Best to you.    Dawn 
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  15. Dawn13 added a comment on a blog entry Is There A Place For Short-Term Relationships?   

    Companionship a issue - the need to share one's life  ... Thanks Monica for asking me to respond - As it is late I will sleep on this and definitely share my thoughts with you tomorrow.  I think you are a wonderful person deserving of love and compassion.  The other things you mention; the you of you, these are factors of relationships but are not the drivers.  See you tomorrow.  Best to you - Dawn
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  16. Dawn13 added a post in a topic Apologies for the Interruption   

    Mike - Thanks for working this. The photos I can now load I am sure are lower quality because of my having to lower the resolution.  Still I am able to post.  Thanks again  - Dawn
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  17. Dawn13 added a post in a topic Dress size???   

    Some thought about your great question - I guess I am very fortunate; if I am unisex dressed; ponytail, earrings, unisex glasses and jeans/shirts and start looking in the women's section in the store I am usually coded as a woman.  It is my own nerves and my voice that can give me away but not even that seems to make a big difference.  (Stats - I am 5'7.5" currently 158.  When I am at my optimum diet weight, lowest 138 - Funny I am between a size 8 to 10 women's dress). 
    One time I was shopping and I actually had some women's sports items I was carrying that I was considering and the store clerk asked me if I needed to try them on and without pause led me to one of the women's dressing rooms.  Interesting is I have had this occur several times.  The plus is, often I will enter a dressing room full of discarded items and if they are my size I try all of them on.
    A lot of times I will scope out an item in a store and then buy it on line.  I have had to return a couple of items; tops/skirts, and I have never had a problem. I don't even hide my male name and I am quite sure most of the sales staff knows I am a feminine male.  My favorite dresses are ones I have bought through e-Bay.
    Does this give you another answer to your question?  Below is my favorite dress - size 8 - an eBay purchase.  "Proof in pudding."
    Best to you - Dawn

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  18. Dawn13 added a post in a topic Apologies for the Interruption   

    Here we go - the photo size limit appears to be close to 375kbs - Photos of 400kbs or more will not load - Photos below 300kbs load - in-between appears to vary based on aspects of Width to Height pitzels.  250kb example below

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  19. Dawn13 added a post in a topic Apologies for the Interruption   

    Hello Mike,
    I got it, posted my first photo in a while.  It is/was/appears to be a file size limit.  Still not sure what the exact size is but I do know that less than 100kb or less than 300x300 pixels will load.  Maybe the error should be designed to show this limitation.  (Not sure how to make the error show that way)  This is probably a limit set in the input parameters for the new software running the website.  Anyway, I should be able to post again but I will have to go through additional steps to decrease the size of my photo files.   Dawn
    The below photo is only 63kb

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  20. Dawn13 added a comment on a blog entry How many times have you been mistaken as a girl   

    One of my new bras now that I have something to cover and support.
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  21. Dawn13 added a post in a topic Apologies for the Interruption   

    Mike - I too am using Windows 7, Other aspects = Broadband; Spectrum (Old Time Warner), Norton 360 and firewall connected to it - Dawn
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  22. Dawn13 added a post in a topic Apologies for the Interruption   

    I just tried a smaller photo - 500KB.  This was a resubmit of one that I already posted.  The new copy did not make it - Same error 500 - so it does not appear to be size related.  Firewall??  permissions?? Operating system?? I have tried to post using my tablet and my desktop - both produce errors. --- Internet provider??   Dawn
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  23. Dawn13 added a post in a topic Apologies for the Interruption   

    It might be a limit on the photo size - I just changed my cover photo - required a 700kb or less photo size.  All of the photos I have been trying to load are about 2mb.  Do you know what the photo size limit in kbs is?  Thanks Dawn
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  24. Dawn13 added a post in a topic Apologies for the Interruption   

    Thanks Michael - It started with the upgrade -  I actually had a couple of photos successfully posted and they disappeared from the Group Photos - for all I know this is where the software corruption started.  I have some new photos to post but am waiting until we think it is fixed.  Best to you - Dawn
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  25. Dawn13 added a post in a topic Apologies for the Interruption   

    Any word - I do not think I can solve on my end.  Thanks  - Dawn
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