Monica, Bonnie has some good points. You must follow the course of your heart. I am a moral person but I also understand that I am transgender, finally not lying to myself anymore. The love I share with my wife is real and is unconditional. Do we agree on everything = no. When we married she did not know I was transgender but we have worked it out. I am as close to being female as I dare to be and still keep family and friends. A compromise - yes. If I had known what I now know about myself I would likely be female today; would have transitioned as a youth. More soon - have to go again -- Dawn
Finally I have some time to respond. I really do believe in the friendship and companionship aspect of life. This means a kiss and hug, a laugh together, some shared memories. A true friend is forever - my wife - and I have been together for 40 years and we are firstly just friends. I have almost 100 other friends I have strong ties to. I kind of collect my friendships. Some know of my transgender leanings others do not. About shorter relationships these all need to be friendships to succeed. The first aspect of being a friend is acceptance and realistic expectations. One does not try to make a friend someone they are not. If you have quirkiness that is you, who you are, this is usually the last thing a friend considerers - this may be something you joke about and actually could draw you closer, as all of us who are real have our quirks. I hope this helps. I know you through your writings to be a wonderful person well deserving of many good comments and relationships. Best to you. Dawn
Companionship a issue - the need to share one's life ... Thanks Monica for asking me to respond - As it is late I will sleep on this and definitely share my thoughts with you tomorrow. I think you are a wonderful person deserving of love and compassion. The other things you mention; the you of you, these are factors of relationships but are not the drivers. See you tomorrow. Best to you - Dawn
Some thought about your great question - I guess I am very fortunate; if I am unisex dressed; ponytail, earrings, unisex glasses and jeans/shirts and start looking in the women's section in the store I am usually coded as a woman. It is my own nerves and my voice that can give me away but not even that seems to make a big difference. (Stats - I am 5'7.5" currently 158. When I am at my optimum diet weight, lowest 138 - Funny I am between a size 8 to 10 women's dress). One time I was shopping and I actually had some women's sports items I was carrying that I was considering and the store clerk asked me if I needed to try them on and without pause led me to one of the women's dressing rooms. Interesting is I have had this occur several times. The plus is, often I will enter a dressing room full of discarded items and if they are my size I try all of them on. A lot of times I will scope out an item in a store and then buy it on line. I have had to return a couple of items; tops/skirts, and I have never had a problem. I don't even hide my male name and I am quite sure most of the sales staff knows I am a feminine male. My favorite dresses are ones I have bought through e-Bay. Does this give you another answer to your question? Below is my favorite dress - size 8 - an eBay purchase. "Proof in pudding." Best to you - Dawn
Here we go - the photo size limit appears to be close to 375kbs - Photos of 400kbs or more will not load - Photos below 300kbs load - in-between appears to vary based on aspects of Width to Height pitzels. 250kb example below
I got it, posted my first photo in a while. It is/was/appears to be a file size limit. Still not sure what the exact size is but I do know that less than 100kb or less than 300x300 pixels will load. Maybe the error should be designed to show this limitation. (Not sure how to make the error show that way) This is probably a limit set in the input parameters for the new software running the website. Anyway, I should be able to post again but I will have to go through additional steps to decrease the size of my photo files. Dawn The below photo is only 63kb
Last week I was called Mam four times. Even had one restaurant employee say " Welcome ladies - how are you doing" as I entered his restaurant. I have given up correcting people, actually kind of like how it makes me feel. A month ago in boy mode I was at a sports expo and had stopped at a booth selling shoe inserts. The shop/booth owner was busy and asked one of his workers to "please help this woman" I could not believe myself - how feminine I must have looked to him. (Really was not trying) Yesterday, I had two women runners make commits on my shaved legs "how are they were so perfect" and "perfect looking legs"
Have any of you all had these kind of comments - even when in boy mode?
I just tried a smaller photo - 500KB. This was a resubmit of one that I already posted. The new copy did not make it - Same error 500 - so it does not appear to be size related. Firewall?? permissions?? Operating system?? I have tried to post using my tablet and my desktop - both produce errors. --- Internet provider?? Dawn
Michael, It might be a limit on the photo size - I just changed my cover photo - required a 700kb or less photo size. All of the photos I have been trying to load are about 2mb. Do you know what the photo size limit in kbs is? Thanks Dawn
Thanks Michael - It started with the upgrade - I actually had a couple of photos successfully posted and they disappeared from the Group Photos - for all I know this is where the software corruption started. I have some new photos to post but am waiting until we think it is fixed. Best to you - Dawn
Two different solution sets below (Word Press and PrestaShop)- I think the problem is a memory setting (Parameters) issue. "Many times the server limit is 30 seconds, which is not long enough to run these scripts." This is why I think it works for some and not for others. Dawn Word Press Common Solutions for the 500 Internal Server Error The two most common causes of this error are a corrupted .htaccess file and exceeding your server’s PHP memory limit. The .htaccess file in your WordPress directory can become corrupted after you install a plugin or make another change to your WordPress site. The fix is simple. All you need to do is create a new .htaccess file. PHP memory limit issues often occur as the result of a poorly-coded plugin running on your site or a site that’s grown considerably over time and is using too many plugins. You’ll begin to exceed the PHP memory limits set by your hosting provider once either of these things happen. The result is a 500 internal server error. We’re going to learn how to create a new .htaccess to get rid of the corrupted one as well as how to test whether or not you’re exceeding your PHP memory limits. PrestaShop We’ve all seen it. As common as it is infamous, the dreaded HTTP 500-Internal Server Error ... How to recognize the Error 500 First, we need to go over the different ways you might see this error message on your computer. There are different forms of this message because each host/server is allowed to customize the way it’s displayed. Here are some common ways you might see this error. “500 Internal Server Error” “HTTP 500 – Internal Server Error” “Internal Server Error” “HTTP 500 Internal Error” “500 Error” “HTTP Error 500″ Most times you will see this message accompanied by various forms of this classic ambiguous line “The server encountered an unexpected condition that prevented it from fulfilling the request by the client” It’s important to note that this error can be shown on any browser and any operating system (sorry, but switching to the new Mac Pro will not solve this problem) Here is a screenshot of one of the ways this error might be displayed on your browser.
What is the 500 Error? Put simply, the 500 error is the Web servers way of saying “Something went wrong but I can’t tell you what, sorry.” This is what we call a “server-side” error. That means that there is something wrong with the server who is hosting the website. It is an extremely general error usually caused by configuration issues with the websites programming, PHP or system permissions. How Can I Troubleshoot? Don’t fret; although this error message is absurdly vague, you still have ways to find more information. Web servers are almost always configured to hide specific error messages. .... For PrestaShop v1.4 through v1.5.2 ... (One system) ... Investigating the Error Once you have the additional information, there are some standard ways to further investigate the error. First, let’s go over some the most common ways this problem is caused. Once we find the cause of this error, it is much easier to solve. Permissions: Many times you will find that the permission setting on one of your folders is set incorrectly. It could be a simple fix as switching a file/folder permission from 777 to 755 or vice versa. In most cases permission sets of 777 are extremely unsafe and can allow even an amateur hacker to access your files and put malicious code in it. Make sure to check with your hosting provider for specific information about permissions set as some servers have different regulations. Incorrectly configured .htaccess: Oftentimes you will receive an internal server error when the htaccess file is configured incorrectly. For PrestaShop purposes, the main culprits of the htaccess errors are “URL Rewrite” settings or Friendly URL enabling. The htaccess syntax is very strict so even one wrong character or command will cause the server to return an Internal Error 500. Make a backup of your htaccess and regenerate the htaccess file either through the back office or by toggling the Enable Friendly URL option. Server timeout: Every server has their own timeout setting, which sets the time that any given script can run. If the function or script crosses that limit, you will receive an error 500. The most common scripts in PrestaShop that can take too long to load are CSV Imports, backups, translation loading, import/exports and thumbnail regeneration. Many times the server limit is 30 seconds, which is not long enough to run these scripts. You should contact your hosting provider and inquire about changing the limit, at least temporarily. ... UPDATED 3/31/2016: We hope this article helps you address your issue. For answers to individual questions, you can post your question for free on our forum (www.prestashop.com/forums/) or contact us (www.prestashop.com/en/contact-us) and a representative will contact you with details on how you can get the help you need.
When trying to load a photo I get this error _______________________________________________________________________________ The website cannot display the page HTTP 500 Most likely causes: The website is under maintenance.The website has a programming error. What you can try: Refresh the page.Refresh the page. Go back to the previous page.Go back to the previous page. More information <ID id="moreInformation">More information</ID>This error (HTTP 500 Internal Server Error) means that the website you are visiting had a server problem which prevented the webpage from displaying. For more information about HTTP errors, see Help.
Hello Emma - Thanks - You too are a delightful person. I keep wanting to meet everyone as we are all in this life journey together. (Not practical but we do have a lot to share) Emma - You are treasured, yes, and of course loved. Dawn
Another delightful thread. About Halloween and costumes, I have had the opportunity to wear several costumes lately, Green Lantern, Superman (Pink for Cancer Version), an elf and Avatar and of course as a woman(But not lately). In the last three years, I have been able to go to almost a dozen parties and face paint the kids. (I usually wear a costume/s) Besides doing the kids I usually face paint myself and paint additional examples of my work on my own arm. Rainbows, butterfly's, stars, animals and super heroes. I love to do this. It is my feminine arty nature coming out. I have now been requested at various fairs and I ask for donations. I give the money to children's programs. I too am in my 60's - still enjoying life, stretching myself and taking risks. About the first thoughts - To me being Transgender doesn't have to mean being female rather it means being closer to the attributes that are labeled as female. I now feel that my condition, who I am, is not a learned thing but rather in-bedded in my DNA. I have always been an explorer; this is my nature. Also, I visualize colors, experience touch sensations and sense sounds in a way that I believe is a female frame of mind. I remember when I found myself putting on my first feminine outfit at about six or seven years. It was a yellow sun suit with green flower embroidery on it. This along with my longer hair made me look like a girl. That was an image etched in my mind. I wore the sun suit and I wanted to show the world it was me inside it, wearing it. It was the little person, girl, me, and it was there before I ever put the item of clothing on. So the article of clothing/adornment brought out my nature and it was what is considered feminine. As I grew up took me forever to mature - most of my life my maleness consisted of being a Pixie or a Peter Pan. I also often masked some of my feelings about wanting a female body by being a clown. The clown gets to wear almost anything and can make people laugh. As a male I did not laugh. The closest I ever felt to being a male was in my Indian heritage. Wearing minimal clothing and being highly adorned. As a kid, I always felt more at home in my own skin when I was wearing feminine styled clothing. Going against the norm (Accepted by most) I am more female than most males. I have been hit on a lot - most want me because of some homosexual attraction. I am not homo. I too hate most of the base male characteristics. Dirty, unkempt, Cursing, corralling. So I am closer to female, but not female, transgender. Have a great day! Dawn
My recent gender bender. Went to my hair stylist a couple of weeks ago wearing all women's wear including a bra. (My stylist also does my pedicures and waxes my eyebrows) She told me my hair was now finally long and was longer than most of her women customers as women currently coming to her are now getting shorter cuts. About her she has always been a tall muscular woman. Much heaver than me. She commented that it looked like I had 'lost weight" and that she liked my turquois "earrings" I said I did not think so since I had seen her last. Then I started to think she could see my bra straps or that she knew I was transgender. After she draped me in pink we got into a discussion of fitness and she told me she had increased her weight lifting to as much as two hours a day. She asked me to feel her bicep and I did and it was both large and hard. I said you can "feel mine" and she did. 'Soft' was her comment. Then she said it was "OK" and that she was going to make me beautiful and she did. She gave me a very nice feminine haircut; matching my outfit. When I saw my image when she was done I actually felt I was passable as a woman leaving her salon. The attached photo was taken after the visit; me in a dress. Dawn
Hello Dawn - Looking at your first posts I have a similar experience - still not totally the same - but similar. My therapist also told me she has me categorized as transgender, I am one of two, that I know she councils. Because of this she had told me it is OK to wear women's clothing that is more gender neutral to what I feel. Also, I do wear a bra occasionally as I do have some natural breast. (Size B ) I would love to have a bra fit but Have not done this. As you also talk about, I know my transgender part is inside me not just a sin I cannot control but actually part of who I am. I will post more and look more at your blog when I have time. Dawn (13)
Right now I am in a green rebook sports bra top with matching shorts with a built in panty liner. Call this my fitness day. Older photo showing the same shorts with a similar top attached. I wore this outfit running after I took the photo. No additional padding, just my own new breast development. just the other day an old guy friend that I had not seen in over a year mentioned he saw a big change in my body; he said it looked like my shoulder muscles and arms were now small and he almost did not recognize me in my unisex clothing. He had remembered me with broad shoulders from working out. Then he said it must be an age thing. I actually like my body more now. I am a size 8 junior and I love the fit of junior clothing on my body. Dawn