Trying to get answers from a loved one.

Well my Ex and I have been talking lately. We are not officially divorced yet since she won't sign the papers. However we have been getting along wonderfully and helping each other out lately a lot. But here is the kicker. I asked her yesterday how she felt about us. I got no response at all. I asked her you say you love me but can you love me the way I am or is it you love me the way I was? Can you love the real me? The true me? No response at all again? She dropped out son off the other day and it took her an hour to realize I removed my body hair. My legs arms chest all smooth. And once she did she said that's weird. Well I told her I am tired of looking like I do. And breaking out all the time from ingrown hairs. I feel so much better like this. She ignored everything I said. It's hard when you still care for someone even after how crappy they treated you and still do at times.