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Last weekend I visited my mom for four days in Ohio. I have been trying to visit her at least once a month or every other month since my father passed away. It had been over two months since my last visit, so it was somewhat overdue.

During my last visit, I told her that I thought that I would need to transition. This last visit I told her that I am planning on taking hormones soon and hair removal. She was a little surprised, accepting but trying to understand why I was doing this. One of her first questions was, "are you sure that you really want to do this?" and "have you thought this through?". I told her that I've been thinking about it for my entire life. The other question she asked was "why now?". I told her that I've been coping with this since I was 4 years old, but a lot of the techniques that I use to cope are not working any more or not working well. She also asked me if it was possible that this has something to do with my dad dying, and I told her that it was possible, though I didn't start having a crisis until about 6 months after he passed away.

Anyways, it was a good visit. She and my sister both support me. That helps so much! I still need to discuss this with my wife though. I really have not had a chance to talk since I returned home. I hope that I will get a chance today or tomorrow.

I think that I am going to schedule my appointment this Monday for the endocrinologist and to start the laser removal. My therapist will send a letter to recommend me for hormones. I am fair skinned, have mostly black hair, so I should do okay. I'll have to get electrolysis to remove the remaining white hairs. I am hopeful that insurance will pay for the endo appointment and the blood tests.

I hope that everyone has had a good week.

Love,

Lisa

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KarenPayne

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I am so happy that your mother and sister are supportive to the beginnings of the life you are on a journey too. It is so much better having core support when travelling down this path.

Best wishes on your wife being supportive.

I agree with Karen on all counts. Especially with best wishes on your wife providing support. I don't recall how much you have already told her; I assume this won't be a total surprise. The advice I hear over and over again is to be patient and kind with her. Show her that you are the one she fell in love with regardless of your gender, and that as you start your transition you are even more calm, supportive, and interested in what's going on for her than you were before. After all, you've been aware of your gender issues for a very long time and you need to give her time to catch up.

Hugs,

Emma

Dear Lisa,

Rejoice when I see a woman take such good care of her mother, and stays in touch with her sister.

Have three brothers and a half brother. Have no sisters. Have no children.

Wonder how my life could have been different have I had children or a sister. Of course, it could be heartbreaking.

They will be losing a son and a brother, but gaining a daughter and a sister!

May God bless your family!

Your friend,

Monica

eveannessant

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Bon Voyage!

It's both difficult at times, and so rewarding and amazing at other times.

Hope all goes well for you,

Cheers,

Eve

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