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A testing day out

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I have recently purchased some new outdoors / country boots, because they are so much more stylish than my old walking boots which although are pretty unisex looking were none-the-less bloke boots - ughh. So these new boots are Dublin River Boots, they're almost knee length to within an inch (25mm aprx), they were advertised as waterproof and breathable with other desireable qualities too, I think they were originally for horse riding but are also advertised as leisure / country boots. So Sunday's forecast was for heavy downpours of rain, what an ideal day to test out my new boots!

So with my friend Sharon, we set off for the small and picturesque town of Bewdley on the River Severn which is about 25 miles west of where I live. I parked my car in the station carpark and walked off north along the East bank of the river which parallels the preserved steam railway. the begining of the walk is along a delightful country lanewhich after a mile and a half or so finishes and becomes a narrow footpath. Now one of the reasons for buying the new boots was because they'd be so much better than ankle boots in tall wet grass, so i soon had an opportunity to try them out in such grass near a couple of reservoirs, they were great and totally waterproof. Continuing our walk under the railway / river bridge we were in very muddy conditions and brown puddles - no worries for my boots. We reached Arley which is the next riverside village north from Bewdley soaked through, our outdoors coats were found very wanting! so we looked like a couple of drowned rats. We had decided to cross the pedestrian only bridge & pop into the pub on the opposite bank for a pint or so of cider, it was truly delicious (Thatchers Gold from Somerset), I gave up trying to dry my hair with the hand dryer in the toilets, and sat with hair dripping whilst drinking my pint. We had decided to catch the train back to Bewdley so we set off for Arley Station a hundred yards or so uphill from the pub. If the walk took nearly 2 hours, the train journey seemed ro take only 5-6 minutes. 

Before transitioning I used to go to this railway a lot, because Steam engines have been an interest to me since childhood, and I don't see why my transitioning should alter that, I'm highly unlikely to start liking dolls houses etc. Anyway I always used to visit the 2nd hand bookstall on the station that specialises with railway books, and the old guy that runs it used to recognise me. I was always sort of wary about marching in as Eve, but I thought that I'd had such a bvrilliant day so far, this was really the last test for me to go in search for a suitable book, and pay the old guy for it. He had seen me at a local pub in December when I first became full-time Eve and had stared at me making me feel very uncomfortable, so this was a last test of my self confidence, I just had to do it or otherwise I'd never be truly Eve. Well I did it just marched in nonchalently found a book, walked up to the counter stared him straight in the face and he served me politely, charging only £2 for a book marked at £4, I didn't really give him a chance to make me fell anything other than a customer. When we got to the car sharon said that he did look at me with a puzzled face when I walked past the counter, you know what I couldn't care less whatever or whoever he thinks I am, & yes I will return to buy more books in the future, I know now that there isn't anywhere much that I wouldn't go to.

We both felt pleased with our walk along the picturesque river and beautiful countryside, the poor weather just added to a sense of adventure, I was in awe of my boots and the bookshop was like the cherry on top of the cake.........Eve can do whatever Steve used to do!

Cheers,

Eve

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Dear Eve,

Your boots look very cute, and do not look like the English riding boots you refer to.

My nieces (in their 30's) absolutely love their English riding boots, and find them fashionable, even though they have no interest in riding!

Think it is great when ladies go out and enjoy the outdoors, even when it is raining!

Your friend,

Monica

Chrissy

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Eve,

It's so nice to pass another "test"! I feel like i'm still hitting then on a daily basis - today it was a shopping mall near me.

Every day going out as authentic me still feels hard, but every day also seems to have new rewards for doing just that :)

xoxo

Christie

eveannessant

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Monica, The boots are made in Ireland, they're very fashionable over here, I think you must have assumed english riding boots because of my nationality LoL, I don't do horse riding either, but I do love the Northern European outdoors and countryside.

Christie, Well actually the pub that we went into was a first too, Eve hadn't been in a country pub before, but I hadn't even realised it at the time, I was just being myself, doing what I'd have done pre-transition, I didn't get treated any differently than a cis woman so it was fine, I 'spose i passed, but I didn't think about it at the time.

What can I say about being authentic, just relax, be yourself and you'll present as being your true self, oh and it get's easier day after day. I find on the rare occassions that people read me they just don't know what tro do or say, they just seem to freeze, which is why they stare, they mostly don't seem to do it intentionally. I think my next test is to stop staring back as this probably seems hostile, and to walk over to them and say something like "Yes I'm transgendered, hello, and don't be afraid to ask in a freindly manner, but please, most transgender people do hate being stared at". I hope I can remember all that for when I need it! :wub:

Cheers,

Eve

 

Steph53

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Hiyya Eve. Firstly, Lovely Photograph's, of You, and You with Sharon.  ( Two Lovely Ladies, enjoying a Day Out ! ) Nice Boots, as Well. Eve, I Love Steam Trains. I don't know if You have ever been to the Buckinghamshire Railway Centre, at Quainton, or The Chinnor and Princes Risborough Railway.  ( I have Not been on the Chinnor Line, Yet ! ).  Going Out Does get easier. I saw an Old Friend, on Saturday, called Matt. It was the first time I had seen him to really speak with, since Coming-Out as TS. He was completely cool about it, and told Me that He will support Me as well. I was very Happy with that. Long Tall Sally is a Brilliant Ladies Fashion and Footwear Shop. Have a Look on-line. That is where I get My Shoes from Now !  I Am Glad You enjoyed Your Walk and Steam Train Journey. I Hope to see Annette Later this Morning, if Not, I will try and see Her Tomorrow. ( Will tell Her You send Her and Miranda A Big Hello ! ) Eve, Take Care, Have a Good Day. Best Wishes, Steph. xoxo

 

eveannessant

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Perhaps I'll open my eyes the next time I take a selfie!

KarenPayne

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Lots of people don't open their eyes when taking pictures, I was one a while back but learned to open my eyes, the smile came naturally where it did not in the past because I was a misplaced girl in a boys body.

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