How i went about coming out to my school
So wanting to dress, walk, talk and live the way you want to around your peers and younger students may be very daunting. i know it has it downs, but the reward is so worth it
cheesy quote 'this journey is a climb, but the views great' yes half quote taken from my girl Hannah Montannah (miley cyrus)
One day i woke up and decided, i want to glam before going to school, that i want to wear a school summer dress and hang out with all the girls and be 'one of the girls'. i wanted to take how i felt on the inside and how i live secretly and put that on display.
the next day i went to my school councilor and told her. before i did that tho i made a new facebook account, uploaded a photo with how i look with my clothes and wig on and made a status basically "cooming out". i had no idea what the reaction would be like. I have never felt till that day the overwhelming love and support. by the end of the night i had tones of people inboxing me telling me how proud they were, people i hadn't even spoken to before. it made me feel beautiful and really loved by my community and accepted. I defiantly couldn't of done it withoight there support. the most nicest inbox is that i got a inbox of a video of 2 girls just telling me how much they love me, these 2 girls i have never seen before (shoutout if you girls are reading this) that inbox really stands out even to this day.
So like i said the next day i went to my councillor and just told her and told her what i wanted to do and how i wanted to go about it. I had fear of big rejection and quite frankly i thought that the school would just say no to me. She said to let her address the principle team and see what they think and how she should go about it. To my surprise they were more then supportive, they were even excited for me to do it. They were proud for to have a transgender student in there school, they were so excited for this to happen they gave me the female uniform for free!!!!
After telling the principle team (meanwhile word of mouth spread throughout the school to the students so students already knew) it was time to tell the ENTIRE faculty. I did not have to say yes to this, i could just have my own teachers told but i decided then and there that i wanted to make it as public as possible as if i couldn't be confident in who i was and show how happy i was then how could others. Teachers support really is one key thing to take into consideration. I still remember the day we told them. They held a compulsory staff briefing, and after the principle told them i was given the opportunity to go in and say hello and talk to them. Again i did not have to do this, i tho said i wanted to be involved as much as possible. My english teacher came out to me and just gave me the biggest hug and said how proud she was, then she said 'you don't have to do this, there are a lot of people in there and you don't have to do this if you don't want to', with her i went in and was introduced as blair. I was overwhelmed with a applause from every single one and hugs from all my teachers. I FELT LIKE A STAR!!! i remember walking out thinking that i had won a golden globe or something.
we then set a date for me to come in full female uniform. before then i allowed even the councillor and school nurse to go around to the school to tell everyone about my personal life and the whole transgender thing, i was even going to go in as well but unfortunately i was sick.
Not to say i haven't had a few slight bad comments from my peers. However i can not stress how much support i have and how beautiful and accepted because of this. I can honestly say i have never had so many friends in my life because of this. each day im surrounded by loads of people that love and support me and just want to get to know the true me.
now if this blog update doesn't make you feel confident to come out to your school and give you the security that things will go okay then what will? please feel free to message me!!!! I am incredibly blessed with my transition and am a prime example of it going very well, so i think people going through the same thing could learn a lot and be helped by me.
Anyways, should wrap this up now.
Thanks so much for whoever has read this xxxxxxxxxxx.
p.s sorry for the spelling
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